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post #1 of 31
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I am wondering peoples opinions and experience with having cupcakes at a funeral. I offered to make cupcakes for my Uncle's funeral and then I got to thinking that it may be tacky. My husband and MIL say that it is fine but I am just not sure, it doesn't sit right with me for some reason. I would love to hear some opinions on this. Thank you.
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post #2 of 31
I think maybe the reason you feel its tacky may be because cakes and cupcakes are more symbals of celebration. It's fine in the context of celebrating his life if you relate them to maybe something he loved or symbalized him?? I dont think its tacky, but i understand where your coming from...I feel the same about cookies. I think sweets just make people feel good, and thats not really feelings associated with funerals..

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post #3 of 31
I think every little bit helps, and if that's what you'd like to do, it would be appreciated by your family. Perhaps you could ask if they're planning a theme.

I went to my neighbors funeral last night and I have to admit, it was the best funeral "celebration" ever. I didn't expect a theme, but his hobby was fishing and it was very obvious. All of his kids even wore photo t-shirts with his most recent catch!

When I volunteered to help with food or anything, I was told that his sister had it all covered. Much to my surprise, his grown children asked if I brought a cake anyway! Now I regret not taking the opportunity to bring something anyway!
post #4 of 31
I attended a funeral and was asked to make a chocolate cake in honor of the deceased because she loved chocolate cake....so I don't think it's tacky....
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post #5 of 31
no hon, it is not tacky. people bring their "favorite or signature" dish to funerals all the time. Cake is what you do. But by making cupcakes you're making it easier to serve. If it makes you feel better, you can make simple iced white or chocolate ones. leaving off decorations/sprinkles.. etc..
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post #6 of 31
No it isn't tacky. Like tesso suggested I wouldn't add sprinkles or decorate. Sorry to hear of your family's loss.
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post #7 of 31
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Thank you ladies. I had not planned on decorating. But ou all did get em thinking he hasd shown a a genuine interest in my baking and asked me about it lots. I told him I would bring him a cupcake to try he decided he would of liked to try the Choc Chip Chai ones I do. I told him I would bring one to him. I had one baked and in a container for him but when I went to see him he had taken a turn for the worse and was unable to eat it so I think in memory of that I will make Choc. Chip Chai cupcakes for the funeral.
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post #8 of 31
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Thank you ladies. I had not planned on decorating. But ou all did get em thinking he hasd shown a a genuine interest in my baking and asked me about it lots. I told him I would bring him a cupcake to try he decided he would of liked to try the Choc Chip Chai ones I do. I told him I would bring one to him. I had one baked and in a container for him but when I went to see him he had taken a turn for the worse and was unable to eat it so I think in memory of that I will make Choc. Chip Chai cupcakes for the funeral.



I love that idea and I am sure the family will too.
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post #9 of 31
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Originally Posted by luvbuttercream

Thank you ladies. I had not planned on decorating. But ou all did get em thinking he hasd shown a a genuine interest in my baking and asked me about it lots. I told him I would bring him a cupcake to try he decided he would of liked to try the Choc Chip Chai ones I do. I told him I would bring one to him. I had one baked and in a container for him but when I went to see him he had taken a turn for the worse and was unable to eat it so I think in memory of that I will make Choc. Chip Chai cupcakes for the funeral.



I love that idea and I am sure the family will too.



What a lovely idea, When my Dad passed away 6yrs ago, the family set aside a small table at the venue for my 'Dad'. One of my sister's bought a pint of Guinness, Dad's favourite. I bought 20 woodbine and a box of matches. Other little things were placed on the table in memory of Dad. Everyone said afterwards how nice that was. Just little things you do that mean something special to you in a loved ones memory helps a lot at time like that. xxx
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post #10 of 31
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Thank you! The more I think about it and read all your stories I am more and more certain that I am doing something special. Again Thank you icon_smile.gif
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post #11 of 31
I would agree with everyone else. For my wife's grandfathers funeral there were Hawkeye cookies because he loved the Iowa Hawkeyes.
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post #12 of 31
My cousin, who was my BFF as kids, died about 2 weeks ago and I took cupcakes to her funeral. I do not find it tacky at ALL. Everyone loves my cupcakes, everyone brings food, nothing wrong with bringing food you know people will love. People bring pies, brownies, etc. why not cupcakes? I mean, sure, if you're making them in liner that have "Congratulations" on them, yah, not so good. Otherwise, you're golden. In situations like that, the close family is just thankful for the emotional support and the help in making sure there is something to eat. thumbs_up.gif Bless your heart for pitching in!
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post #13 of 31
Last October my brother in law was brutally taken from us at the hand of his friend. Difficult to say the least.

We gathered at a place for a family memorial and I baked cupcakes to take for dessert for the big official family dinner. I went with cupcakes because we were at a property with cabins (all 7 cabins were family) and all of them were open to come in/out of.

When the cupcakes came out no one was crying foul and everyone was glad for a dessert/something sweet to finish off dinner with.

I thought that would be the hardest order of my life... until April.

My stepmom passed away very suddenly and unexpected.

I was asked to do a cake for the family dinner by my dad. Ugh... along with helping get him through it, planning everything etc I decided a cake would be to messy and suck up to much time . I reverted again to cupcakes. I did her favorite flavor (chocolate cupcakes filled with raspberry mousse with chocolate raspberry frosting), a 1M swirl and a red rose on each made from fondant served in black liners.

I have always been about presentation though and made sure that when I am serving to a funeral that it's a classy look and I do the best for the person I am paying respects to.

Cupcakes can be done for all occasions from birthday, wedding, showers, and funerals/time of mourning as long as they are done to fit the occasion.
post #14 of 31
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Thank you Carolyn and Melvira I am so sorry for both your losses but am very much inspired by both of you, you seem like incredibly strong women.

And Melvira I will most definitely stay away from liners that say Congratulations. icon_smile.gif
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post #15 of 31
I think that would be a safe bet! icon_smile.gif

Carolyn, I'm really sorry to hear such bad news for you. Hope things are getting brighter day by day!
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