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post #31 of 108
The nerve of some people.... they obviously cannot budget or just wanted to get a beautiful cake for free if they can afford a limo and hotel for a sweet 16... I'm so sorry icon_sad.gif
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post #32 of 108
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Originally Posted by DeniseNH

People like that can smell a soft heart like a crow smells fresh roadkill (sorry that's all I could think of - I'm so mad at your neighbor for you). We all get caught and have horrible stories (nothing like yours) but like the saying goes, what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Looks like "someone" needed a lesson on how to develop a carbide steel spine.
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post #33 of 108
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Originally Posted by MamaDear

so don't let this bad experience change who you are... just let it change how you operate...




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post #34 of 108
vpenkuhn your reply is rude, ugly and totally UNneeded!
post #35 of 108
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vpenkuhn your reply is rude, ugly and totally UNneeded!



wait, WHY? that person was complimenting her story telling, saying that the NEIGHBOR was crazy and that she should go after her dream...i'm confused icon_confused.gif
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post #36 of 108
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Originally Posted by DeeDelightful

I don't mean this in a cruel way AT ALL, but anytime you ALLOW someone to take you through all those changes/criticism for a FREE cake and continue to deal with a BAD customer like that, you may not be cut out for business. There is no way I would have endured all of that. You can get experience making cakes some other way.



I totally agree with this. If your willing to allow a total stranger to take advantage of you on so many levels, maybe business is not for you. It's not for everyone. Maybe you would do better in a different business.
post #37 of 108
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vpenkuhn your reply is rude, ugly and totally UNneeded!



wait, WHY? that person was complimenting her story telling, saying that the NEIGHBOR was crazy and that she should go after her dream...i'm confused icon_confused.gif



You and me both, cause I didn't see anything rude either. icon_confused.gif
post #38 of 108
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Originally Posted by step0nmi

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Originally Posted by kakeladi

vpenkuhn your reply is rude, ugly and totally UNneeded!



wait, WHY? that person was complimenting her story telling, saying that the NEIGHBOR was crazy and that she should go after her dream...i'm confused icon_confused.gif



Maybe she just saw the capital letters and thought they were saying her story was false? No idea.... icon_confused.gif
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post #39 of 108
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Originally Posted by step0nmi

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vpenkuhn your reply is rude, ugly and totally UNneeded!



wait, WHY? that person was complimenting her story telling, saying that the NEIGHBOR was crazy and that she should go after her dream...i'm confused icon_confused.gif



Maybe she just saw the capital letters and thought they were saying her story was false? No idea.... icon_confused.gif



that's totally possible
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post #40 of 108
Wow, I didn't realize I was grinding my teeth unfil after I finished reading that! So sorry, that woman is awful, what she did and said and claiming your hard work. Awful.
post #41 of 108
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Actually, this experience points out why you should WANT to start a paying business.

With a paying business, you wouldn't have been begging for the money for ingredients....
With a paying business, you wouldn't have had the woman hovering over you at the grocery store or at home while you're baking.
With a paying business, you never would have allowed her to touch those cookies....
With a paying business, you never would have hitched a ride with DH
With a paying business, when someone claimed that the mother had done most of the work on the cake, you would have loudly told her that she was dead wrong.....

With a paying business, you'd never, ever, have to tolerate beggars wanting to be choosers...

With a paying business, you would have heard the words "not enough money left over for the cake" and you WOULD HAVE TOLD HER TO GO ELSEWHERE FOR HER CAKE.............

This will sound harsh, and it's not meant to be but I don't know how else to put it.......you have every right to be angry with these people, but you can only be taken advantage of by others if YOU allow them to do it. You did, and I'd imagine that deep down, you're angry with yourself right now. It's natural & it's OK. Learn from it.

Once they ASK you for the cake, YOU are in the driver's seat and YOU need to stop the bus the second they try to grab the wheel.

Rae



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post #42 of 108
Don't beat yourself up over this. You do great work and if you enjoy it, keep doing it. I think this happens to a few hobby bakers.
I learned a lesson 2 weeks ago while I was delivering a cake to a friend of a friend. I had just finished setting up the cake and was on my way out the door when a guest at the party ambushed me rambling on about ordering a cake for this, and that, next thing I know she's in tears asking me to "donate" a cake to her uncles funeral. At this point I just wanted out of there and said "ok, but I can't do much on short notice, I'll do what I can" I don't know what he heck I was thinking, but I am always in need of practice ( and I have a hard time saying No) so I let it slide. I was hoping she'd forget about it, and never call. Ohh, she called alright, 27 times in 2 days and also started wanting to make flavor choices, and design choices. I kindly told her "this is not my full time job, I don't have much on hand, I'll do the best I can for you".
I put together what I feel was a nice "FREE" cake and delivered it to her neighbor as she requested because she would be at the funeral. 27 calls in 2 days, but couldn't make 1 call to say "Thank You".
Is it my own fault? Yes, I could have and SHOULD have said no. But I didn't. I was feeling angry , insulted and taken advantage of ,but now I've decided instead of giving up something I enjoy I am going to streamline my customers. If I get any indication that the customer is unreasonable, or just a nightmare from square one, I'm turning down the business no matter how much I like to practice. Some people are just not worth your time, save it for those who are.
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post #43 of 108
Thank you so much for writing your story for us.

I also am a hobby baker, work fulltime and have been requested by a workmate to make her a wedding cake (my first one !). I told her that she would have to pay for all the costs associated with it but would donate my time so that I could get experience and put photos in my portfolio.

My husband thought I was mad when I spent an entire weekend detailing all the costs, drawing up three options for her to chose from and typing up three seperate "informal quotes" for her approval. I included details like - if she wanted to go ahead with the order she needed to sign an acceptance and pay a 50% deposit with the remainder due two weeks before the event.

I had no arguments from her - in fact her first words were she was so happy to see something like this as it had given her confidence that I would deliver by having a professional attitude to it - I had thought she might freak out about the cost and thought I might have to give a detailed breakdown but she was happy with it and chose the most expensive.

With part of the money upfront I have been able to start purchasing items for the cake so that there is no stress trying to run around last minute to get everything.
post #44 of 108
Texas Rose you are so incredibly talented, I never knew you werent in business! OMG I look at your cakes all the time, and you have given me tons of really good advice. Dont let these low lifes stop you from doing something that you are so awesome at, and could have a hugely succesful business doing! You know the truth about the situation and Karma will catch up with those people!

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post #45 of 108
Texas_Rose, I hate that happened to you. If you like or love doing cakes don't let this idiot be the reason you give up. Because in all honesty you will have this type customer from time to time, we all do, you can choose whether or not you want to do a cake for them. I say this with love "grow a pair and tell a**holes like that to hit the road the minute they show their ignorance." If you roll over and let someone push you around, the word will get out that you are a pushover. And when that happens sure as 2 plus 2 is 4 other a**holes like your neighbor will be calling.

If you choose to stick to caking and you want to practice working with larger cakes, get some styrofoam dummies or make a larger cake than usual and throw yourself a party. Make a large cake and donate it to your kids school, a nursing home or local business you have some connection with (a relative's office, your bank, the salon that does your hair etc..). It's just a thought.
If you can't find time it do it right..how will you find time to do it over?
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If you can't find time it do it right..how will you find time to do it over?
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