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post #106 of 127
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At our wedding we contacted a local butterfly farm and got butterflies for everyone to release instead of bubbles or rice or bird seed. Original and most people thought it was really cool.



I love this idea... it would have been so much fun!



had to pee on the idea but from the north american butterfly association: "Breeding butterflies for release into the wild at special events poses serious risks to wild butterfly populations and is not endorsed by conservationists"

http://www.naba.org/orgwed.html

i remembered this because when my nephew got married his wife was told all the reasons why it was wrong



Actually our butterflies were bred locally by our local botanical garden, they release into their garden frequently, actually its a big thing every year "the butterfly release." Since we had our wedding in their garden, they assured us that it was kosher to release the butterflies...
post #107 of 127
Ok, love2makecakes, I just have to say that your avatar picture is making me drool! icon_razz.gif
post #108 of 127
I was at a friend's wedding where butterflies were released. I thought, what a cool idea!

But they were kept in thin little envelope-like boxes which I thought was kind of cruel, and you could hear them struggling and trying to flap their constrained wings which made a lot of their "feathers" come off making flight difficult to impossible. I imagine putting them into the boxes didn't help their delicate wings. And they had been captive prisoners, squeezed in those boxes for at least 24 hours. Poor butterflies!

When it was time to release them most were dead, and the ones that weren't fluttered pitifully, didn't make it far then landed soon after and died. Children were horrified.

It was really sad. And the bride was such a nature lover. I would never recommend this for a wedding.
post #109 of 127
wow, some people. It amazes me how brides want a top $ gown, white stretch limo and cheap food.

We had a low budget wedding, under a 100 just close family and friends. I wanted our geusts to be able to relax and enjoy the chance to catch up with family and friends. So we had fewer people, served food I made myself, lots and lots of hot beefs along with salads and veggies bought at Sam's Club.

I admit I didn't know much about cakery then, other than baking and was inspired to make my own cake. I was talked out of it, thank goodness, but we kept our cake affordable by having a sheet cake with a small push in tier that was a heart. I got it from a good local bakery and while it wasn't stunning it was pretty and it tasted good.

My cousin's wedding cake cost around $1200 and tasted like sawdust. I make my cakes about quality including taste and I haven't heard any complaints yet. When I get sticker shock from brides I have learned to point out more affordable options like sheet cakes from Costco. icon_biggrin.gif
post #110 of 127
cai0311,

OMGosh that is awful!! Or maybe they are used to that kind of set up? But I can't imagine EVERY guest is Italian or a family member and would be okay with a cannoli. How weird!!! Does it really save them a lot of money to purchase all of those handmade desserts vs. a real 3 or 4 tier cake?

I would be one of those guests eyeballing the beautiful 3 tiered cake and waiting impatiently for my slice. icon_mad.gif
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post #111 of 127
ok seeing as we are talking wedding ettique i thought i may ask for some advice (sorry in advance if i ramble..=/)

an old work colleague of mine, who i was and sort of still am, very close to is getting married. Anyway, me being me, offer to do whatever i can to help, because i have no life and love a good wedding! hehe.

anyway, so engagment party, shes asks me to do the engagment cake for her! i jump at the chance, spend hours researching, invite her around, make little cupcakes for her to have a "tasting" and go over my research to help decided what she wants.

Anywho, shes says shell get back to me, she just need to figure out the cupcake stand etc. im getting all excited.. she never gets back to me =(. went to the engagment party, and she just had a "sheet cake" as you all call them.. lol. yea... CUT!

sooo, back to now, im still asking about wedding plans, still all excited, she asks me to do her bachelorette cake (well see if it eventuates...), and then asks if i can help with music, SURE! no probs=). i have an itunes library of 6,000 songs, so that fine by me.

Anyway, so then after i said thats fine by me.. she asks me if i can be the "dj" at her wedding. by which she means can i sit next to the speakers with an ipod to make sure the right songs are played at the right time......

Now, shes knows i have a very busy little 17 month old who will be coming along, and as im a single mum, there wont be anyone there who can take care of him... soo i used my son to get out of it .. hehe.. kids are excellent excuse makers!!

so, just wondering, am i right to find this incredibly rude? this girl i considered to be one of my closest friends who wanted to hide me away in a corner for her wedding? am i REALLY that embarrassing??!?! honestly ill probably have to make a quick get away with my son anyway.. dont see him lasting too long in a room full of "dont touches..."



oh also.. on the topic of whole open bar thing.. i for sure wont be having one if i ever get married. i dont even know if i will serve alcohol. im not big on it, and people close to me know my reasons and would respect that.. but yeah, no way would i want drunks wandering around everywhere.. ruining my big day..=(
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post #112 of 127
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I........ Children were horrified.
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im laughing over here at the image (not because of the poor butterflies) because then everyone goes to the reception and there is no cake so the kids are horrifed, the adults are horrified, therapy for all
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post #113 of 127
There have always been wedding favours at weddings I went to, but they are always food. It used to be the mesh bag of square mints, but now it will usually be candy or chocolates. For my wedding, we used Jelly Bellies because Costco had just started carrying big bags of them. And most people opened them up and ate them while they were waiting for the bride/groom to appear and supper to be served.

As for birthday party grab bags, I refuse to do them. Yes, kids like them, but as far as I can tell, they mostly get dumped out and wasted. I just think there is too much expense and high expectation around parties. The one thing my kids DO get, though, is a good looking birthday cake!
post #114 of 127
i do lolly bags for my sons parties. but as far as i can rmemeber, we have always done them here. they are nothing fancy, just a bag full of lollies and maybe a tooter and a balloon or something... so the sugar rush can continue for the parents at home.. hehee
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post #115 of 127
icon_lol.gif You folks in Australia are going to be the death of me as I learn some of the phrasing you use! icon_lol.gif I just learned in another thread what "rellie" means.

Around here, a "tooter" is the noise you make when you pass gas (and I dont' mean a burp!) icon_lol.gif
post #116 of 127
hahaha well, im not sure how youd go about getting one iof those into a party bag? lmao. tooters are those little party horns you get.. and they "toot" when you blow them. lol
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post #117 of 127
Ahhh....I have had the pleasure of attending some interesting weddings.

Like the one where we were informed that we were paying for our own dinner (when we arrived at the restaurant), fortunately the restaurant was having trouble seating everyone (the couple had made reservations for about 60% of the guests) so we had no problem bowing out of that one.

Or the one where the couple hired a cross dresser and an over weight belly dancer to "entertain" the guests. The over weight belly dancer was literally rubbing her belly in the very embarrassed guests faces. It cleared the whole dinner room. Honestly, I don't remember the cake, we left soon after.

One of my favorites was the one were my then fiance (now DH) whispered to me as the bride walked down the isle. "So that's the mother of the bride?" Confused because she was wearing an ivory ballooned southern bell, funky 1700 century....god knows I can't describe it....looked like it was made out of burlap sack and she wore a tall ivory "grand pooh-bah" hat on top with a ivory tassle hanging off to one side. Oddest dress I've ever seen. My DH had met the groom outside, and he was a young normal looking man, and well the bride was at least 10 years his senior and fairly eccentric. It was all I could do to just lean over and whisper. "No dear, that IS the bride." I thought for half a moment my husband was going to shout out. "Dear God Man! Have you thought this through??!!" But he was good.

The reception that followed was just as interesting....I recall my favorite quote from that was right after the bouquet was thrown. I won't describe who caught it, but there were three literally diving for it, rolling around on the floor, all I saw was acres of taffeta, finally someone got away with it. One of the tipsier young men shouted. "Well, who's gonna marry her???!!!" Then he got a sharp elbow from him mom. Then turned to his mom in a loud voice and shrieked. "Weeeellll, who is??" My DH turned to me and said. "So ya ready to go?" "Yeah, I'm ready." I sort of remember some cake being thrown in the background, but I didn't stick around to catch my piece.

First two couples divorced shortly thereafter, the third has been married now for over 16 years.
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post #118 of 127
Wow! The more I read about weddings over there, the more it strikes me how different our weddings really are.

Here you tend to have an afternoon wedding. Around 3:00ish. The ceremony is what everyone comes to. Sometimes people you couldn't afford to invite to the wedding will come and watch the ceremony - like the parents of your friends, work mates etc. 4 Bridesmaids is considered to be a BIG wedding party. The FIRST time the groom sees the bride is when she walks down the aisle. After the ceremony, the guests congratulate you and take some photos with you. Then the bridal party goes off to have photos together. Most of the guests find something to do for an hour or so - often you go somewhere for coffee or a drink.

The guests then make their way to the reception venue. Often it will start anytime between 5:00 and 6:00 where predinner drinks and hors d'oeuvres are served. The guests are then seated and the bridal party arrives. You would NEVER invite someone to the reception that wasn't invited to the ceremony. And you absolutely feed everyone at the reception - the same food that the Bride and Groom are eating!

For the majority of weddings I've been to, the cake was cut up and left on the coffee table or offered to guests where they were seated, not used as dessert. This is because it pretty much costs the same to give your guests dessert and then serve the wedding cake as it does to have the wedding cake plated up for dessert. I can't say that I care either way if I get a piece of wedding cake or not. And our wedding cakes tend to be mudcakes but I have never had a torted wedding cake.

An average wedding is 80 - 120 people (at least for the weddings I've been to). An intimate wedding is 40 - 60 people. Italian and Greek weddings are the exception and I've heard they are around 300 - 400 but there aren't many venues that can accommodate those numbers.

I know that cocktail parties are gaining popularity but most people would rather a sit-down meal.

I know I am generalising in a huge way about our weddings and probably another Aussie would contradict what I have said but I find the stories I've been reading on here so strange. It seems that the majority of weddings are around 200+ guests. Is that the case? Maybe it's just the crazy ones that have weddings that big? And why are there such big bridal parties? And why would a bride and groom ask people to be in their bridal party if they don't like them?

Oh - and for my favors, I had little organza bags filled with white jellybeans. The guests LOVED it. They ate them while they were waiting for their meals. I also had chocolate hearts scattered over the table which people appreciated too.
post #119 of 127
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I was at a friend's wedding where butterflies were released. I thought, what a cool idea!

But they were kept in thin little envelope-like boxes which I thought was kind of cruel, and you could hear them struggling and trying to flap their constrained wings which made a lot of their "feathers" come off making flight difficult to impossible. I imagine putting them into the boxes didn't help their delicate wings. And they had been captive prisoners, squeezed in those boxes for at least 24 hours. Poor butterflies!

When it was time to release them most were dead, and the ones that weren't fluttered pitifully, didn't make it far then landed soon after and died. Children were horrified.

It was really sad. And the bride was such a nature lover. I would never recommend this for a wedding.



OMG! I am appalled! Ours were in small crystal clear boxes and I am happy to say that NONE were dead.
post #120 of 127
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Ok, actually, I DO make wedding potatoes! icon_redface.gificon_lol.gif Not to be argumentative at all, I totally agree with the point of what was said, but I have a dish that I actually call "Wedding Potatoes"! Just thought that was funny.




hehehehe, no offense taken icon_biggrin.gif I know you knew where I was coming from thumbs_up.gif I would like your recipe for wedding potatoes...and I think I will change my little rant to wedding green beans or something icon_wink.gif
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