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post #16 of 27
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Originally Posted by DomesticatedDiva

Maybe suggest she make a different flavour cake? If yours is white cake maybe ask if she will make chocolate so that your guests have choice, sounds to me like the ideal answer to avoid offending her and gives your guests an alternative, hope your event goes well regardless icon_smile.gif



Yea she will make chocolate and i will change the order to marbel so that should solve some of it.

Thank you for the well wishes!

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Originally Posted by mcaulir

Can you serve the cake with cream and ice-cream on a plate so that it's not quite so dry? Ask her to use minimal icing.



We are not allowed to bring anything in or i was thinking of that as well because thats how we eat the cakes she bakes currently with enough ice cream. =)


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Originally Posted by TheSweetTreat

If it's your party and you're very worried about it going a certain way then I think you have every right to be honest with her about her cakes. I would feel so foolish if I had been delivering dry cakes and not one single person was telling me the truth. I think it's a disservice to her.

I know it's easyfor me to say 'be honest', but I think it's best. I'm also sensitive about being lied to or even 'white' lies. I think your other option is to let her make the cake and forget about it. If the people who the party is actually for aren't willing to say anything then let them eat dry cake. They must not feel it's that dry or they would take matters into their own hands. I know I would if it was my party and the cake was that bad.



Its really not my place to be honest. I thought of telling her but she is not my friend. I don't want to take a chance of ruining the party somehow over this. People as everyone knows blow things out of proportion.

Her own relation doesn't order cakes i come to find out for the same reason but doesn't mean it hurts any less.

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Originally Posted by BakingIrene

Ask the person who offered, to make a cake in a different flavour--excellent idea. This party is not the time to discuss dryness of her cakes. The time to do so would be after the party. I would think about doing it this way: tell her that the caterer mentioned something, wanting to know how her cake had been stored. The person's feelings may be temporarily hurt but I would definitely want to hear about such a problem.



Yea i think thats what im going to do let her make choclate and ill order a marbel.

Its a suprise party but tried to convice the party many times to tell her the the cakes are dry. She did once and didnt take it so well so she just doesn't want to bring it up anymore i guess.
post #17 of 27
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Originally Posted by missy2008

It is difficult to be honest with some people, as feelings do get hurt in the process. In an ideal situation, would be to tell the baker friend that her cakes are too dry. She would probably increase her business if she had tasty cakes. You may use me as a contact person if youd like for me to pass on recipes/tips/ideas to her to help her get tasty cakes to go along with her beautiful decorations. The biggest mistake bakers do is over cook their cakes! (feel free to pm me and I will give you my contact info.)

i feel your stress, and I hope you find a solution. You TOO need to enjoy the party!!



Thanks for the well wishes and we think also she has been overbaking or not freezing her cakes correctly. She gives away just about all of her cakes so thats what makes its so hard to say anything. She really is a excellent decorator and has great ideas thats what also make its so hard.


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Originally Posted by sillywabbitz

I'm confused. Are you hosting the anniversary party? The impression I'm getting from you is that she is a friend of the people who are having the annviserary. If so you need to address this with them directly? Explain that you ordered a cake from such and such bakery and so and so offered to make the cake what would they like to do?
Seriously this should not be your problem. If the guest of honors don't have a problem with her cake maybe you just have a more sensitive pallette. Also I love the idea of asking her to make a specific flavor...hell find one of the awesome tried and true recipes from the Gourmet flavor list on CC and say something like, "this is the flavor cake we would like and if you don't have a recipe here is a good one"



She is a friend of the anniversary party her best friend. Yes i am hosting the party and paying for it. Its a suprise they don't know about it.

They do have a problem with her cakes being dry our whole family does. She gives them to us at no cost and its a gift from the heart.

Well i maybe to sensitive but the cake is the only dessert so its a big deal so it needs to be good and if hers is dry well..

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Originally Posted by SoFloGuy

Tell her you already ordered and paid for a cake. Send her an anonymous email that her dry cakes are more deserts than desserts. icon_biggrin.gif



Yea believe me id like to! =D I live in small town america so she knows i can cancel my cake order so id just be lying and thats never a good solution.
post #18 of 27
I give away all of my cakes..............and I always ask for feedback--both good & bad. Sorry, not a good excuse for providing something that people don't like.

That said, if I were the baker for the cake that you've ordered, I'd be mad as hell if someone else brought in a dry cake and it was served. I have a sole provider policy to prevent just such a problem. I see that other cake, and I walk out with mine.

The last thing I want is for some guest to get "confused" and think that I made the dry one! Or, for a guest to get sick from the other cake and then blame me!

I'd personally explain that a cake has been ordered, but that if she wants to give the anniversary couple a special cake for them to cut, or take home, that's her choice--BUT THAT IT WILL NOT BE SERVED TO THE OTHER GUESTS.

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post #19 of 27
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I'd personally explain that a cake has been ordered, but that if she wants to give the anniversary couple a special cake for them to cut, or take home, that's her choice--BUT THAT IT WILL NOT BE SERVED TO THE OTHER GUESTS.



Quite frankly this may not be necessary. If the dry-cake-baker's own family don't order her cakes, people already know about the problem...and all you need is for there to be two different flavours.

But saying anything before the party is the best way for some very bad karma...like the dry-cake-baker calling up the anniversary couple and totally spoiling the surprise.
post #20 of 27
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Originally Posted by BlakesCakes

I give away all of my cakes..............and I always ask for feedback--both good & bad. Sorry, not a good excuse for providing something that people don't like.

That said, if I were the baker for the cake that you've ordered, I'd be mad as hell if someone else brought in a dry cake and it was served. I have a sole provider policy to prevent just such a problem. I see that other cake, and I walk out with mine.

The last thing I want is for some guest to get "confused" and think that I made the dry one! Or, for a guest to get sick from the other cake and then blame me!

I'd personally explain that a cake has been ordered, but that if she wants to give the anniversary couple a special cake for them to cut, or take home, that's her choice--BUT THAT IT WILL NOT BE SERVED TO THE OTHER GUESTS.

Rae



This is what id like to tell her and what i had in mind that she would make a smaller cake decorate how she likes and they could cut or take home. Im not sure how she will take that.

The other cake would be from a chain store that has an excellent buttercream frosting which our whole family likes. As far as anyone being offended it would be just the party baking the cake thats dry.
post #21 of 27
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Thank you to everyone for taking the time to read my post and give your opinion! I really do appreciate it as i have been at wits end over this. This is my first real party that i have put together so i want it to be the best.

It really has given me the confidence to handle this situation better. Do to your advice and suggestions im going to keep the full sheet cake order and just go with a different flavor.

As far as her cake im not sure what im going to do yet. If i should ask her just to make a smaller decorative cake and let then anniversary party cut it etc..

or

Let her make her cake fullsheet and have 2 full sheet cakes.
post #22 of 27
You can always ask her to make a rum cake, or some other cake that's hard to dry out. Give her some hints like not to refrigerate her cake, that can dry it out too. Or ask if she'd make a specific recipe that you really like, (which just so happens to be brushed with a simple syrup after baking).
post #23 of 27
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Originally Posted by cookiez


This is what id like to tell her and what i had in mind that she would make a smaller cake decorate how she likes and they could cut or take home. Im not sure how she will take that.

The other cake would be from a chain store that has an excellent buttercream frosting which our whole family likes. As far as anyone being offended it would be just the party baking the cake thats dry.



I'm sure that you can couch it in a way that she'll understand.
"I really appreciate the offer, but we already have the cake/dessert well covered." PERIOD.

After all, it sounds like you're handling all of the arrangements for the party, paying for??? it, too? You have the right to handle the issue of what's going to be served--she does NOT.

Even as an invited guest, she doesn't have the right to "crash" the party with something that she expects to be served to the guests.

I think by gently turning down her offer, you're doing everyone a favor, including her--it will save discomfort & embarrassment on the day of the event.

Sorry, but if she gets her nose out of joint about it, ruins the surprise, whatever, THAT'S HER PROBLEM.

Stand your ground so that YOU'LL be happy with the event that YOU put on.

Rae
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post #24 of 27
Has anyone suggested you ask her to use a simple syrup?
Solves both situations.

You could say "Hey! I saw this awesome xyz simple syrup for extra flavor and was wondering if you could include that in our cake? It sounds yummy!"

Replace xyz with whatever flavor...even if its just vanilla. It's a way for her to improve her cakes without you asking for her to use a different recipe. You're not directly addressing the dry cake situation, but you're solving it, and in the future you can request the simple syrup to be soaked in the layers 'because it was so yummy!'
post #25 of 27
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Originally Posted by SoFloGuy

You can always ask her to make a rum cake, or some other cake that's hard to dry out. Give her some hints like not to refrigerate her cake, that can dry it out too. Or ask if she'd make a specific recipe that you really like, (which just so happens to be brushed with a simple syrup after baking).

Bingo!
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post #26 of 27
I appreciate that you are trying to be sensitive to her feelings...
However - if you are planning and paying for the party then you are responsible for doing what's in the best interests of the guests of honor and the guests. That means NOT ordering a cake you know will not taste good.

Either tell her that thank you for offer ing but a cake has already been ordered and then end the conversation,or ask her to make a small cake just for the anniversary couple emphasizing it will not be served at the party.

You should not have 2 sheet cakes there. It is not fair to either baker.
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post #27 of 27
It sounds like you have spent the money to have everything perfect. You really don't have a choice if you want your party to be perfect. It sounds like you are a perfectionist. You are going to have to tell her the truth.

Tell her that in planning the party, you really have your heart set on XYZ's certain flavor cake. It's your favorite. And after careful consideration, you really want to have that cake served.

Good luck in a sticky situation.

Let us know what you decide.
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