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post #16 of 24
First, let me say that I took a look at your cakes and you do wonderful work! Second, let me say how hard it is to do cakes with little ones underfoot! Third, hopefully.......your husband will grow wiser and kinder as he grows older. Mine did! icon_smile.gif
You can either be thin and wrinkly or you can eat another piece of cake and fluff those things out!
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You can either be thin and wrinkly or you can eat another piece of cake and fluff those things out!
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post #17 of 24
I just looked at your cakes (saved a couple) they really are beautiful. I've been married for 28 years and if there is one thing I can tell you is they sometimes will say hurtful things about something because they are angry about something else.
He probably wanted spaghetti for dinner and you gave him meatloaf! Shame on you! icon_wink.gif
Or maybe he had a bad day at work, wanted to vent and you were busy making the cake. Anyway I wanted to remind you that after all "he's just a guy!" Now, go bake another amazing cake!
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post #18 of 24
It sounds like miscommunication to me. You wanted rainbows and butterflies and he thought you wanted his opinion. I wish humans came with a signal sometimes- to let us know which reply to give.

Sorry he made you feel bad about your work.
post #19 of 24
Thread Starter 
Thank you all for your support! Wow! A night of a few hours sleep helped a bit, although I had nightmares the whole dang time about the cake, something going wrong, etc. Even had one that when I went to bring it to the party, it collapsed in to a heap!Argh, I had to get out of bed to not deal with it! I will be happy when the cakes are at the party and I can enjoy and relax! I do see the point that now my hubby is a bit spoiled, i.e., not a cake muggle anymore. LOL! It is just that he knows me, knows my sensitivity and all and that all I was looking for was some kind of compliment for a confidence boost. I guess that is a little high maintenance, but like I said, every cake I undertake, I feel incompetent to do. I guess that is my issue. But I don't want to give up. Especially after spending sooooooo much money on caking supplies. I think I should just do more cakes for fun, just to practice and let the kids eat em, LOL!

Again, Thank you so much Cake Friends!
post #20 of 24
I think husbands don't really understand what is involved with a cake because I have 2 small children too running around the house like chickens with their heads cut off, there is no way I can concentrate when they are around. My husband is pretty good about being supportive but certain times he will be like it looks like it's leaning or what's that suppose to be icon_mad.gif ???? Like the cake I did this weekend the purse one, it was my first purse cake and He was like it looks awesome.....it kinda looks like its leaning though!!! Really I said, are purses suppose to be exactly upright anyway Grrrrr!!!

Let it go! Your skills are awesome and sometimes my husband's critiquing helps me to want to improve next time icon_smile.gif
post #21 of 24
It's really the difference between men and women. A man honestly thinks he is being helpful when he criticizes. Most women will try and say something nice before offering criticism.

It might help to have a talk with hubby sometime soon. Not when you are working on a cake. Explain to him that while you understand he is trying to be helpful, what would really help is if he could point out at least 2 good things about your cake before pointing out the flaws.

That and taking the kids off your hands. icon_rolleyes.gif
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post #22 of 24
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Originally Posted by chrissypie

Sorry guys, just need to vent. I was working on a cake for my friends daughters first birthday. I was doing a 2 tier and a 6" smash cake. They were iced in buttercream and then had fondant and gumpaste accents to resemble minnie mouse. When I was done, I asked my husband to come an see, and all he did was criticize!! He pointed out every spot of my buttercream that wasn't smooth! When I explained to him that I had to do these cakes with three screaming kids in the house, he just said that I usually do a better job. I was so hurt. I am already insecure about my cake decorating ability as it is. I never feel like I can do a good job, or at least that I can't do the job that I want to. And the thing is, he knows that, and he said that stuff anyway. Well, I told him off and he stormed off to bed, and I am tired but can't sleep because not only do I feel bad about bringing this cake tomorrow, that I feel is inferior, but I feel like I never want to make a cake again. Truly. Sorry for the vent, I just had to.

Next time, reach him the spatula and see what he can do!
post #23 of 24
LOL thanks indydebi!
post #24 of 24
I don't know what your husband's problem was, but your cakes are darling! I can't wait until you take the cake and everyone sees it! Just wait...they are going to LOVE it!
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