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So, I was watching a rerun of Cake Boss this morning and watched (jaw dropped) as the bride walked into the bakery and, after apparently hating her cake, took the surrounding piping bags and largely trashed it!!

 

Thinking about it more, it all seemed to stem from the fact that at the consultation, both the Bride and her Mother had totally different wants for the wedding cake.  So my question is, has anyone ever dealt with this situation before and how did you manage it?  I'd want to personally give the bride what she wants - it's her day - but it gets more awkward if mum is paying for the cake as well.  Thus far, I've only dealt with brides themselves and (touch wood), they have all been lovely but having seen this, I am planning for the worst in advance and would really appreciate some words of wisdom!

Many thanks! :-)

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Now I want to go home and watch that episode...did it play last night? I have been recording them this week...

 

I have the type of personality that I would tell the MOTB to hush and let the bride tell me what she wants to avoid this. But...again...I haven't been in business as of yet, so I really can't tell you for sure if that is what I would do in a professional setting.

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Now I want to go home and watch that episode...did it play last night? I have been recording them this week...

It was quite an old one way before they had the Factory...it aired last night here in the UK but we have lots of (old re-runs)...the title was "Biplane, Bridezilla, and Busting Buddy".  If you google it there are plenty of clips.  Thanks for the thoughts though...i would have a similar reaction personally!

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I watched that episode on Netflix and was appalled that a grown woman could act that way!!  Maybe it was planned as part of the show dramatics?  I sure hope so...otherwise, I fear for her husband!  tapedshut.gif

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I really hope that episode was faked. They rarely allow customers in the back, but they allowed her and of all the things in there she knew just where the piping bags were to trash the cake. I couldn't believe what I was watching! And then her attitude towards Buddy when they delivered the cake. I really hope those were actors, because that was awful.

 

I would say to honor the bride. Like many have said, it's her special day and the cake will forever be tied to the special day. I can imagine it's pretty awkward to have to deal with both of them when their wishes aren't the same.


Edited by therealmrsriley - 7/25/13 at 6:20am
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That's horrible, I want to watch that episode now!!!  My mom was MIA when I got married the first time (I'm remarried now), she just didn't want anything to do with my wedding at all. My soon to be MIL stepped up and helped go with me for planning.  I wanted this cake that was 4 tiers, but they weren't stacked, they were each on their own pedestal. They were each done in a basket weave design and were supposed to have flowers on the top of each of them. My soon to be groom & I were paying for everything and I didn't have the money for the flowers on the top, so I was just going to let it go.  The picture of the cake I had disappeared and it made me upset. When I walked into the reception hall there was my cake with all the flowers like the picture.  My MIL took the picture and went to the florist and told him she needed those flowers just that way for the cake.  It was great!

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I really hope that episode was faked. They rarely allow customers in the back, but they allowed her and of all the things in there she knew just where the piping bags were to trash the cake. I couldn't believe what I was watching! And then her attitude towards Buddy when they delivered the cake. I really hope those were actors, because that was awful.

 

In one of the classes I took, the teacher, who knows Buddy personally, said that this episode (as are most of his) was scripted.  They also said that the episode where his staff dropped the cake down the stairs was scripted also.  Never believe anything you see on "reality" TV.

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That's horrible, I want to watch that episode now!!!  My mom was MIA when I got married the first time (I'm remarried now), she just didn't want anything to do with my wedding at all. My soon to be MIL stepped up and helped go with me for planning.  I wanted this cake that was 4 tiers, but they weren't stacked, they were each on their own pedestal. They were each done in a basket weave design and were supposed to have flowers on the top of each of them. My soon to be groom & I were paying for everything and I didn't have the money for the flowers on the top, so I was just going to let it go.  The picture of the cake I had disappeared and it made me upset. When I walked into the reception hall there was my cake with all the flowers like the picture.  My MIL took the picture and went to the florist and told him she needed those flowers just that way for the cake.  It was great!

What a sweet MIL, I hope she stayed as nice!
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What a sweet MIL, I hope she stayed as nice!


She did and even though her son and I are divorced, so still helps me and my new husband with the kids when we need it.  She'll call me at work and home and talk to me about the kids and then other conversations start and before you know it we've talked for a half hour to 45 mins.

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@ Cupadee I figured most of the "hijinks" were scripted and I just KNEW that episode where the cake fell down the steps was fake!! But I have to say the show wasn't the same for me after the bride and mother of the bride fiasco. It was painfully obvious how fake it was.

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When I saw that episode, was when I realized the whole show was faked. I never saw the one where the cake fell down the stairs, or I might have noticed then. I have several seasons of it in my queue, on Netflix, but no desire to watch them, at all. 

 

I would love a reality show about cakes that is more reality, but how boring, right? I think "Fabulous Cakes" is as good as it gets, since they also show prices. 

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I still miss Ace of Cakes, it was my all-time favorite!  Great cakes, little to no drama, and no one mean pranks!  And I think I actually learned something from watching the shows; it was just neat to see how *they* did stuff!
 

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I read the bride's blog that said that was setup. And I figured the stair-drop was too, because wow, they seem to have a freight elevator to take cakes downstairs...As far as the bride vs the MOB goes, I side with the bride, but you have to handle the MOB carefully. If the MOB calls me with any detials I'll contact the bride and confirm. If they're having a problem then they can work it out, but I'll do what the bride tells me in the long run. I've had MOBs try to chnge things without telling the bride, so it can get tricky.

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The episode where the cake falls down makes me upset, mainly because they make it seem like they can remake a cake quickly. If I were to drop a cake right before delivery, I would probably freak out and cry and then yell and cry some more. My mom/business partner would probably have to be the one to call and say something happened. That all of their money would be returned and they would get cupcakes. OH I don't even want to think about. 

 

Onto the topic at hand. I've only had the MOB present at two tastings. One was there for the fun of it-her daughter was a wedding planner and knew exactly what she wanted. She also happened to be my sorority sister so we already knew each other. The second MOB was more vocal about what she wanted. It didn't differ that much but it was enough to confuse the bride about what she wanted. I looked at the bride directly (MOB was sitting across from her) and said politely that it was her wedding and she should get what she and her fiance wanted. I don't worry about any MOB (or any other family member for that matter) changing anything because it specifically says in my contract that only the bride (or whoever orders the cake, I had a groom down as my client once) can make changes. One bride was very happy that many of her vendors had that clause in their contracts since she had a "crazy stepfamily". 

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I had a cake in june that I adored, that the MOB and I designed. The bride didn't bother to show up for the tasting and consultation, because she was overwhelmed and hormonal, due to a pregnancy. I have posted it 3 times lately, but why not a 4th? lol (I actually would've changed the whole thing, if the bride would have contacted me, but she didn't.)

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