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post #1 of 26
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I am donating cupcakes to my town's public schools, which I am super happy to do.  However, I was just asked by an acquaintance to donate cupcakes to her child's preschool auction.  I don't even like this preschool, my niece was treated badly there, and my daughter went to a different preschool.  She thinks it will help me "get my name out there…"  I don't need to get my name out there, I am all set for business.   

 

I was thinking of just saying I'm sorry but I am tapped out on the donations this season, it has been quite busy.   I guess no matter how I turn her down she is going to be upset with me.  It's a small town though.  Can anyone think of polite wording to turn her down?   

post #2 of 26

Not sure if this helps.  Sounds like you already use it.  

 

My canned answer is "I really appreciate your admiration of my products!  However, I have already reached my maximum allowable donations for this fiscal/calendar year/quarter."  

 

If they get pushy, I just lather, rinse, repeat.  

There are times when I think I can help. Other times I think, given an already shallow gene pool, I am doing more for humanity by just letting go...

 

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There are times when I think I can help. Other times I think, given an already shallow gene pool, I am doing more for humanity by just letting go...

 

www.brendabakes.com

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post #3 of 26
Thread Starter 

Thanks Brenda, that's helpful.  I will tell her my accountant (husband) has informed me of this.

post #4 of 26
I just say im booked. I know thats not as tactful as you would like...so maybe you could throw a sorry infront of it lol icon_smile.gif
post #5 of 26
Thread Starter 

I wish I could say I'm booked, but it's an auction, so it would be to make the cupcakes for someone who bids on them and orders them for a later date.  I am going to wait a week or so and think about it, right now I think I'm just feeling so tired I don't want to do anything for free.  I may offer to do a dozen cupcakes with an easy theme of MY choice.

post #6 of 26
@Norasmom, I know you from this forum. I have come to think if you as a very kind and generous person.

I get the impression it's difficult for you to say no.

Empower yourself. No. No no no no no.

It has been my personal expierience that the only thing to come from donations is more invitations to donate.

Now, I donate to the events important to me. I do so expecting absolutely nothing in return.

It really is ok to say no. I know you can say it in a gentle way.

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www.VeryDeliciousDesserts.com

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Delicious-Desserts/207874222593145

 

It's never "just cake!"

 

You may get a cake for $way to little but you won't get this cake!

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post #7 of 26

I get so many of these (after 14 years in the biz, I no longer have to "get my name out there"  Where is "there" anyway/) frankly, I don't even answer them any more.  If that's rude, so be it.

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post #8 of 26
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Originally Posted by DeliciousDesserts View Post

It has been my personal expierience that the only thing to come from donations is more invitations to donate.

 

This! And yes, only donate to causes you feel passionately about. Do not feel sorry for yourself or this woman for saying no.

post #9 of 26
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Originally Posted by DeliciousDesserts View Post

@Norasmom, I know you from this forum. I have come to think if you as a very kind and generous person.

I get the impression it's difficult for you to say no.

Empower yourself. No. No no no no no.

It has been my personal expierience that the only thing to come from donations is more invitations to donate.

Now, I donate to the events important to me. I do so expecting absolutely nothing in return.

It really is ok to say no. I know you can say it in a gentle way.
Ditto! Nothing to add, just ditto!
post #10 of 26

Ditto to what everyone has said, it is so hard to say no so I really feel for you.

post #11 of 26

I would tell her "I don't feel right donating to that preschool, I had a bad experience with them in the past." She would probably feel more awkward than mad at that, and if she's normal she won't pursue it. If she's nosey she'll ask you about it and you can just say you don't want to gossip about it, but you just don't feel like donating to the school. If she really pushes it tell her you can't do it and give her the hairy eyeball.

post #12 of 26

^^;-D

post #13 of 26
Or what Kara said. icon_biggrin.gif
post #14 of 26
Especially the hairy eyeball bit, even though I don't know what it is!
post #15 of 26
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by leah_s View Post
 

I get so many of these (after 14 years in the biz, I no longer have to "get my name out there"  Where is "there" anyway/) frankly, I don't even answer them any more.  If that's rude, so be it.

I like that Leah!!!

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