I got a call this afternoon from the bride that our club donated the wedding cake to this weekend. She asked me what I did w/the extra cake (a full 10" , little less than half a 12", and half a sheet cake!!!). I told her I left it w/the coordinator b/c she said she was going to see you the next day (Sun). I told her I also left the flowers, candles, glasses, and serving set w/her.

She said she would call her and find out where the stuff was. So she called me back and said the woman TOOK the cake and gave it away TO HER CHURCH!! Not even the church that hosted the wedding or the church that hosted the reception (they had to have it at diff. locations). We put alot of time and money into those for the bride & groom to enjoy. Not some woman to take and give away!! And just left her box of decorations at the reception site!!

I tired calling this woman all day and she never answered her phone.

WHY!! WHY!!! Why would someone do that!! I specifically asked this woman before I left if she would take the cake and box of decorations to the bride. She said YES!! I explained I couldn't stay b/c I had to get home to my son...it was only 9:30 but my 15yr old babysitter had to be at work at 6AM. I'm so upset. The bride and groom only got to eat the piece of cake they cut b/c they were so busy and they wanted to share the extra cake w/those in the shelter! What was this woman thinking!! And just leaving the box of decorations at the reception hall!! Who knows what they did w/them. I'm going to call them tomorrow and find out if they have the box.

I guess I feel so awful b/c I left them. I should have just taken everything w/me. She didn't seem upset w/me but I still feel awful. I apologized and told her I would make her a small cake for her, her husband and son this weekend or ealry next week. It will just be a 6" cake w/no decorations, just BC icing.

I just don't understand why people do some of the things they do. Did she really think that was OK??!!

Thanks for listening!
Christine

I am so sorry this happened to you. I was frustrated with this woman as I was reading your post!!!! I think you did the right thing by offering to make a small cake for them. I would keep trying to get in touch with this woman and give her a piece of your mind...or at least find out what happened.
traci

Some people just need a swift kick in the rear...

I'm with you...I just do not understand some people. This is such an important day and that woman thinks the cake is hers to take? Shame on her! I hope you get a hold of her and give her heck!

((((HUGS))))

pinkbunny,

Some people are just so inconsiderate...I honestly think that they lay awake at night thinking up ways to be mean and cruel to others.

You and the others did a wonderful thing and then this had to happen to take the happiness away.

I think that you are great for making them another one.

Trully hoping that you can recover the decorations.

Wow, it takes a lot of nerve to take somebody else's cake (especially a wedding cake) and give it to whomever you choose! Couldn't that be called theft?

And then add just leaving all the decorations in a building like that, is totally careless. I think I'd be sure to let people know what kind of "coordinator" she is! Janice

Damn she aint even got no shame.... Stealing from the bride and groom and taking the stolen goods to church. I would call her up find out what happen from her then Give her a good piece of my mind. She deserves to pay for that cake that she took. It was NOT hers to give away. I dont know why some people do stuff like that.



Princess

It is really hard to understand her doing this especially if she was the wedding coordinator. I'd be for making public what she has done. Most couples don't get to eat any cake at the wedding as there is so much going on. I helped put on a wedding not long ago and had lots of cake left but they told me to give it away. I was really careful who I gave it to so I would get the seperator plates back. I'm sitting here trying to give this woman the benefit of the doubt, but finding it hard to do so. Hope the people of her church enjoyed the "loot". Do they live anywhere near Sherwood Forest?

Well I agree with all the other posts!!! Who in their right mind would assume or do such a thing!!! When you get ahold of this coordinator I would demand that she pay the Bride and Groom back a specific amount of money for taking the cake without authorization!! Stealing is exactly what she did and I would tell her you are going to alert the police if she doesn't pay the Bride and Groom some money back!!

People never cease to amaze me nowadays!!

Is she a legal coordinator? If so, I would report her to te better business bearuae (can't remember how to spell it). either way, you really need to get ahold of her. If she misunderstood, then she needs to be talked to sso she doesn't repeat the same mistake, but otherwise, she may have some seriously twisted thinking and bad motives for doing that . Someone needs to talk to her. If not you, then her pastor/priest, whatever.

OMG!! That is awefull!! Sounds to me like she owes that bride an apology! That is crazy I can't believe she just assumed the bride and groom did not want it! Did she ythink since it was donated the bride did not have any rights to it! That makes me mad!!!

If you know this womens name and address I would send a bill for the cake. Since she felt it was OK to steal the cake then she shouldnt mind paying for it. And tell her in those words. You can always send a note to the church explaining the situation. She should not be allowed to get away with this. Hey if you dont want to do it I will. I would also turn her in to the BBB. Maybe she will think next time she steals.

You have to wonder if she really gave it to the church! Maybe she just said that to get away with it! That's too bad. Some people have no shame.

Debbie

WOW!!!
I can't believe someone would have the nerve to do that...
Send her a bill for the cake she took...

Glad everyone else is as appalled by this as I am. I called a few girls from the club and they are going to pitch in...again...and give the bride, groom, and son a small cake. They are really great, I didn't ask them...just told them what happened and they said we should def. make them another cake...JUST FOR THEM!!! B/c like lionladydi they didn't get any of the cake that night!!

She also took the table decorations; the candles, flowers, toasting glasses, and serving set. I thought the bride said she just left them at the church reception hall. So I called them and they said they didn't have them and nothing was left behind. When I called the bride back to tell her they werent' there.....she said the cooridnator took them to HER church and left them.

But she isn't calling me or the bride back now!!! I asked if she new which church she went too b/c I would call them and ask about the cake and decorations, but said she didn't. And unfortunately, she isn't a 'legal' coordinator. She just volunteered to help out.

What I can't figure out is why someone would volunteer all this time and money into something and then just turn around and be so mean!! I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt (somehow she is really dense and just misunderstood)....but since she isn't calling me or the bride.....I think she was just being rotten!!

I just feel for the bride and groom.....after everything they've been through....to have someone steal your wedding cake and mementos!! Apprantely, she took some of their other decorations also.

Thanks for the support. I'll keep you posted...b/c I'm NOT letting this go!! She eventually call me back or get a restraining order!!

I HAD THIS VERY THING HAPPEN TO ME!

I am still pissed about it. I was married a year ago and we had this fabulous almond buttercream frosted almond cake made by a local baker. I paid big money for it.

So my sister was in town, in the wedding, helped out, etc. At the end of the night we're trying to tidy things up after a wedding for 100 guests and my sister takes it upon herself to GIVE THE REST OF WHOLE CAKE AWAY TO THE JANITOR I HIRED TO HELP OUT. I kid you not. We had the cake topper stored in a box already at that point but we had quite a bit of cake leftover that I would have loved to have and it was all gone.

Anyhow, it pissed me off to no end. My sister is 40 years old and knew better, I think she just couldn't be bothered to care or help out.

Seeking her out is a good thing, I think. I would charge her for the new cake you have to make as well as all of the lost accessories and decorations that went along with it.

It is always easy for people to give things away that do not belong to them. Common sense should have told her that the TRADITIONAL thing is that the cake goes back to the bride and groom.

I hope that everything will work out.

People just don't think!

I would call the church and talk to the church secretary and explain the problem.

That you donated the cake to this couple and left a sheet cake for the bride to take and share the happy ocassion with the shelter.

Maybe the Pastor will feel badly and do something unique and special for the couple and their shelter mates.

but, I'd be tactful when I call the church. Don't get huffy..you may get other cake orders..lol

But, make sure someone important KNOWS what this lady did..

That's what I call a SUNDAY CHRISTIAN....only good for show...and at Church on Sunday!

Grrrrrrrrrrr

Ouch, I have to say I agree with everyone. What a thing to do! Did she figure that because these things were donated that the bride and groom's interest and wishes didn't count? Or was she off to make an impression on someone else with her "generosity" with other people's belongings? So sad that someone would take such a kind act and turn it into a situation like this.
Hugs Squirrelly

I say we have a vote to have her picked up then tarred and feathered. Show of hands... All in favor please raise your mouse.

It's nice of your club to bake another cake. But I say send her a bill for the cake and the decoration too.


Princess

P.S. She should be flogged in the town square for taking stolen items to church.

ok she was wrong but what I do not understand is why the brides family did not take the stuff including the cake with them.

Usually if the brides mother or someone they ask to take care of it leave the leftover cake it is because they do not want it and they are usually responsible for collecting the brides momentos also.


While this lady was wrong....The bride should have arranged with a friend to take care of it if she did not have a mother or sister to do it.

Around here anything left after the family leaves is usually tossed.

Sending the woman a bill may give her a "wake up call" she may not pay, but she may think twice next time.

Yes, many items are tossed after the event, but, I don't think it would be...,not when such specific arrangements have been made!??

I made a wedding cake for a couple.......put the leftovers in the refrig with the rest of the leftover food.......everything disappeared........later it was discovered the catering people split it up and took it all home.........
People.......sometimes I don't understand..........

That is common practice unless the family request the left overs be left and usually provides containers in some cases.

Many people do not want the hassle if dealing with all the leftovers from an event so if you do not want the caterer to take the left overs with them speak up and provide containers and take them with you.

Also common is to feed the serving staff from the leftovers.

OK, I can understand if she wanted some cake-it was probably so delicious-BUT THAT GIVES HER NO RIGHT TO TAKE THE WHOLE DARN THING AND PASS IT OUT TO WHOMEVER SHE WAS TRYING TO IMPRESS!!! How RUDE was that? And Inconsiderate, and tacky, and brainless and ....and....and.....just plain mean. I am sure she understood the situation the bride and groom were in and all the volunteering involved-what would make her think it was a free for all afterwards???? What a dumb a........I would certainly let her know about it-SOMEONE has to know how to get in touch with her.

msmeg: I think you missed the post about how this couple was displaced by hurricane Katrina. See http://cakecentral.com/cake-decorating-ftopict-9146-.html

I think it would have already been hard for the bride and groom to figure out where to take the cakes if they are no longer at home but at a shelter.

In any case, pinkbunny, I think what you guys did was a very generous thing. Good luck resolving the stolen cake.

Okay, so I missed the story also on how the couple came to the point of your cake club making the cake, etc. I just read about that and the story makes more sense to me. I can see why there was no one there to gather up the bride's things but that still did not give this "coordinator" the right to get her grabby paws on them. If she thought the cake was just left behind to go to waste, I can see her giving it away but not the decorations, etc. All I can say is that you all did a good job of doing the Lord's work by donating your time and money. For that there will be a star in your crown. This woman will have to answer for what she did some day. That is how I have to look at things sometimes. I do a lot of volunteer work and really get agitated and people who take and take and take and never give. I would continue to attempt to reach this woman and make her feel ashamed of herself if at all possible. That might not be what the Lord would tell us to do but goodness it would make me feel better. LOL As for caterers--When I catered functions, it depended on how I was paid. If I catered for 100 people and only 80 showed up, it would depend on the agreement. If they paid for 100, I would leave the rest of the food. If they paid for the 80, I took the leftovers. But.....above all I wouldn't have stood for some stranger taking them and giving them away!

I did miss the whole story as I have been busy for the past several weeks.

She never should have agreed to take the leftovers to the bride if she could not do it.

But still there were 100 friends at this wedding

I really can understand about the cake as she could not take it to the shelter, or carry it around in her car so she should have said no and arranged for a family memeber or freind to deal with it. The mementos ...how hard would it be to keep for a few weeks

Did the other lady get her stand back???

I guess I always want to see the best in people and hope what happend was she said yes she would take care of it meaning she would get it all together so someone could take it with them... and then all the guests left and the stuff was still there....... It is possible.... and then she thought now what can I do with this cake???? I can't just toss it.... And maybe just maybe the rest is in her trunk??????


If not ... my mothers line applys " YOu'll get yours"

Well after three days of calling (only twice a day....don't think that was too much??? once in the morning and once in the evening) she STILL hasn't returned the bride or my calls!!! I guess to clarify...the cake was suppose to go to the shelter w/the the bride & groom as well as the decorations. And that is what I asked her to do before I left. Usually when someone says 'Yes' I'd think they understood the question!! Guess not!! They were going to share the cake w/everyone in the shelter. And if this was just a misunderstanding....I'd think she want to call and explain what happened. No one has any other way to get a hold of her....or they just aren't telling me.

I'm going to call once more this afternoon and guess just chalk this up to a very unfortunate learning exp. I'm not expecting her to call me back. And I've been very nice when I call. Just left a msg saying "Hi, XXXX. This is Christine from the cake club. I got a call from the bride and just wanted to find out what happened w/the cake and where the decorations are. It was my understanding the cake and decorations were suppose to go to the Bride & Groom. Please call me back so we can discuss this. Thank You, Christine." I didn't want to say what I was really thinking!!

Even though we are going to get them another small cake......we can't afford to replace the decorations! And that is what I'm the most upset about. B/c those would last her forever!!

Is PinkBunny gonna have to choke a b!+ch? That would so piss me off. If you know this lady's address then I say load up in the car and go pay her happy a$$ a visit. There is just no excuse for the smug, rules-don't-apply-to-me attitude.

Bill her for the decorations and cake. Don't forget the interest.

Tell me how much to contribute for the decorations and I would be happy to help-this should definately have turned out this way! That poor couple had already been through h and back and a little tangible memory of such a wonderful, thoughful and beautiful day would be nice to have later to help with the memories they will carry with them of your generosity!