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I know I shouldn't let things like this bother me, but darn it, they do! 

 

I just saw something on FB that was really rude and hurtful. We are doing a bridal show in August, and the organizer does a post about our business once a month leading up to the bridal show, to introduce us as one of the vendors and posts a picture of one of our cakes (we send her the pictures we want her to use). So she did one today, and posted a picture of a cake we did a while back. I "liked" the post, so it is sending me notifications when there's activity on it. I just got a comment notification and went to look at it, and someone had commented "That's an ugly cake sorry." ouch.gif

 

This was a cake that I had designed and we worked hard on it and were really proud of it. 

 

Now, I don't know this person at all, it's just someone who saw the post and I guess felt the need to comment. (They are not a competitor or anything) What I don't understand is why?? Why would someone do that? If you think it's ugly, ok, whatever, but why wouldn't you just keep your opinion to yourself? Especially on a post like that, it's not like it's just one of her friends posting it, it's a business posting about another business. I just don't get why someone would be so rude. 

 

I've never, EVER had anyone say that one of our cakes is ugly, or even just so-so. We always get really good feedback on our cakes. It's an icky feeling, that's for sure! :(

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Here's the "ugly" cake

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post #3 of 61

The "S" on top is for Stunning  thumbs_up.gif

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post #4 of 61

That's how it is on fb, everybody feels free and/or the need to "express themselves"  regardless of who it might hurt.

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post #5 of 61

By the way, that green is my grandaughters fav color, she would just go crazy over your cake. 

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post #6 of 61

Beautiful! =-)

post #7 of 61

Sorry they said that.  Don't let it bother you.  Some people have really big cake balls online.  I think technology has made people mean, empty, and socially inept. 

 

I don't mess with Facebook at all.

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Originally Posted by AnnieCahill View Post

Sorry they said that.  Don't let it bother you.  Some people have really big cake balls online.  I think technology has made people mean, empty, and socially inept. 

 

I don't mess with Facebook at all.

So true!  The person who wrote it is ugly.

post #9 of 61

Well I look at this two ways.

1. I assume no one would think one of Ben Israels' cakes is UGLY.

In all fairness though I'm sure someone has the courage to say they are ugly simply because they don't like his style. So to them its UGLY.

So you could have a perfect cake and still have people who can't properly communicate or don't bother to do so because they only think of themselves.

On the other hand, I think its always good to learn why the person feels that way. I think it would make you feel better as well.

If you sent her a kind message and simply said I was very interested in why you thought my cake was "UGLY" so that I can learn

better ways to make my cakes appealing. If she gave an answer say "I hate green how could you make a cake that was that color?" you know

its not you. If its something more its a learning experience. Either way I think you would feel better to know the reason. Heck you might even thank her in the

end. Maybe if it is a real reason or something you think a lot of brides would think you can fix it before going to the show.

 

2. If it was a bride who said this who knows what kind of bride she is. She might just be a bridezilla or a person who likes to cause drama.

post #10 of 61

I'd like to add that I think it is still wrong that she posted that. People post their most awful thoughts on FB hence I'm not on anymore. lol

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Yet another reason why
I.
Do.
Not.
Do.
Facebook.


Ever.


For any reason.



The cake looks fine to me. Not something I'd do, but that's more from not having the time, energy, or skill to do it, than from matters of taste.

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post #12 of 61
I find something about it very unappealing as well. The skill is fine, just not my style. I wouldn't call it ugly at all, but some people have a limited vocabulary and no social graces. I wouldn't take it personally. There are different types of art and I Don't understand why anyone thinks Andy Warhol was great. .. but to each their own.
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post #13 of 61

I'm a really sensitive person, and criticism when I don't ask for it just pisses me off.

Especially when it crosses the line from criticism to rudeness or nastiness. One of the reason I don't put much at all on FB.

If you think someone else's work is ugly, or not to your personal liking, why on Earth would you say so? Nobody is asking.

 

As you can tell, I'm sensitive :P

 

I'm sorry you had to see that, I hope the admin removed the comment.

post #14 of 61

While I prefer a more old fashioned, romantic, softer look, I see the appeal ;-)

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Thanks for the encouragement everyone! The admin did remove the comment. :) 

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Originally Posted by BrandisBaked View Post

I find something about it very unappealing as well. The skill is fine, just not my style. I wouldn't call it ugly at all, but some people have a limited vocabulary and no social graces. I wouldn't take it personally. There are different types of art and I Don't understand why anyone thinks Andy Warhol was great. .. but to each their own.

May I ask what you find "very unappealing" about it? I'm not trying to be pissy about it, I genuinely want to know. If there is something than can be improved, I'd like to try. 

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