Originally Posted by wendelynb
I am struggling with lack of sleep for the past two days aside from a two or so hour nap, and it's possibly effecting my thought process because I am totally lost as to what your interpretation of my last post is. I am still saying the same thing as before just responding basically to the comment that a harsher comment should be expected coming from a business thread. The criticism itself isn't necessarily the problem, it's the way in which it is given. It's all in the delivery, you can say the same words just arranged differently and it makes the biggest difference in the world. My thing is, that I fail to see the relevance in business or personal. I mean, I totally understand that from a business perspective you would hold the OP to a higher standard than the average joe because you expect in a business that the decorator would be a professional and their work should reflect the same however; does a professional decorator not deserve the same common decency that a civilian would receive? I stated that I am not sure that I would be so brave as to post pics of my work for fear of receiving similar responses and others have agreed. My point in posting that fear was to give something for those using crass comments to think about. I agree we can ignore insensitive posts and even block them from our view but blocking would come after the damage was done, and I really believe that taming the harshness of the tongue is such an easy thing to do if those that are use to being abrasive in their comments would just use some restraint they may be able to give someone some much needed and appreciated advise.
I also wanted to give you a thumbs up on your post "my point is temper the truth--not dilute it--delete the harshness--shoot straight and true and be nice about it or at a minimum be neutral about it--
those who bash would also be on that list--i just hope we stop & think a bit more about how we say things.
just say no to cake rage
belt it out, aretha!
YOU GO GIRL
Does that make more sense or clear up my point or am I still lost as to what you were saying?
sorry to be confusing--i meant to convey that i am all in agreement with you and goodvibrations--i tried to be kind of tongue in cheek--for example you mean when the lions come out and eat the people in the arena it makes you squeamish? you mean when the newbie chum is thrown into the water the shark bites make you shudder? it does me too but i hope they stop it. i wish they would stop it. it's wrong and ugly and hurts the forum and the people they do it to.
i've tried to stop it before but it was often deflected--then i just had to watch it happen or ignore it so i left.
i don't understand why some people take such unfair advantage of others except for these quotes:
Originally Posted by kimmisue2009
THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS - YOU NAILED IT
---you mean when the original poster explains their problem and (very few but one is too many) responding posters think, "i can not only re-word this problem back to everyone with some colorful language I can also have some fun at op's expense plus get rid of some aggression right here right now-- step back, girls, let a pro handle this, i own a business"---
Not only here, but on just about every fricking forum about every fricking thing under the sun. The internet is to passive aggressives what dark and damp is to mold.
Originally Posted by SugaredSaffron
Haha that's exactly it! Let's be real, a lot of the rude posts aren't to help the OP, it's to make yourself and others laugh. Don't dress it up as sincere business advice, it's just b*tchin'.