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post #16 of 21
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Thanks for the comments everyone!  I was kind of hoping it was faked but sadly, after seeing the way some people treat staff in shops, I don't think it's outside the bounds of reason :-( And the cake down the stairs...I would have cried a lot as well.  I swear I am a few hairs greyer after every delivery!

 

Thank you all for the comments re dealing with MOBs as well.


Originally Posted by costumeczar View Post

If the MOB calls me with any detials I'll contact the bride and confirm. If they're having a problem then they can work it out, but I'll do what the bride tells me in the long run. I've had MOBs try to chnge things without telling the bride, so it can get tricky.

Have you found a 'politically sensitive' way of saying this?  Something like, "Hi there, your Mum has just contacted me with some changes about your cake - I just wanted to make sure with you that everyone is on the same page?"...would that work?  I'd hate to think I was going behind someones' back.

 

 

Originally Posted by TheSugarLab View Post
I don't worry about any MOB (or any other family member for that matter) changing anything because it specifically says in my contract that only the bride (or whoever orders the cake, I had a groom down as my client once) can make changes. One bride was very happy that many of her vendors had that clause in their contracts since she had a "crazy stepfamily". 

That is a brilliant idea!  About to amend my contract!  Do you accept changes verbally or do you only take them in writing?

 

It's a strange co-incidence - i was talking with a friend yesterday whose Mum made her wedding cake.  it was a stunning 5/6-tier with a cascade of roses and flowers - hours and hours of delicate work.  But mum 'surprised' her by adding a little figurine of her playing netball on the side which while thoughtful, spoiled it a bit for her as it was so out of place (our team dresses are black...doesn't sit well on an ivory cake!)

 

Thanks again all :-D

post #17 of 21
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Originally Posted by Snowflakebunny23 View Post

Thanks for the comments everyone!  I was kind of hoping it was faked but sadly, after seeing the way some people treat staff in shops, I don't think it's outside the bounds of reason icon_sad.gif And the cake down the stairs...I would have cried a lot as well.  I swear I am a few hairs greyer after every delivery!

Thank you all for the comments re dealing with MOBs as well.
Have you found a 'politically sensitive' way of saying this?  Something like, "Hi there, your Mum has just contacted me with some changes about your cake - I just wanted to make sure with you that everyone is on the same page?"...would that work?  I'd hate to think I was going behind someones' back.
That is a brilliant idea!  About to amend my contract!  Do you accept changes verbally or do you only take them in writing?

It's a strange co-incidence - i was talking with a friend yesterday whose Mum made her wedding cake.  it was a stunning 5/6-tier with a cascade of roses and flowers - hours and hours of delicate work.  But mum 'surprised' her by adding a little figurine of her playing netball on the side which while thoughtful, spoiled it a bit for her as it was so out of place (our team dresses are black...doesn't sit well on an ivory cake!)

Thanks again all icon_biggrin.gif

I do have a clause in my contract that says only the bride and groom can change anything, regardless of who pays for it. If a MOB called me to change something It would depend on the situation. I've had MOBs who handled the whole thing, and the bride didn't care, so in that case I wouldn't bother. But if the bride had arranged things and the MOB called to change something I would cll the bride and say, for example, "i just want to double check on the new design that your mom called about today. Did you want the cake to be purple with orange dots, or vice-versa?" That way she can freak out on her mom if she had to, and she would probably call me and say not to change anything, at which point I would say "that's why I called to check."
post #18 of 21
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Originally Posted by CakeRae80 View Post

That's horrible, I want to watch that episode now!!!  My mom was MIA when I got married the first time (I'm remarried now), she just didn't want anything to do with my wedding at all. My soon to be MIL stepped up and helped go with me for planning.  I wanted this cake that was 4 tiers, but they weren't stacked, they were each on their own pedestal. They were each done in a basket weave design and were supposed to have flowers on the top of each of them. My soon to be groom & I were paying for everything and I didn't have the money for the flowers on the top, so I was just going to let it go.  The picture of the cake I had disappeared and it made me upset. When I walked into the reception hall there was my cake with all the flowers like the picture.  My MIL took the picture and went to the florist and told him she needed those flowers just that way for the cake.  It was great!

Awww...that gave me warm fuzzies...I would have cried.

post #19 of 21

"Have you found a 'politically sensitive' way of saying this?  Something like, "Hi there, your Mum has just contacted me with some changes about your cake - I just wanted to make sure with you that everyone is on the same page?"...would that work?  I'd hate to think I was going behind someones' back."

 

How about "Have you found a 'politically sensitive' way of saying this?  Something like, "Hi there, your Mum has just contacted me with some changes about your cake -all changes must be in writing and signed. Would you like for me to fax you the change or form or would you like to stop by the shop to sign it?"

post #20 of 21
"Dear Bride, I just spoke with Mrs. Mother who relayed some of the changes you would like to make. I have attached a copy of the revised sketch. Please let me know if this is what you had in mind. "

www.VeryDeliciousDesserts.com

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Delicious-Desserts/207874222593145

 

It's never "just cake!"

 

You may get a cake for $way to little but you won't get this cake!

Animal
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www.VeryDeliciousDesserts.com

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Delicious-Desserts/207874222593145

 

It's never "just cake!"

 

You may get a cake for $way to little but you won't get this cake!

Animal
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post #21 of 21
Your changes should be approved by whomever signs your contract. If it the bride, then the bride. If MOB, then MOB. If you do something the bride wants but contract is with MOB you can get burned.
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