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post #76 of 100

It's hard to find out a friendship is dependent on what you can do for a person. Been there, tear-stained pillows to prove it. Hugs to you, sorry you're going through this, but you will look back one day and be thankful you saw her true colors. icon_sad.gif

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post #77 of 100
Just be glad you found this out before giving up all your free time and money on a cake they wouldn't have appreciated any more than all the other very generous and thoughtful things you've done for them. People like that are not qualified to say who is and isn't a good person.
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post #78 of 100
I missed something... in post 61 the bride apologized profusely and wanted you both at the wedding. Now you have no heart...what happened in between? It seems a shame to lose a long and close friendship over a cake. I hope you can dry your tears and blame their actions on wedding nerves and attend the wedding and wish them well. Clearly your relationship will have changed over this but hopefully you can remain friendly after having gone through so much together. Oh and do not consider for a second making the cake.
post #79 of 100

Obviously the cake they ordered was a lot more than they anticipated (market value), putting the true value on the gift you were GOING to give them.  Reality bites!

 

I sincerely hope you aren't going to do the cake.

 

The fact that she is groveling (sp?) now means she still wants her free cake. Would she have apologized otherwise?  I question that.

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post #80 of 100

 Maybe the bride apologized but the groom was too prideful to say sorry. The OP did say the groom ordered a cake maybe he was snotty to the OP.

The OP then says she isn't making the cake and the bride says she has no heart.

All speculation but something was lost there...between apologizing and saying she has no heart.

 

Even if she has crazy wedding jitters...she needs to apologize out of sincerity NOT her checkbook otherwise its not a true apology. This will come up later if its not sincere the OP will feel it and the next time something comes up in the friendship this will all pour out or worse just resentment. I say don't go to the wedding its not like the bride was that torn that she wasn't attending. She used it against her to get what she wanted.

 

Also wondering if bridezilla had to apologize because Mommy was going to have to front the cost?
 

post #81 of 100
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I was too upset before to type out the whole story, but here it goes. Yes, yesterday bridezilla apologized and said she still really wanted the cake. Me being the heartless person I am felt bad and didn't want to screw them out of a wedding cake last minute, whether they deserved it or not I didn't want to be the one to ruin their day. Then bridezilla called me to inform me that groomzilla ordered a new cake, but it wasn't what she wanted. Trying to be the heartless b*tch that I am, I knew this was more about groomzilla's pride, so I offered to speak with him to try to mend the friendship between him and my hubby. Groomzilla said he would call me when he got home from work last night but never did. This morning I find out he didn't call because bridezilla's dog was dying. Fine, I completely understand that. This morning he tells my hubby he will speak to him after he goes to pay for the cake, hubby tells me to text bridezilla to make sure this is what she wanted, so I did ( after texting her that I was sorry about her dog). Her reply was that I have no heart and to leave her alone because her baby is dying (her dog). I cried all day, it's one thing to put a price tag on our friendship, but after everything I have done for her, irregardless of the cake, I don't think it was fair of her to say. Apparently she realized she was wrong, because she called me 2 hours ago sobbing about how sorry she is and wants to fix things, how she wants us at the wedding, but doesn't want a gift or the cake. I'm not sure what I will do now, definitely no cake, that's for sure. I told her I think we both need a few days to cool off, and she needs a few days to deal with things with her dog ( she's putting her down tomorrow). Sorry, I know this is a novel. My mom said its better than a soap opera.
post #82 of 100
Thanks for filling in the blanks. What an emotional mess this woman is...too bad you keep being drug into their drama. A few days of peace sounds good. Good luck with it all.
post #83 of 100

Wow. This is why I don't watch soap operas. I can come to CC and get my fix for drama and at the same time get cake advice!

 

Pouchet82, I think she is the heartless b*tch for saying you don't care about her dog.

Anyway, good advice about taking a few days to cool off, for the both of you.

Good Luck! 

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post #84 of 100
Sounds like its all gotten a bit out of hand, best to just step away for now. Don't take her words to heart, you didn't do anything wrong and she knows it as much as you do.
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post #85 of 100
Wow puochet that is better than a soap opera.
I don't know how great your relationship was before all this but
She is way immature. It's one thing to let emotions get crazy with
Wedding and her dog but her statements were way out in left
Field. I think you made a great decision and I'd just use the time
To compare your life without this friend in it. I find drama loves drama.
Meaning people like this find a way to make things
Way more dramatic than they need to be.
Good luck to you. (Hugs)
post #86 of 100
It seems that unless you're doing something for this couple (be it making a free cake or setting up doctor's appointments), they have no use for you. They seem so eager to exploit you. Think about it; after she apologized and said she wanted you and your husband at the wedding, everything was fine as long as you were doing the cake. As soon as she found out you weren't doing the cake (or so she thought) she turned on you AGAIN. As hurtful as it may seem, some folks are better off out of our lives than in.

For your own peace of mind though, I would suggest you forgive her and take a step back from the toxic relationship. Some people just need to be loved from a distance. You could attend the wedding (if hubby and you so please) as a sign that you've forgiven and moved on but forget the cake.
post #87 of 100
I'm only just new to this forum, but I've been reading every post on this thread and it's really been a tragic drama. I'm so sorry this has been such a traumatic experience for you. X
Anyway, the older (and wiser *wink*) I've become, I've come to realise that weddings really are a complete load of s**t. It's great business for you cake makers, I understand. But seriously, at the end of the day, it's ultimately about one committing themselves to another one. Now, I'm no math expert but I do know that one plus one equals two. Not 100+ guests and a $20k+ deficit.
If a cake is the straw that broke the camels back, then I worry for the couple.
If you can, smooth things over with them, you will feel better in your heart. Let them buy another cake. Go to their wedding. Have a great time. Make peace and move on. It is just a small moment in time and in a few months it will all be distant past. icon_smile.gif Stay strong.
post #88 of 100
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For your own peace of mind though, I would suggest you forgive her and take a step back from the toxic relationship. Some people just need to be loved from a distance. You could attend the wedding (if hubby and you so please) as a sign that you've forgiven and moved on but forget the cake.

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https://www.facebook.com/pages/Delicious-Desserts/207874222593145

 

It's never "just cake!"

 

You may get a cake for $way to little but you won't get this cake!

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post #89 of 100

IMO, forgiveness will be the best thing for you and your husband.  If you can see your way clear to attend the wedding, go and have a good time.  Your friend seems to be under a lot of stress that she is not handling at all.  Sometimes people lash out and say and do stupid things to those they know will still be there for them in the end.  Kids to it all the time.   Most often, the right thing to do is the hardest.  I truly hope this works out for you.

post #90 of 100
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I thought I would update everyone since you've all been super supportive. My friend sent me a message yesterday apologizing again and hoping that my husband and I will come to the wedding. She seems sincere. I had a long talk with my husband and we've decided to go to the wedding. He will still be in the wedding party, since he doesn't want to throw away a 20+ year friendship. I agreed to go to the wedding to keep the peace, and if for no other reason to see what monstrosity of a cake they ordered last minute. I may need to post pictures after...

I just want to thank everyone again for all your support and kind words, it's nice to know sometimes that you aren't going crazy. It's nice to know that I have some good cake friends here!

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