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post #1 of 24
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Ok, I did a cake for my husband's niece's birthday today.  It's in my album(Cake Slice Cake).  I starting working on it Monday by baking the layers.  Then I went on to do the other elements buttercream filling, ganache, fondant pieces, cake board, etc.

 

So long story short. I spent a number of hours on this and it is a family freebie for a niece that is very dear and near to my heart and she is turning 12 today. 

 

Now I get to the GOOD part.  My MIL tells my husband this morning that his niece wanted to take her cake to school.  I understand she wanted something for school, I get that.  But, I am sorry this IS NOT a cake that goes to school to get hacked up and enjoyed by the teachers.  NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!  If my MIL wanted her grandchild to have something at school she can handle doing that with a sheet cake in vanilla(because not all children can do or even like chocolate) as my MIL is retired and has ALL DAY today to get something over to the school.

 

BTW, if I were to charge for this cake it would be at least 175.00 if not more, as it is sitting on a 14" cake board and is 5 1/2 inches tall and 10 inches long.

 

Hope I'm not wrong, but here is someone that is clueless and does not fully appreciate nor understand what goes into making a cake like this.

 

Cakeymom

post #2 of 24

I remember being that age, and wanting to bring a cake to school to show off to everyone is a big deal, she wanted all the other kids to see it.  What was your intention for the cake, was she having a party at the house?

 

I am wondering if there is a bigger issue here with how you get along with your MIL.  

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We get a long fine.  But, time to time and the times are few and far between, she has made little comments.

 

But, I don't think she meant any harm.  Just that my niece wanted something for school and if I had thought about it I would have done some doctored cupcakes.

 

I think my point is that I am an aunt by marriage and did this cake on my own accord. Why did her parents or my MIL not see fit to take something over to the school today??????

 

Cakeymom

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I am wondering if there is a bigger issue here  

 

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... my point is that I am an aunt by marriage and did this cake on my own accord. Why did her parents or my MIL not see fit to take something over to the school today??????

 

Norasmom might be right about a bigger issue. I don't understand what "aunt by marriage" means. Is this a second marriage for both of you?

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post #5 of 24
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This is actually my husband's niece.  His sister's child.  We both have only been married once to each other now going on 28 1/2 years.

 

I guess the old saying of, " No good deed goes unpunished" would apply here.  But, I really don't think my MIL meant anything just that she has no idea what goes into a cake like this so she thinks it's a cake to hack up at school.  Which is what I do not apprieciate.

 

I am now trying to figure out a way to get to the school to take some store bought cupcakes since her parents or MIL obviously aren't.  This is WAY beyond the call of duty.

 

Cakeymom

post #6 of 24
Isn't the cake a gift to your niece (don't know why you need to lessen your relationship to her by indicating it's through marriage)? Shouldn't you let her decide how/where she wants to serve it? Or is your intention to upstage the birthday girl with the cake at a party by having them ooh and ah and compliment you?

Sorry, this does seem petty.
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post #7 of 24
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Now I get to the GOOD part.  My MIL tells my husband this morning that his niece wanted to take her cake to school.  I understand she wanted something for school, I get that.  But, I am sorry this IS NOT a cake that goes to school to get hacked up and enjoyed by the teachers.  NO WAY!!!!!!!!!! 

I'm a little confused by your last statement...why wouldn't you want your niece to share the cake you made with her friends and teachers?
post #8 of 24
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 It is not petty.  And I have been doing cakes for all my nieces and nephews, as well as, other relatives for quite some time now regardless as to whether it is on my side or my husband's side of the family.  This particular niece I am especially fond of.

 

My main problem is that people that do not do cakes do not appriecaite what goes into it.  Plain and Simple.

 

Cakeymom

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 It is not petty.  And I have been doing cakes for all my nieces and nephews, as well as, other relatives for quite some time now regardless as to whether it is on my side or my husband's side of the family.  This particular niece I am especially fond of.

My main problem is that people that do not do cakes do not appriecaite what goes into it.  Plain and Simple.

Cakeymom

The cake is going to be cut and served regardless. Still not sure what the problem is. Your niece probably wants to show it off in front of the other kids. I would have let her have the moment.
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post #10 of 24
Ii don't get the distancing from the neice stuff, but I agree, the $175 cake is for the party not the school. At school the presentation may be unceremonious and they may take 15 min, cut the cake and hurry everyone to the bus. Sounds to me like mil may be denigrating the hard work of op. Why op poster doesn't just say, sorry this is for the main party..? Why isn't mil taking something if the fancy cake doesn't go?

Sorry... Not good a posting from my phone. Hope y'all get my meanings.
post #11 of 24
Confused as well.
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post #12 of 24

It may be too late but can you have a conversation with the niece or her mom and straighten this out?  It may be a miss-communication with MIL getting involved.

post #13 of 24
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My son is taking some cupcakes over to the school. So my niece will be happy as she does not know he is coming.

My whole point was if you are not involved why even have a comment??? If I where going to do something to take to the school it would not have been on such an elaborate scale. I work a full-time job and did this cake as a surprise for my niece and her family to enjoy. They are a family of 8.

If my MIL wanted her to have something she should have offered. All I was saying is that people like HER have NO appreciation as to what goes into doing a cake. This was a comment that she made to my husband. There is nothing confusing about that.


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I am now trying to figure out a way to get to the school to take some store bought cupcakes since her parents or MIL obviously aren't.  This is WAY beyond the call of duty.

 

We probably all agree that cakes should be valued more by the general public. But when the OP writes, "This is WAY beyond the call of duty" and she's talking about a cake for her young niece, I think there's an underlying issue. Hopefully a family conversation can resolve it.

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post #15 of 24

I understand. It was not as you intended it to be! BUT..every cloud has a silver lining.... imagine the pride on your niece's face to bring such a masterpiece to show off. Maybe a blessing in disguise, and will be great advertizement for you, :-)

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