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Wedding cake not served!

post #1 of 219
9/2/10 at 4:40pm
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Has this happened to others?:

Firstly, I'm not a pro decorator or anything, but I make a lot of cakes for family functions etc. When my sister in law got married recently she asked me to make the cake, which I was happy to do (as their wedding gift). She said that they didn't really need a big cake (very small wedding), that two tiers would be enough, but that I could just make whatever I wanted.

So I made a three tier cake, thinking an extra tier would give them loads of cake to serve, and still leave plenty for them to take home/share around as they saw fit. The cake was WAY bigger than what they needed for serving.

Anyway, being the bride's SIL I was at the wedding. When it came time to cut the cake the bride & groom posed for the photos with the knife making the first cut, as you do. But THEN, to my complete bewilderment the bride comes up to me and (I kid you not!) says "I don't think we'll bother cutting the cake up...I don't think anyone's hungry now." icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif

So NOBODY, not the bride & groom or any of the guests ate (or were offered) ANY of the cake. It was not cut up for serving! I still cant get over it. Instead they took the whole (huge!) cake home! I mean WHAT was the point of having a cake? Guests are never hungry at weddings by the time the cake is served, but its not the point the point is that its tradition!..its part of the celebration!

Ive since been told (repeatedly) by the bride & groom and also my mother in law that the cake was absolutely delicious. I cant help but be really disappointed that none of the guests got a taste!
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post #2 of 219
9/2/10 at 4:56pm
That is terrible. I am betting that IF the guests were offered cake it would have gotten eaten...Full or not, there are always people who take dessert even if just to taste it.

So sorry you didnt get the cance to share with everyone.
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post #3 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:00pm
That's strange....who eats cake or anything sweet and decadent because they are "hungry"...not me... Do you think she was trying to save a cutting fee from the caterer (if you weren't going to do that) or maybe she needed the reception to end earlier for cost reasons. Weird.
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post #4 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:01pm
icon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gif I hate to suggest it, but it sounds like they were just being selfish and wanted it all to themselves.

I had a wedding where the groom was of a different nationality. I did the food and another baker did the cake. It was 5 cakes on acrylic stands. I had agreed to cut the cake for them. As I began cutting the cake, the groom's mom came up and said, "She (the bride) said I could take a couple of these back to the hotel with me." I, like a logical person, thought she meant, "So when you're done, be sure to box up the leftover cakes for me to take with me."

Nope. She proceeded to take TWO of the cakes right then and there. AND she tried to take the two BIGGEST ones! icon_surprised.gif When she went for the 14", I stopped her and said, "I really am going to need that one to serve all of the guests." Her whole demeanor was "I'm getting mine FIRST and you can serve those other people whatever is left!"
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post #5 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:02pm
Such a bummer! For you as the cake maker to not get to enjoy others enjoying your cake, and for the guests at the wedding who were completely denied said cake! Boo! After reading several threads related to this type of 'challenge' at weddings, I vow to cut and serve my wedding cake BEFORE dinner is served. Then again, maybe I'll only have cake, and lots of it! icon_wink.gif
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post #6 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:04pm
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Originally Posted by TrixieTreats

That's strange....who eats cake or anything sweet and decadent because they are "hungry"...not me... Do you think she was trying to save a cutting fee from the caterer (if you weren't going to do that) or maybe she needed the reception to end earlier for cost reasons. Weird.



Well I was going to cut it up for them, and the reception was held at a family member's private residence, so it can't be either of those.
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post #7 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:14pm
Wow! So she put it out to tempt the guests and then rolled it off? I'd have done the same with her wedding gift...dangle it on a string and watch her jump for it, then yank it away and leave.
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It's marshmallow, not marshmellow! Aaargh, I have the strangest pet peeves!
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Housework makes you ugly.

It's marshmallow, not marshmellow! Aaargh, I have the strangest pet peeves!
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post #8 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:16pm
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Originally Posted by indydebi

icon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gif I hate to suggest it, but it sounds like they were just being selfish and wanted it all to themselves.

I had a wedding where the groom was of a different nationality. I did the food and another baker did the cake. It was 5 cakes on acrylic stands. I had agreed to cut the cake for them. As I began cutting the cake, the groom's mom came up and said, "She (the bride) said I could take a couple of these back to the hotel with me." I, like a logical person, thought she meant, "So when you're done, be sure to box up the leftover cakes for me to take with me."

Nope. She proceeded to take TWO of the cakes right then and there. AND she tried to take the two BIGGEST ones! icon_surprised.gif When she went for the 14", I stopped her and said, "I really am going to need that one to serve all of the guests." Her whole demeanor was "I'm getting mine FIRST and you can serve those other people whatever is left!"




I don't understand people like that. Surely the whole point of a cake at a celebratory function is that it's to SHARE amongst the guests, otherwise why bother?

I think you might be onto something about them wanting it for themselves. It got cut into big chunks and put in my MILs freezer (because the bride didnt have enough space in hers) the next day. A few weeks later when my MIL had (again) said how delicious the cake was I (knowing she had heaps of it in her freezer still) hinted that I would like a little taste sometime, so I can see what it was like inside. She said shed love to be able to give me a little piece, but that she better not because shed get in trouble for giving bits away!
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post #9 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:21pm
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Originally Posted by artscallion

Wow! So she put it out to tempt the guests and then rolled it off? I'd have done the same with her wedding gift...dangle it on a string and watch her jump for it, then yank it away and leave.



LOL
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post #10 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:22pm
If it makes you feel any better, you gave them a GREAT gift and gave them what they wanted. It stinks nobody got to taste your cake but you can still be very proud of it icon_biggrin.gif
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post #11 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:28pm
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Originally Posted by mandymakescakes

Such a bummer! For you as the cake maker to not get to enjoy others enjoying your cake, and for the guests at the wedding who were completely denied said cake! Boo! After reading several threads related to this type of 'challenge' at weddings, I vow to cut and serve my wedding cake BEFORE dinner is served. Then again, maybe I'll only have cake, and lots of it! icon_wink.gif



LOL, cake should definitely be served first! icon_biggrin.gif

It annoys me when I think of all the effort and ingredients I put into it...what a waste. I can't help but wonder why I bothered and to think that I went to the effort of making it bigger than she wanted specifically so she would have plenty of leftovers to take home!
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post #12 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:31pm
Well talk about rude. I go to any wedding or birthday or what have you, it is the dessert I am interested in.

While t is not a wedding I have a friend that I made a b-day cake for. We were @ a scrapbooking crop. I had mentioned to her and the consultant in charge of thecrop tht there would be cake. While I know it was her ake and I made it for her, I just assumed we would be serving it @ the crop. Later in the evening she cut the cake, offered a piece to me and the consultant but that was it. She boxed it back up and put it aside totake home. I felt bad because peo[le had been admiring it and tlking about it but it did not get cut up and served to any one else. I felt it was rude.
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post #13 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:34pm
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Originally Posted by Redsoxbaker

If it makes you feel any better, you gave them a GREAT gift and gave them what they wanted. It stinks nobody got to taste your cake but you can still be very proud of it icon_biggrin.gif



Thanks Redsoxbaker icon_smile.gif

I'd post a pic of it, just for interest sake, but I'm yet to figure out how to do that on here. It was actually my very first wedding cake, and also my first attempt at a three tier cake, so I was a quite proud of my efforts.
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post #14 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:43pm
You should be proud! You made a lovely gift for somebody, more than was asked for and with all the best intentions.
After reading many posts about weddings and brides, I have come to the conclusion weddings send brides nutty! Enough said
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post #15 of 219
9/2/10 at 5:45pm
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Here's a pic, if anyone's interested:

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I'm no professional decorator, but for a first wedding cake, first three tier, I was pretty happy with it (although In retrospect I should have had the bride & groom closer together).
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