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He was offended of the cake i made :(

post #1 of 17
12/26/11 at 10:11am
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Heya,
I decided to make my dad a cake for his birthday (which is today). My dad is prone to moods, so i thought it would be funny, and that he'd find it funny, if I made him a Mr Grumpy cake. He's not into drinking beer, or sports, so this is the only thing i could think of.
Anyway, its been mad this week, with my endless hospital visits, and xmas etc, so I barely had enough hours in the day to do one.
I got it finished eventually after many hours, packed it up, and my mum collected it.
Phoned him today and he isnt amused (the grumpy g!t slippers he had for xmas didnt help either), but hes been in a bad mood for days, and this cake was the icing on the cake!
I never thought he would be offended, I actually was quite pleased with it, but after my bad run of cakes, i thought this one was good. Now Im really considering packing it in for good icon_sad.gif

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post #2 of 17
12/26/11 at 10:20am
Well all I can say is the holidays are not a happy time for alot of people especially elderly people so it may have been an odd choice...Regardless though it sounds like he wouldn't have liked any cake no matter what you made...My hubby's mother bit his head off Christmas Eve day when he went to go pick her up at her senoirs home also..He just about left her there...LOL..Cake is cute though...
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post #3 of 17
12/26/11 at 10:30am
I saw this cake before eeing your post, I thought it was cute but wondered what ocassion would fit this cake. Don't worry about it, you meant well. Happy boxing day everyone!
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post #4 of 17
12/26/11 at 10:41am
Sorry your dad was offended - it was funny (and well done) to me! My family has a wacky sense of humor so it would have been great for anyone in my family. My dad just turned 78 in November and my nephew thought the perfect cake for him would be a monkey....so that's what I made (in my gallery). Except for the fact that some family insisted it was a bear, it went well and my dad even posed like a monkey! Don't let it get to you! Keep up the good work!
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post #5 of 17
12/26/11 at 10:48am
Do not feel bad, all I can say is that he is old and they see thing differently...that does not mean that you have to give up something you love doing. Maybe next time make a cake with a smiling face or with the family picture... Hang in there.
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post #6 of 17
12/26/11 at 11:14am
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Thanks, he isnt even elderley, he's 56 lol. He usually can take a joke, but i wasnt to know he's been in a mood over something for days. Ive been so upset over this, i honestly thought he'd like it. There wasnt much else i could do as im not a cake making expert.
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post #7 of 17
12/26/11 at 2:01pm
I bet he still ate the cake icon_biggrin.gif
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post #8 of 17
12/26/11 at 2:38pm
I think the cake is cute. He'll get over his mood. He'll probably laugh about it later.
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post #9 of 17
12/26/11 at 2:55pm
Being grumpy is usually a sign of depression. He may be upset or worried about something. Take it as lesson learned. No one wants to be depicted in a negative way. You did a good job on the cake no need to quit making cakes. Just keep them Happy &upbeat .Happy Birthday to a great Dad would have probably helped to lift his mood. Maybe a happy new year to a great mom.&dad or an I love you Valentines cake for your parents .
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post #10 of 17
12/26/11 at 4:25pm
I agree with Cakery2012. When someone is already feeling depressed or sad the last thing they would appreciate is a birthday cake showing them that they are grumpy. If you knew he was already in a "mood", maybe you could consider making a happier version of a birthday cake to take with an apology. Keep the mood happy and upbeat not grumpy.
My daughter is turning 40 this year and I was thinking of a taking her a cake to celebrate. My husband suggested "over the hill." Her husband and kids never acknowledge her birthdays, she never gets a cake and since we live far away we are not usually together. Because this is her 40th we are making it a point to visit and take a cake. I want her to feel loved and special so I will try to make her a beautiful cake.
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post #11 of 17
12/26/11 at 6:42pm
Maybe your dad would appreciate a happy un-birthday cake. Same cake, but this time turn the frown upside down.
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post #12 of 17
12/26/11 at 7:09pm
Your dad may only be 56 but to some people that is old to them. There may be problems that are not out in the open for family members or anyone. It may be health, (you mentioned hospital visits), or financial something that is not out there for the public may be causing his mood..or grumpiness...(sp?)
My husband never had a good childhood christmas holiday. His parents really never celebrated because his dad would lay out drunk all weekend or holidays... then back to work on monday... not much of a closeness.
.. father in law was just grumpy and would pick on you all the time. christmas was just another day to be horrible... and his birthday was the day after christmas...so from bad to worse.. he lived to be 82
and if not misdiagnosed he would most likely still be here.... so don't let it get you to stop your decorating
just relax tell him for ideas for his next cake or just make it nice and plain... but yummy... you might find in time what is bothering him... or if he is just like my deceased father in law was a horrible and grumpy person...
and enjoy your decorating and your holidays.
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post #13 of 17
12/27/11 at 1:11pm
Give him a couple of days ans then apologize to him and ask him if you can make it up to him. While he is grumpy he probably didnt want that thrown in his face and his feelings got hurt in the process.
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post #14 of 17
12/27/11 at 1:43pm
Are you sure that he's in a bad mood because of your cake?

If he was already in a bad mood before his birthday, maybe he is still bothered by something that has nothing to do with your cake. I don't think a cake would ever be such a big deal. Even if he didn't enjoy it, I don't think it would be something that's sticking around for days to annoy him.

I think you're taking it too personal. You had good intentions and it was just bad timing out of your control. Don't let that make you question your cake decorating. If you still enjoy it, keep making cakes! icon_smile.gif
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post #15 of 17
12/27/11 at 2:00pm
I have to say, my sister is the type that, if I am in a bad mood, she will make a point of calling me bitchy or grumpy, and that does NOT improve my mood. Especially since SHE is usually the person pissing me off in the first place. (Borrowing money, breaking things that have special meaning to me and then saying they shouldn't have been sitting there, etc.)

Sounds like your dad is either depressed or bi-polar. You said he has 'moods' a lot, that is a sure sign of a mental disorder, and there is no shame in that. Has he sought professional help, or is it the sort of thing he tries to brush under the rug? Perhaps you can encourage him to get help and improve the quality of his life, as well as those around him.

The cake is very cute and well made, no doubt about that, it just didn't 'hit him right'. I agree that giving him a personal apology, perhaps explaining that you thought it would make him chuckle and pull him out of his funk, might be a good idea. Sometimes a very simple 'I'm sorry' can work miracles when it's sincere. thumbs_up.gif

Best of luck!
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