You Wouldnt Believe It!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Decorating By yummymummycakes Updated 7 Feb 2007 , 6:56pm by mkolmar
You wouldnt believe it......................
The my 'best friend' asks me, as a favor could I organize her 40th birthday party along with a surprise wedding renewal, not a problem, it will be the last event I do before I go back to school.
Then, as I do cake decorating, could I make the cakes? Cakes?? yes, she would like a birthday cake and a wedding cake. OK........ I can do that, wont be that big a deal.
Then because, as the saying goes, if you want something done, ask a busy woman............ she roped me into making a couple of basic dresses........then it became a bridesmaids dress and.......(insert drum roll) a WEDDING DRESS!!!!!
Ok, I'm good, so the deal becomes you help by looking after DS 2 and DD 5 months while I sew and make cakes.
But then, she goes away on holidays for a MONTH!!!!! without deciding what designs she would like. DS gets sick over christmas so not much gets done, she then comes back from holidays and then decides the colours and style of everything. the word 'Basic' goes completely out the window.
So I finally get a start on it all......... she never comes over now unless it is to get a dress fitting done (by the way did I mention, just for another challange she put on 15kg over xmas ) I just feel that she has gone back on everything that she said she would do to help me and quite frankly I feel like she has taken advantage of my good nature.
So here am doing it all by myself..... sorry I tell a lie, my DS 2 is helping me. He is trying to feed the baby coco pops.
Then last Thursday my 1st ex husband had to have surgery done, ok I can deal with that........ (remember we get along very well)
I bring him home from hospital Thursday night, he is sick as a dog.
Friday he is no better and his wound is looking very red and hot, so off to the doctors we go.
Dr said he has a hematoma will check tomorrow.
Saturday back at the dr who said it was clearing and that the redness was being caused by bruising.
Go home again, Saturday night, he asks to be taken to hospital!! what the??? a guy asking to be taken to hospital????
So off we go, get to the hospital dr says, gee you have a lovely infection ..... so he is admitted overnight for IV antibiotics.
Fast forward 3 days, and now they are saying he wont be out until after the weekend, and there is a possibility of further surgery due to the infection and the blood clot.
Then just to top it all off: DD was at the drs (a different doctor) to find out that due to a diformaty with her gums she will have problems teething and may infact require surgery to get her teeth out
Which rotten p*%#k said, 'life never gives you anything more than you can handle'?
Because at the moment I would love to give all of this to him, so I can lay on the couch eating chocolate and drinking lots of white wine.
Fast forward to today, the 2 yr old and 5 month old both have stomach bugs so they are vomiting everywhere, I come into the kitchen and the damm dog has eaten the bottom 14" tier of fruit cake due to be delivered in two weeks!!!!!!!
What is a woman supposed to do?????
In all honesty I just havnt been able to stop laughing about the whole thing........ does that mean I have lost my mind
That is horrible. And when the kids start throwing up it makes the parents feel sick too because you keep thinking everytime you burp, "am I next?!!!". Is there anyone that you could get to help you, mother in law, etc. Also, I don't know you personally, but sounds like you took on a bit too much, even if everyone wasn't sick and in the hospital, taking care of two young kids is hard enough, then add a cake on it, that's alot, but then add all the other stuff...Unless you can handle all that, I'd be a crying puddle on the floor 
I have to comment on this one.
I am right up there with you when it comes to taking on too much. Some of the things that I have done for my friends would seem rediculous to most people.
Back when my first son was around one month old (you know how agreeable they are to everything.... not requiring much of your time at all 
), I had agreed to do a double wedding cake job for a friend. Then she asks me if I would be her maid of honor...... of COURSE! I say. Best part of this story was that I was so tired during this whole ordeal, that when it came time to walk to the altar (outside beach wedding)... I was so tired that I had forgotten to take my fuzzy slippers off--I made it from home with the cakes (I was already dressed)...set them up.... hung out a bit, then walked down the aisle with my fuzzy slippers. Didn't realize it until I was standing up there and my long black skirt flew back to reveal my purple and green fuzzy slippers. nice.
Anyhow.... I hope you find some peace. Maybe you could tell your friend that you need a little help and that you just can't do it all, as much as you'd like to. I have a 3 yo and a 2 yo right now, and I thought I would have more time to do cakes (being a SAHM).... but it's been the opposite.
I think people don't realize how hard things can be on a person when they ask for favors... not because they want to take advantage of you, but when someone like me says.... 'oh, don't worry about it' and 'it's no problem at all, I can do that for you' - then they don't feel so bad. Instead of saying... 'that's too much for me to handle right now... how about if I just do __________'.
Hope things get better for you & hope the kids get well soon!
Denise
girl you need to take a class on how to say "NO!" My gosh you took on way too much - God may not give you more than you can handle but I think you put way too much on yourself - you took on way too much even w/out all of the sicknesses. And who is this crazy friend??? She wants you to be the planner, dress maker, cake maker, heck does she want you to cater the entire thing too????? And DJ? Or maybe play an instrument??? Is she just incredibly cheap or just totally insane??? I don't even know of a professional business that you could go into that does all of those services all in one place....... except at Disneyworld....... and they ask a pretty penny for it all too! Please please please tell me you are getting paid and didn't agree to do all of this for free!!!
Please please please take a class or something on how to say "NO" or you'll end up getting yourself in another situation like this. It is OK to say NO to some things. Take a deep breath and say a prayer..... and good luck! If you can get any help from anyone at all - do it. OR tell her to come over and watch your sick kids so you can do stuff - or tell her she's got to hire another seamstress or something to finish the dresses and you jsut do the cake..... and maybe she needs to hire a wedding planner too - you just can't do it all. Good luck I wish you all the best!!! I hope everything works out okay and that everyone gets well soon!
Good Gracious! YIKES! I would definately enlist the help of the friend you are bestowing all these wonderful things on. She maybe had good intentions initially, but has stuck you with the work.
It brings to mind a book by Dr. Seuss....Horton Hatches an Egg. Have you ever read it? I can give you an idea, an elephant helps out a bird, through thick and thin, while the bird is partying in the sunshine, the elephant is hatching the egg!
Please remind her of who's party/wedding this is! You are a true friend, but you may also be getting taken advantage of here a bit. You have no control over sickness, but she certainly has control over HOLIDAY! Bad things happen when the CAREGIVERS crash! Your main priority is your family. Do what you can, leave the rest.
Peace and Grace to you and yours....Sarah
you are going to loose your mind soon just from lack of sleep or stress alone! You have to call this so call friend that thinks your time revolves around her and tell her NO to some things or all of them. She is not following through with the crazy agreement in the first place! I know that your normal home life is crazy right now with illness and you can't control or stop that----but you can control you being taken advantage of from this so called lady who is a "friend" Please for your own sake try to lighten your load the best you can. Your family needs you healthy and at the pace you are going you will soon run yourself into the ground.
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