Originally Posted by LaBellaFlor
And for the record I LOVE me some Mensch. She actually gives very good advice and is spot on with a lot of things, has very high standards, and everyone would see this...if they could get pass their sensitive ways.
As far as sensitivity goes, if lots of people have a problem with one or two then the common denominator is that person and there must be something or some way they are offending lots of people, be it the person you mentioned or someone else. To many people hide rudeness and meaness behind "I don't sugarcoat things" or "just because you don't agree with what I said you think I am rude". That's not the case. I and most people can disagree with everything anyone says but I/we don't have to be rude or ugly to do so.
And as far as high standards, that has to be proven before most of us believe (even though we might not say anything). People online can't just tell people how bad they are, or how they do things wrong (like comparing the words cake truffles to poo) without proving you have the high standards they say they have. I mean, I could actually do that myself, because I have read so much that I can pretty much answer most questions on here but, I am not a professional in caking and don't pretend to be.
Most of times people like that have a very hard time giving compliments because of their insecurity and if they are forced to will usually just say as less as possible, like "cheers" because they really feel insecure. They don't realize everyone recognizes their insecurity but they don't say anything.
I think most board members know the people that really try to help but yet can sometimes have a way of saying things that are a bit, um, crass or insensitive (could be me sometime) to some people. Knowing that person is really helpful usually ends with their post being considered humorous. But there are some that seem to search out posts to be confrontational and rude and rarely give any constructive criticism or advice or state their opinions without being rude or negative. In this thread a pp replied to something I posted and said they thought "I was on my own on this one". I didn't take offense, it wasn't rude or crass. It was their opinion and that's OK. But they didn't say I was stupid or my idea was cr$p.
Please note I am not speaking about anyone specifically. We all have a right to be here and have rights to our opinions but we have a duty, in my opinion, to be respectful of each other and other's opinions and each other's way of doing things without calling names or saying their ideas or ways are stupid.
LaBella I have found you extra helpful and nice lately and I feel sure that the silent majority recognizes it also! Thanks
Ok just my 2 cent, speaking my opinion and not speaking for anyone else.
In Rodney Kings famous words "Can't we all just get along?"...lol