So, I don't get it, are we supposed to feel sorry for her? I am not saying that sarcastically at all.
What I meant by self denial is that some folks (not all) think that life just won't be the same if they don't have certain things that truly are luxuries. Yeah, it would be great if everyone enjoyed a luxury every now and again, no doubt.
But the fact is that we (society) can do with out a lot of the things we have or think are important and be just fine. That's my only point to that statement.
Do I understand that when one needs assistance you fill out forms and basically say-- this is what I have and we can't get by on it. We need help.
Is that the basics of it?
Please correct me if I misunderstand (again no sarcasm intended).
Lots of us juggle bills all the time. I see that as different from going in and saying "I can't make it with the amount, I need help to get by". That's what makes it beyond their means, needing someone to buy her wedding cake with food stamps because her funds are low makes it beyond her means. I don't see that as within any bounds of her ability to pay.
Just because a person can do something doesn't make it the best choice. Sometimes it's about doing the right thing when no one is watching.
I think it would be different if someone needed
food or needed help with something essential. Honestly, I make money from making cakes but these cakes are not essential to anyone's life. Nice, yes but not essential.
Heck, my mom was a struggling single parent. We got a box mix and canned frosting in a pyrex dish with a few candles-- we had very happy bdays!