Anyhow quick recap of what I have tried to do to be a good wife... he is a full fledge alcholic , not abusive by any means to me and kids so no worries there. We have been married for 10 years, during that 10 years I have been through 2 DUIs (one was a 3rd conviction and the last one he was convicted on a 2nd offense cause of time lapse). So of course after years of being worried about him, lonely, mad and every other emotion that goes with it, I said I was done. He has spent thousands and thousands of dollars on his drinking, legal troubles and loss of work, all while I tried to make ends meet and keep all well at the home front.
Now that we are divorcing he has finally become interested in my cake business and is having my business certified appraised because he wants 1/2 the value and claims that I haven't been truthful in the income end of things cause he doesn't want to pay child support for 3 kiddos. I also do work yet outside of my cake business too.
So I guess after all my hardwork, and his out playing and doing what he wants, I owe him 1/2. REALLY. Will it really play out this way.
Does anyone have any advice that may be worth looking into that can justify why he shouldn't get 1/2?
You know I have been trying to get along, and what is sad we do. We had been in the divorce process for 8 months before we told the children and they were just blown away by it cause they never NEVER see us fight or argue.
But now I feel like I should pull all the cards out, but it scares me 1/2 to death cause I am afraid if I do he could lose the children (lose his visitation) I have enough info that could put him in prison (for violating his probabtion, drinking and then driving with the children). and I don't think he even gets that, that if I pull this stuff out to use he could lose everything.
I guess right now is what they call one of those bad days during divorce, when you really open your eyes to the person you thought was your friend, but realize they are just out for themselves.
Thanks all so much!