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post #46 of 64
7/15/10 at 10:20am
MJoy... as I said in my post, my son has a ton of allergies... I am not being insensitive. I have made all of his birthday cakes... and I make one small one for him and regular cake for all the guests. If the request was for a small gluten-free cake, I might have given it a shot. I personally just don't want to subject everyone to the "whatever-free" cakes, knowing the ones I make aren't the greatest. Maybe I am abnormal...
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post #47 of 64
7/15/10 at 10:35am
Any chance this bride and her mom are trying to make sure it's a scratch cake they are getting? Did you tell them before that you bake chocolate from scratch and white from a box? Maybe the bride's mom asked her if she had made sure that the cakes were from scratch - allergy or not. Maybe it's a good excuse to make sure it's a scratch cake... and if you said that your chocolate is from scratch, perhaps they assume you must also be able to make white cake from scratch. Just a thought.

If it really was an allergy or food intolerance and it was my mom, I, too, would want my cake to be made for her to be able to eat. Why not? At least in my wedding, my parents were a big part of the day (and were footing the bill!)
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post #48 of 64
7/15/10 at 10:39am
I also believe that what they want is that both cakes be made from scratch; there is no allergy, but they figure if they say there is an allergy then they are assured of a scratch cake. For example - and I know this is terrible - I hate parsley and in some restaurants they put parsley in everything or even use it as a garnish/plate decoration, so I usually ask if there is parsley in the dish and fib saying that I am allergic so that parsley does not touch my dish in any way.
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post #49 of 64
7/15/10 at 11:06am
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Originally Posted by moralna

I also believe that what they want is that both cakes be made from scratch; there is no allergy, but they figure if they say there is an allergy then they are assured of a scratch cake. For example - and I know this is terrible - I hate parsley and in some restaurants they put parsley in everything or even use it as a garnish/plate decoration, so I usually ask if there is parsley in the dish and fib saying that I am allergic so that parsley does not touch my dish in any way.



I think this is it exactly. Since the BTB is avoiding your questions it makes me feel even more strongly that this is all an act to get scratch cake. I don't understand why they wouldn't just ask you though.

I would stress that you absolutley have to know what it is in the box mix that she is allergic to otherwise that same ingredient could end up in the scratch cake as well and you don't want to take any chances of her getting sick. If it were me and she couldn't tell me what it was MOB is sensitive to then I'd suggest to her that her mother not eat cake at all. You can't be sure that any of the cake you bake is going to be safe. Maybe if you play it up with them they'll back off and be honest.
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post #50 of 64
7/15/10 at 1:01pm
I would think the lady would know if she was allergic to flour, eggs, butter, milk, buttermilk, sugar or vanilla. If it was one of those, she wouldn't say she was allergic to box cake. What exactly is it that everyone keeps saying would be in the scratch cake that is also in box cake that she'd be allergic to? If she's allergic for real, it would be to a preservative or a dye. And I'm going to guess it's not a dye, since there is probably some color going on the cake in decoration somewhere.

I really think the point here is that they want a scratch cake. I don't think it matters what exactly she is allergic to in box mix (if she's actually allergic) because she obviously knows she "can" eat scratch cake (and most scratch white cakes have the same ingredients, just different proportions).

I can't figure out why most people here aren't just saying... either you make her a scratch cake or you tell her you don't do scratch white cakes. I'm not sure why everyone is making the MOB out to be a villain. Even if it's not an allergy, the woman (and probably the bride) just wants her cake to be from scratch - not a sin, right?
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post #51 of 64
7/16/10 at 12:06pm
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I agree that I think she/they just want to make sure that they get the "best " cake possible ... which in their opinion is scratch not box.

I 100% understand food allergies, my dad's side of the family (including myself) are all ... "sensitive" to onions. I don't know that I would say allergic only b/c I think of allergies as being more physical (swelling, suffocating, hives, etc.) we have alot of sneezing, coughing, sinus pressure, watery eyes, mild vomiting ... tapedshut.gif I don't say "i can't eat mexican food" I say "i can't eat onions" 2 completely different things!

... Anyways! icon_rolleyes.gif LOL

I was texting back & forth with the B2B the other night & asked her to be more specific but she just danced around it & was really really vague. I told her that I was researching it online & consulting with fellow cakerators to try & come up with a safe recipe.

Her final text to me was :
B2B ~ Wow, thnx. Don't stress over it though! Just as long as the cake taste awesome! I'll just tell her to take a benedryl before eating it .. lol

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post #52 of 64
7/19/10 at 7:10am
and there it is. . .why did she have to put you through all of that nonsense?
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post #53 of 64
7/19/10 at 7:15am
forward that text to your e-mail and print it for future reference when she complains about something.
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post #54 of 64
7/19/10 at 7:32am
I would NOT be trying out new recipes 2 weeks before the wedding. Seriously. Is the bride going to pay for the extra expense you are about to incur just beause MOB is allergic to "Box Mixes"? And what happens if you can't find a recipe that works?

I do not believe she has an allergy. Anyone who is actually allergic to a food product generally knows what it is and can tell you specifically what it is. Trust me, they would have brought this issue up at the tasting or long before this IF it were actually an issue. This woman just wants to make sure you are making the cake from scratch.

I would go ahead and make the cake you were orginally going to make. I bet anything she doesn't get sick and they rave about the taste.

Just to CYA though I would tell the bride that after giving it thought you are sticking with the cake they originally ordered and advise MOB not to eat it if she is worried about getting sick. I serioulsly doubt she's going to cancel the order and if they do then you dodged a bullet.

On a side note - I have an allergy clause in my contract.
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post #55 of 64
7/19/10 at 7:56am
Do I have this correct? The bride does not know what her mother is allergic to?

My mom is allergic to sulfa drugs. My nephew is allergic to something in melons. I know this. I know this because I spend time with them so I need to know this just in case something happens.

My mom "used" to be allergic to mayo. She finally fessed up that she just doesn't like it. Why did she lie all those years? I dunno.

I find it very suspicious that the bride doesn't know- unless she's a self-centered prima donna. I think you'd know that by now, though. Maybe.
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post #56 of 64
7/19/10 at 11:23am
Put me in the column with "I think this is bullsh*t".

If I puffed out all over my face when I ate a cake from a mix, you bet your a$$ I'd be at the doctor's office the next day to find out what the hell is going on!

I've been in a "I'm sick of putting up with people like this!" all week long so in my present state of mind, I'd be handing them the deposit back and telling them that under advice from my attorney and my insurance company, I think they need to find another baker who can make "Some kind" of cake she can eat .... whatever that may be.

Some people need to learn that lying has consequences .... and the consequence here is they have to find another baker just weeks before the wedding.

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post #57 of 64
7/19/10 at 11:44am
what if her allergy is gluten
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post #58 of 64
7/19/10 at 11:49am
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Originally Posted by Dolledupcakes

what if her allergy is gluten


then she couldn't eat any cake, scratch or not, unless it was made with some kind of rice flour/cornstarch/tapioca flour etc... If the allergy here was gluten, there is NO WAY it wouldn't have been mentioned by now icon_smile.gif
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post #59 of 64
7/19/10 at 11:51am
And another thing.......! icon_twisted.gif

This also sounds like a mom who needs to be the center of attention, even if it's her own daughter's wedding. "Look how special *I* am .... *I* have to have a special cake! Everyone should feel sorry for *ME* because it's so HARD for *ME* to enjoy the same things as everyone else!" blah. blah. blah. And bluntly I think she's making it up as she goes.

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post #60 of 64
7/19/10 at 12:09pm
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Originally Posted by indydebi

And another thing.......! icon_twisted.gif

This also sounds like a mom who needs to be the center of attention, even if it's her own daughter's wedding. "Look how special *I* am .... *I* have to have a special cake! Everyone should feel sorry for *ME* because it's so HARD for *ME* to enjoy the same things as everyone else!" blah. blah. blah. And bluntly I think she's making it up as she goes.

(told you .... I'm in a mood!) icon_rolleyes.gif


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