And I know I really have no right too feel this way....
I need some advice as to how I handle this situation. I'll try to keep this really brief and to the point - without leaving out the information you need.
Recently some friends of my husbands were in a terrible accident. There has been a great deal of hospital stays, rehab, physio and the like. I don't know this family really well but the husband, as I said is old friends with my husband. The accident was in January and the wife is now out of hospital and the extended family are now running a charity / benefit night to help cover the increasing rehabilitation costs. I put my hand up right away when they were asking for donations and suggested that I would be happy to offer up a cake / cupcakes / gift voucher as a donation. I got a response from the lady organising the benefit night and she told me she appreciated my donation and would be in touch once they had a date in place. This past weekend she emailed me again saying they had the date in place and would I still be interested in donating. I immediately replied and said of course, anything I can do to help out the family. Please keep in mind I'm doing this from the goodness of my heart, not to help get my name out there or to increase sales. Their story is incredibly sad and really moved me - and I thought this can be my litle contribution....
We've exchanged a few emails and had decided on what I would donate and all I had to do was forward my logo so she could include this on a flyer with other businesses that are donating there services. The majority of emails and conversatrions had taken place on Facebook. So imagine my surprise when I see a post on Facebook on Wednesday (last night) with this woman (who is organising the benefit night) giving a shout out of thanks and support to the benefit night - to my main competition in town! I was a little taken aback and surprised. Like I said, I know I should not have my nose out of joint about this but I kinda do. I feel that if Such and Such a Cakes (not their real name obviously!) are going to be the main supporter of the benefit night then I would prefer not to have my details listed also. I guess I don't want to be seen riding on their coat tails or trying to steal business from them. To me, I just feel a bit awkward about this now and I would like to write a lovely email to the benefit organiser suggesting that she only have one Such and Such a Cakes at the event and perhaps I can contribute to the family another way. My husband totally agrees with me on this and I had suggested to him that perhaps I can offer to do the family birthday cakes for this year (or next) (they have three young, beautiful children).
Am I making any sense here? We're from a small semi-rural community and it's only a small community gathering and I think having both us decorators there is a bit much. I also feel like she should have perhaps said something to me if Such and Such a Cakes had approached her about donating also. From my understanding of the post on facebook Such and Such a Cakes is having a display table at the benefit night with her cakes etc. There is already a lot of confusion between us (with people contacting me thinking they're contacting Such and Such a Cakes) and I don't want to add to it by us both being there....
Any ideas / suggestions would be much appreciated. Am I making a mountain out of a mole-hill... Should I just go along with my donation anyway? My main concern is that I don't want to be seen to be 'copying' her or trying to steal the lime light from Such and Such a Cakes. I would prefer to let her business have the night and as I said, I can contribute something personally to the family at a later time...
Much appreciated if you managed the whole novel!!
I need some advice as to how I handle this situation. I'll try to keep this really brief and to the point - without leaving out the information you need.
Recently some friends of my husbands were in a terrible accident. There has been a great deal of hospital stays, rehab, physio and the like. I don't know this family really well but the husband, as I said is old friends with my husband. The accident was in January and the wife is now out of hospital and the extended family are now running a charity / benefit night to help cover the increasing rehabilitation costs. I put my hand up right away when they were asking for donations and suggested that I would be happy to offer up a cake / cupcakes / gift voucher as a donation. I got a response from the lady organising the benefit night and she told me she appreciated my donation and would be in touch once they had a date in place. This past weekend she emailed me again saying they had the date in place and would I still be interested in donating. I immediately replied and said of course, anything I can do to help out the family. Please keep in mind I'm doing this from the goodness of my heart, not to help get my name out there or to increase sales. Their story is incredibly sad and really moved me - and I thought this can be my litle contribution....
We've exchanged a few emails and had decided on what I would donate and all I had to do was forward my logo so she could include this on a flyer with other businesses that are donating there services. The majority of emails and conversatrions had taken place on Facebook. So imagine my surprise when I see a post on Facebook on Wednesday (last night) with this woman (who is organising the benefit night) giving a shout out of thanks and support to the benefit night - to my main competition in town! I was a little taken aback and surprised. Like I said, I know I should not have my nose out of joint about this but I kinda do. I feel that if Such and Such a Cakes (not their real name obviously!) are going to be the main supporter of the benefit night then I would prefer not to have my details listed also. I guess I don't want to be seen riding on their coat tails or trying to steal business from them. To me, I just feel a bit awkward about this now and I would like to write a lovely email to the benefit organiser suggesting that she only have one Such and Such a Cakes at the event and perhaps I can contribute to the family another way. My husband totally agrees with me on this and I had suggested to him that perhaps I can offer to do the family birthday cakes for this year (or next) (they have three young, beautiful children).
Am I making any sense here? We're from a small semi-rural community and it's only a small community gathering and I think having both us decorators there is a bit much. I also feel like she should have perhaps said something to me if Such and Such a Cakes had approached her about donating also. From my understanding of the post on facebook Such and Such a Cakes is having a display table at the benefit night with her cakes etc. There is already a lot of confusion between us (with people contacting me thinking they're contacting Such and Such a Cakes) and I don't want to add to it by us both being there....
Any ideas / suggestions would be much appreciated. Am I making a mountain out of a mole-hill... Should I just go along with my donation anyway? My main concern is that I don't want to be seen to be 'copying' her or trying to steal the lime light from Such and Such a Cakes. I would prefer to let her business have the night and as I said, I can contribute something personally to the family at a later time...
Much appreciated if you managed the whole novel!!
