Originally Posted by costumeczar
Now, now, ladies...the monkey-iced cake isn't something that we'd do, but the people who do this kind of thing aren't our customers anyway. Honestly, you can easily stack three cake layers ( and those are layers, not tiers) and ice them all and they're not going to shift or sink. There's no law that says a wedding cake HAS to be torted and stacked, or that you even have to have a cake. I did a dessert buffet for my wedding (yes I was a DIY bride) and amazingly it didn't curse our marriage. If you're having a small wedding and that little cake with the rosemary on it is fine for your needs then have at it.
I don't think it's bitterness, for me. It's frustration that the focus isn't on prioritizing what is important. I dunno, I guess I think you should focus on the most important part of the day, which is really making this significant change in your life and celebrating it with your family. The whole wedding fairy tale fantasy thing is just obnoxious IMO. So you don't have a huge budget, but a giant family? Get married on Saturday afternoon and then throw a mother of a party in the evening. Everyone feeds themselves, and changes their clothes and comes back for a fun gathering. I mean how many sit down dinner weddings have you been to that you remembered for the dinner?
For me, personally, I'd rather have 10 great parties, than one gigantic fantasy ball that leaves you with a lot of debt. Does that make sense? So don't teach people gimmicky ways to have a three tiered cake, teach them ways to get good quality out of the money they do have.