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post #376 of 413
Is the answer in there Wykdgud
post #377 of 413
Good god!! You people just kept me from baking mt cakes for an HOUR poring over these 26 pages!

I feel for the OP, I say you should start ignoring this thread right now (which I think you have already) and get back to your regularly scheduled program. It will blow over eventually, just learn your lessons and do the best job you can from here on out icon_smile.gif
post #378 of 413
oh wow.....i just sat and read all 26 pages of this story watched all of the news stories my brain hurts. But i do have to say that the whole child in the hospital happened to me this last weekend things do happen but i made sure that my wedding cake made it to the wedding i was late but i got it there maybe i have my priorities mixed up and i am a bad mother for having my husband stay with my daughter for a little while at the hospital while i delivered the cake keep in mind that i was frantic and worried about my baby girl the whole time. in the end the bride liked me even more due to the fact that even though my daughter was in the hospital i still went out of my way to make her special day perfect. am i the only one who would do that? I'm like katgirl i sure in the heck did not want to have to refund 600.00 that one cake paid for my daughters hospital bill. oh and i sure in the heck did not turn off my cell phone in case my family wanted to get a hold of me for updates on my daughter. i dunno maybe I'm wrong.... icon_confused.gif
post #379 of 413
brain. hurts. 26 pages icon_eek.gif Since the topic of the moment is having the wherewithal to take care of business even in light of personal crisis, I can say that I think that that is mostly a product of personalty. Some people can really only handle what is right in front of them, and others can compartmentalize and think of big pictures. I know that as i get rolling that I need to make contact with other cakers in town to call on for emergency situations, and get that basic wedding dummy complete for emergencies. I do know that if I was placed in crisis, I would probably be able to get deliveries or arrangement made.

We still get a chuckle out of the mass compartmentalization i went into when i found out my mother had suddenly passed. There was a good 4 minutes of pacing and disbelief, then i snapped out of it, called my director "Hi Tim? I'm going to need the rest of this and next week off. My mother just died. Yes, I'll let you know when services are. The files for the blank reception is on my desk and I have two appointments tomorrow that need to be handled or cancelled. Thank you." Then back to sobbing as my husband drove us to the hospital.

I wish the OP all the best in her business, but I do think that she needs to really reevaluate what she is capable of in a professional aspect. Its one thing to operate a one-woman-show for cakes and catering, but if one is going to market themselves as a high-end service provider, then there has to be the high-end customer service, communication, and contingency plans to go with the customer's expectations. I think that the OPs willingness to admit shortcomings and remain off defense on this points that this might be a learning experience that she can work past. Now if her market will look past the damage down in the press.
post #380 of 413
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Originally Posted by Foxicakes


I am anything but naive, I can promise you that. And, I too, know that the information that was sent is true...about the bankruptcy thing. However, I am NOT gullible enough to just broadly think that just because someone had a business failure that they don't have advice that is worth sharing and heeding. Take Dave Ramsey for example. He has declared bankruptcy TWICE!! Yet people still listen to his radio show daily for advice on managing their money. . . Now, what that tells me is that he learned something from these life lessons. He has learned what NOT to do. So, then, isn't it possible that our fellow CCer has the same wisdom to share with others?
My entire point in that was: What was that person's MOTIVE for sending me that information? Certainly it wasn't because she felt the need to "save" me or my business (especially since I have said on here many times that due to my failing health, I do not have one to be concerned for!) No... To me, it seemed like some sort of personal attack on our fellow caker. Taking the time to even cite the fact that she has a "friend" that lives in the CCer's area.
Or, what's more likely is that she has Gladys Kravitz syndrome, in that she's just an old bitter woman with nothing better to do that worry about other people's business and feels like SHE needs to police the rest of us. I mean, God know's we aren't all adults here and can't make our own decisions or do our own research!
To me, that mindset is similar to that of the person that drives in the left lane doing exactly the speed limit and refuses to move over for faster moving traffic. Or, maybe a better example is someone that feels the need to "investigate" every thing someone says, looking for holes in their story, just so they can point them out and call them a liar. Yet these are the same people that don't put up examples of their own work (even though they discuss their business frequently) Nor do they put up their company name OR their website information. My opinion is that if you are going to throw daggers and spew venom at everyone else, then at least open up the playing field and stop hiding in anonymity. My guess would be that if the truth were known, it is the one's that scream the loudest about others being deceptive that are probably the MOST deceptive in the bunch.
It gives a new meaning to "Takes one to know one".



Phew....I can almost read the stress in your post. You may want to consider switching to decaf.

It's noble of you to defend her. Here's my issue. Dave Ramsey is upfront about his bankruptcies. This person is not.

HUGE difference. You may not be naive enough to take her advice, but I can guarantee you there are hundreds of people on here who are. That's sad.
post #381 of 413
I'm unsure why some people are continuing to target the OP and to assert her lack of business acumen or professionalism. (Of course, all the while they are noting their own professionalism.)

She's admitted she's made mistakes and she's learning from them. What more do you want from her? She's not on trial here, and a few posters are beginning to look like a bunch of bullies.

Posters on this thread are getting nastier and nastier. The hostility is expanding to other CC posters, and it's out of hand.

Let's think about taking the high road.
post #382 of 413
Wow...long long thread...can't believe I read the whole thing! Where is the alka selzer!

people make mistakes...we are all human. This is not a court of law and no one should be put on trial here but it sure sounds like that is what is happening. I am sorry for the whole lot of them...including the original poster.

As far as the person who filed bankruptcy and gives out advice...give that person a break too. Just because you file for bankruptcy doesn't mean you don't know what you are talking about. Do you even know what that persons finances were or their personal life is ? Maybe they didn't charge enough and thought they were. Maybe they had health issues that made them have medical bills that became overwhelming. We don't know their circumstances and until we walk in their shoes we should not judge. There are all kinds of people out there that give out advice that have failed in their businesses. Does that mean that they don't know what they are talking about ...Does that mean they haven't learned from their failings? Heck no...
Just because I have lost weight, gained it back and lost it again doesn't mean I don't know how its done . I can give advice because I have done it and succeeded at it then failed at it and succeeded at it again.
KEEP YOUR FRIENDS CLOSE AND YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER! To bad the person who filed the bankruptcy has so called "friends" like that who talk about them behind their back....yeah with friends like that who needs enemies....
post #383 of 413
Guess I've been out of the loop too long since I have no idea who the mystery bankrupt member is. Not that it matters. Just glad it's not me. Yay.

And no, the OP is not on trial and I could care less how this affects her business - personally, since she has kids, I just hope it works out for their sake. The problem I have with the OP is the continual blowing of smoke up my backside. If she would have had the thread removed or at least stopped coming back and embellishing more and more, I'd have let it go a loooooooooooong time ago.
post #384 of 413
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Originally Posted by WykdGud

And no, the OP is not on trial and I could care less how this affects her business - personally, since she has kids, I just hope it works out for their sake. The problem I have with the OP is the continual blowing of smoke up my backside. If she would have had the thread removed or at least stopped coming back and embellishing more and more, I'd have let it go a loooooooooooong time ago.



Exactly. For everything that comes out, OP has an excuse.

It really sounds to me like she got herself way in over her head, getting lots of business with those pictures that weren't hers (never, ever heard of someone having a web designer run their facebook page and post photos on it for them) and then she couldn't keep up with the demands of her business. The excuse of being young, which I've seen several times in this thread, doesn't fly with me...when you're old enough to have a couple of kids, you need to be able to function as an adult.

I hope everything works out for her, and for her customers.

What a mess...but an entertaining mess at that icon_biggrin.gif
post #385 of 413
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Originally Posted by CakeRN

There are all kinds of people out there that give out advice that have failed in their businesses. Does that mean that they don't know what they are talking about ...Does that mean they haven't learned from their failings?




Yes, that's exactly what it means.


The person who tipped me off didn't claim to be her "friend". I have no idea who he/she is because they didn't tell me their cc name in the e-mail so it could be any of you for all I know.

But, that doesn't matter.
post #386 of 413
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Originally Posted by WykdGud

Guess I've been out of the loop too long since I have no idea who the mystery bankrupt member is. Not that it matters. Just glad it's not me. Yay.



I can't believe a "super sleuth" like you hasn't figured it out for yourself. detective.gif
post #387 of 413
Beautiful weather outside today, here in PA...

So..

How is the weather for all of you?

Gotta go put a cake up now...for my son's birthday! So glad he only wants jello cake with cool whip and berries. Phew. That was easy!

Y'all have a great night! icon_biggrin.gif
post #388 of 413
Sounds good kitagirl.

I think I'll take your cue and stop watching this one. It's mind numbing.

Night all!
post #389 of 413
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Originally Posted by Texas_Rose

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Originally Posted by WykdGud

And no, the OP is not on trial and I could care less how this affects her business - personally, since she has kids, I just hope it works out for their sake. The problem I have with the OP is the continual blowing of smoke up my backside. If she would have had the thread removed or at least stopped coming back and embellishing more and more, I'd have let it go a loooooooooooong time ago.



Exactly. For everything that comes out, OP has an excuse.

It really sounds to me like she got herself way in over her head, getting lots of business with those pictures that weren't hers (never, ever heard of someone having a web designer run their facebook page and post photos on it for them) and then she couldn't keep up with the demands of her business. The excuse of being young, which I've seen several times in this thread, doesn't fly with me...when you're old enough to have a couple of kids, you need to be able to function as an adult.

I hope everything works out for her, and for her customers.

What a mess...but an entertaining mess at that icon_biggrin.gif



And what you see as an excuse others see as an explanation. The OP long ago acknowledged her suspect business practices. Yet you and others would rather guess at what happened and assume the OP was lying. The stories since page 1 have been consistent, the claims of another to find inconsistencies which amounted to nothing more than their assumptions about how people would run a business.

That other clients emerged claiming poor service is not a sign the OP lied about the original client. All it is a sign of is poor business pratices which she admitted to.

You would rather continue to beat a dead horse and take pleasure from it than simply walk away from the thread. That does double for the super sleuth who obviously takes pleausure in beating the OP and then tries at wear their "investigating skills" as a badge of honor.
post #390 of 413
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Originally Posted by cakestyles

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Originally Posted by WykdGud

Guess I've been out of the loop too long since I have no idea who the mystery bankrupt member is. Not that it matters. Just glad it's not me. Yay.



I can't believe a "super sleuth" like you hasn't figured it out for yourself. detective.gif



I only figure out what is presented in front of me. I don't have any need to dig any dirt about anyone. I did suspect, and someone confirmed my suspicions. I'm no Sherlock Holmes...

I did figure out it wasn't me though, kudos to me!
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