Well, since I cannot get over this feeling, I thought it best to get it off my chest.
I would like to politely request that when anyone is addressing me or a post that I have participated politely in a discussion in, that they kindly not use the expression, "Get over it and move on". I find this expression extremely offensive and impolite. I would not use it to address you because to me it means, "Shut up and get a life". I find that rude, not the way I was raised or how I have raised my children and not a good example to others. You may not agree but please respect my request that you refrain from using this expression in reference to me. Because that is the way it makes me feel and feelings are neither right or wrong.
In the last couple of weeks, I have seen people being called in a roundabout way, "Poopheads" and worse. I have seen people called on the carpet and basically accused of falsely presenting their credentials.
I do not know where this attitude is coming from or why it is being allowed to continue. People can act like adults and discuss things without someone seeing any and every discussion as an argument that should be cut off. And perhaps you do not realize it, but calling someone's feelings silly, is really condescending.
There is a polite way to conduct yourself when you have a difference of opinion, perhaps we need to put together a tutorial for this subject.
This world would be a boring place if we always agreed about everything, but it would be a much nicer place if we disagreed in a manner that shows that we respect other people's right to have a different opinion and proceeded in voicing our opinions with respect and dignity. And should we be caught up in the heat of the moment or have a bad day, we could follow up any disrespectful comments with an apology.
If you do not like the topic of conversation, then perhaps the thing to do is to say so and leave that thread. There is no need to chastise people for discussing something you are not interested in.
I have felt very uncomfortable on this site recently. I am sure I am not alone in my feelings.
Hugs Squirrelly Cakes

SquirrellyCakes I am still a newbie and be here on the site when I can ..but I have seen the same thing and I totally agree with you.. & as my goofball of a hubby would say to me "Girl I got your back"..
Lisa

Hear! Hear! Squirrelly!

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!SC I could not have said it better myself. I hope me calling you SC does not offend you though.

I totally agree...

Very nicely said. Hats off to you squirrley.[/b]

I am kinda new. I view more than I post because I am a newbie. I am so sad that you would even have to say anything like you did but you did it well.

This site has really helped me alot and inspired me to be more adventurous and to give myself some credit. I can do good work. I am not a pro either.

well said squirelly cakes..I for one am brand new here..and only just started posting but was shocked to read some of the less flattering things that have been said. Seems in a forum of this nature it is also easy for things to get blown way out of control with so many people so think it would be so much nicer if people could simply agree to disagree rather than resort to name calling and such. I mean seriously- 5 pages of debate about duplicating cakes? The whole thing seemed to have started with regards to one paticular cake and has snowballed...Seems if the 2 people that were involved had spoken privately or things had been phrased differently then the name calling wouldn't have been an issue..
I prefer to think that with a theme like halloween you are going to see variations of cakes but also many similar items just because of the type of contest it is...Even on food network..there were several similar themed cakes..several cakes with pumpkins etc..it's what the artist did with them that seperated them to make them unique.
In this contest here..if you feel someone was wronged because their idea was outright stolen then wouldn't the simple solution be to not vote for that one? why turn it into an ugly situation where not only people are bashed for their feelings on the subject but also new people may feel intimidated to enter or post for fear of being accused of something

Not trying to start a new debate here and please..lets not go there again..Just hope that everyone can take a second and try to remember that words can hurt and before firing off a remark of comment to consider if it will be hurtful to the other people reading it

I agree. I spend less time on here than I used to just because many of the threads seem to go downhill with someone being upset about something or other.

I would hope people would treat each other on this site the same way they would treat someone in person. I certainly hope that people would be more polite and tactful in person.

Cindy

Oh MY I think I missed the whold debate thing, but I really enjoy logging on CC(Honestly I'm addicted). I agree with Squirelly cakes and Cutecookie. I would hate for something like this to happen again and we lose some of our members. I learn from everyone on here, so let's be respectful to others! You might not think something you said is disrespectful, but let's not forget everyone is different, so PLEASE let's be respectful! We're all Cake addicts(Well, I admit that I am) or just enjoy cakes, so like the ole' Martin tv sitcom "Can we all just get along"?

This was the same exact topic in a PM I sent recently. You took a lot of words right out of my mouth and it makes me feel better about my own feelings on this. Thanks for having the courage to post this publicly. It seems as if some don't distinguish between a discussion and an argument. If a member has a concern or a suggestion, they should be able to voice it without being criticized. I was thinking that maybe they just didn't read through all the posts to get the feel for what was being discussed...some leap before looking.

This post is now locked.

Thank you everyone for keeping CC such a wonderful and posative place

I am locking this topic, because it could easily get out of hand, and distract from the actual cake decorating topics. So I thought it would be good to let some time pass and allow the other CC members to respond, and I feel its appropriate to discontinue this particular discussion, leaving it on a positive note.