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julzs71 Posted 2 May 2009 , 4:42pm
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bakermommy4 what culinary school are you going to now?

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bakermommy4 Posted 2 May 2009 , 4:58pm
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michellenj, the oldest daughter told me it wasn't an accident, she said that after the mom knocked the cake over...she made the comment "it was too big anyway, no one wants all that cake". But it was exactly what her daughter asked for. The girls totally LOVE their mom, and she's done worse things than this cake issue trust me I could go on forever. The worst is she calls them her little b**tchs. They love and respect me now, we me and their father first married, they would tell me they don't have to do what i say because their mom said so. They are 12 and 14.

Sometimes I don't know what to do because my oldest is 10 and the rules in our house are TOTALLY diff than in theirs. I do love them to death, they are good girls and I'm saddened all of the time about the environment they are being raised in. My husband also refers to my children as his, which my youngest is his. I refer to his as mine also.

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bakermommy4 Posted 2 May 2009 , 4:59pm
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I'm at the Culinary Program at the College of Southern Nevada...I'll be finished next month.

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julzs71 Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:02pm
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I'm Apryle, a graduate from culinary school with an Associates in Pastry Arts. I simply love baking great desserts and making them look wonderful. My passion for cake design actually started as a hobby a couple of years ago. I noticed in one of the local chain grocery bakeries what people were paying for flash frozen...never fresh cakes with minimal decorative effort and thought "hey, why not fill the void". So Divine Desserts was born.



Being a mom myself, I know what it means to want a unique breathtaking cake for your childs birthday or for any loved ones special event and not have to take from the kids college funds to do so!

I saw this on your website.....Which one is right?

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bakermommy4 Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:11pm
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Well yeah, I did say I was already a graduate, but hey...I graduate in about 29 days...I just had the website made last week. I may have rushed a bit, but I've been in school forever and why not go ahead and say I've graduated...technically I have...I'm just waiting for the formal walk.LOL

Thanks for being so observant though...it makes me feel all good inside knowing that people do pay attention.

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julzs71 Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:14pm
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Something smells fishy.....

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bakermommy4 Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:21pm
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There is nothing fishy to it...I jumped the gun I must admit, but I am graduating the first week of June. Hold on, why am I explaining myself to you. I know how hard I worked on getting this d@mn degree...15 units per semester/full time in the summer...4 kids and husband....8 fish and now starting a cake business from home. Going to school online too just so that I wouldn't feel as is I was being too lazy cuz if you really want it you got to really go get is the attitude I had. Hours on youtube learning skills pertaining to cake decorating because cake design doesn't hold much merit for an overall pastry arts degree. Girl, I was saying I was a graduate way before now because I bust my a$$ to get this degree....so if you smell something fishy you'd better open the windows and get some fresh air cuz your trippin!!

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indydebi Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:32pm
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Never, ever, ever have my children been introduced as step-anything. I have THE GREATEST in-laws because all of them welcomed my children as part of the family and never as a step-cousin or a step-grandchild. My youngest is "technically" a half-sister and she's doesn't even know what that means.

If you are married with children and one of the adults is walking on eggshells because of a "step" relationship, then you had no business getting married yet, until those issues were resolved. That is the wrong environment to be raising children in.

This topic is my hot button. our local newspaper did TWO full page articles on us as a step-family that works. I had a co-worker once tell me that I was "lucky" we all got along so well. I went right down her throat asking her, "Oh so it CAN'T be that we do things right! And it CAN'T be that we just focus on what's best for the kids! No .... it's just because we're LUCKY!" icon_mad.gif

When my oldest got married, she made it perfectly clear that her "Dad" (i.e. current hubby) was giving her away. Bio-dad didn't even show up at her wedding.

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bakermommy4 Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:41pm
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I agree with you 100% indydebi with the luck thing...it has more to do hard work and understanding than luck. I don't necessarily walk on eggshells because the relationship is fine now, I must admit though it was hectic in the beginning. The only issue is THEIR MOM. When they are with us on the weekends, everything is fine but their mom doesn't really let me have any part in their lives outside of their weekends with us. I'd love to go to their sports games or orchestra performances at school but she won't allow it, and to keep the peace i don't go. (Edited to add, she'll have a fit if I show up for support, but she won't go, and my husband works through the day and he cant' go)

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2txmedics Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:44pm
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Regardless if she is the mother....because she might have had the feeling that her daug. liked what the step mother baked her is not a good reason to destroy her daugs. joy.

You thinking of yourself before your childrens well being is a very ugly and hurtful tactic. She should have acted like an adult, and handled mother/step mother approach and not bring the kids into the middle of things.

Its sad for the daug. but tells alot about the relationship of mother/daug. As to you baking the cake and decorating, you did it out of the kindness of your heart, let her be in her own misery. What goes around comes around. Hard as it maybe be...just tell your step daug. your sorry her cake was ruined, and do not....tell her you think her mother did it on purpose...just be there for her.

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Rylan Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:51pm
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I'm at the Culinary Program at the College of Southern Nevada...I'll be finished next month.




I've read your posts and I feel so mad too! Oh my oh my!

Btw, you mentioned you go to that college. How do their classes go?

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__Jamie__ Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:57pm
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Wow....what a vengeful spiteful hag. People like this have some serious rage pent up. She may even be dangerous. That is an emotionally unwell woman.

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bakermommy4 Posted 2 May 2009 , 5:59pm
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Well, Rylan...the classes are great...the instructors are great. The only problem I ran into was something more personal. I had such a hectic class schedule going to school almost everyday, I couldn't focus much on trying to start my business like I wanted to. And once I fell in love with cake decorating, I felt as if the other classes I didn't really need i.e. quantity baking, breads of the world, plated desserts, etc etc. I was up to my neck in all of those classes but I just wanted to decorate cakes.
It all worked out in the end though. I've taken sugar arts, and chocolates and those two courses along with pastry arts, I've learned things that I can incorporate into my cakes.

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Rylan Posted 2 May 2009 , 6:07pm
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That sounds great! I've always wanted to go to culinary school such as Le Cordon Bleu and the Art Institute but unfortunately I couldn't afford it. I didn't know that CSN offers classes too. Now I should definitely check that out. Are they hands on?

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bakermommy4 Posted 2 May 2009 , 6:11pm
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Oh yeah, it's the best investment ever. My pastry arts instructor is a Master Pastry Chef from Germany...firm but I love him to death. I'm graduating soon and with classes and tools, I've probably spent about $5500-6500 whereas you get the same education from Le Cordon Bleu for $40,000 somewhere around there. Those private institutions don't transfer credits either...only within their own schools. So when I go get my bachelors in Culinary Mgmt...my credits from CSN transfer almost anywhere ( I'm heading for UNLV)

And it's all hands on in the baking lab and kitchens. We have an hour of lecture and 4 hours of lab. It's awesome....yet time consuming...all culinary classes are 5 and 6 hours long.

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panchanewjersey Posted 2 May 2009 , 6:17pm
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I say you make a small ugly cake and take it to her as soon as she opens the door just throw it in her face. lol I would love to see that! I mean it too. I don't know how you composed yourself, I probably would've run her over. Hahahaha.

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bakermommy4 Posted 2 May 2009 , 6:21pm
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Oh believe you me, I wanted to just choke her. But like I said, her daughters love her to death no matter what, and after I choked her they would have hated me and praised their mom even though she was wrong.

Its the relationship I have with THEM thats important to me, I don't really care what mom thinks, as long as I make sure the girls are always comfortable.

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Rylan Posted 2 May 2009 , 6:58pm
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Girl you are making me feel excited. I need to register before next semester starts. I just hate taking the general requirements such as English, Nevada law, etc.

THANKS for the info and good luck with their step mom.

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christeena Posted 2 May 2009 , 9:03pm
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Bakermommy,

If the mom doesn't go the girls events, why don't you just go?? She isn't going to be there to cause a scene and even if she was and did, so be it. She will just be digging a deeper hole for herself. My ex couldn't stand being in the same gym as me but I was sure not going to let his petty rage and tendency to cause a scene keep me from seeing my girl's events. Those years go by too fast and I wanted to be a part of it! The crap he pulled in public was hideous and my girls finally got to see their dad for who he really was, not who he pretended to be when it was for his benefit!

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indydebi Posted 2 May 2009 , 9:49pm
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.....not who he pretended to be when it was for his benefit!


Hey! Were we married to the same guy? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

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JenniferMI Posted 2 May 2009 , 10:51pm
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I'm so sorry this happened.... icon_sad.gif

How sad...

Jen icon_sad.gif

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CanadianChick Posted 3 May 2009 , 2:06am
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anyone who would do that to their daughter's cake is just so petty and spiteful!

for those who don't like the word "step" but feel they need to make a distinction, a few people I know refer to their step kids as "bonus" kids. I like that. An unexpected but pleasant gift.

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SweetSweetCreations Posted 3 May 2009 , 6:14pm
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I just don't understand how a mom could do that to thier child. I could never do that to my girls it is just mean. I don't care how jealous or insecure you are.

Thank goodness I have not had to deal with my ex or his wife because it would be ugly. He has not seen them in 15 years (his choice) and I ran into his wife a few months ago and she wanted to see them I told her no way (they are 16 & 1icon_cool.gif they haveen't been around and we will keep it that way.

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margaretb Posted 4 May 2009 , 4:36am
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Does the crazy mom make a scene at the event or does she give the girls a hard time at home? I would ask them if they wanted you to come, but tell them you understand if would be a problem. They might prefer to have you there and just deal with their mom later. Unless you think the mom would be violent/abusive to them over it.

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bakermommy4 Posted 4 May 2009 , 3:49pm
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Does the crazy mom make a scene at the event or does she give the girls a hard time at home? I would ask them if they wanted you to come, but tell them you understand if would be a problem. They might prefer to have you there and just deal with their mom later. Unless you think the mom would be violent/abusive to them over it.




She wouldn't be at the event at all and I know they would want me to come. I just don't know what the consequences would be for them when they got home. She's not physically abusive towards them but very much verbally. I would feel lower than low if they got chewed out for asking me to come to a sporting event so I just keep my distance.

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christeena Posted 5 May 2009 , 12:29am
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I'd ask the girls what THEY want!! You might be surprised to find that they would gladly suffer their "insane" mothers verbal abuse just to have some parental support.'

My girls knew what a train wreak their dad was and that although they felt pity for him, they recognized that the embarrassment was only his! I cared not one wit if he made a complete fool of himself! My girls needed and wanted me at their events.

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Sweet_Toof Posted 6 May 2009 , 11:09am
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Oh my god!
THAT IS PURE EVIL!!!
But you, you're a step mother with a good heart I think I would love to have icon_smile.gif
cheer up charlie ... I guess they don't call it topsy turvy for nothing!

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Kerry_Kake Posted 6 May 2009 , 12:01pm
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I wouldn't stop making cakes for your step kids! I might add a dowel or two down through the middle so she'll have to make a little more scene to destroy the cake though!!! icon_biggrin.gif

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Vylette Posted 6 May 2009 , 3:08pm
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uuuuuuuuuugh, Im so sorry
my heart breaks for you and that poor little girl =(

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Franluvsfrosting Posted 8 May 2009 , 1:29am
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What a selfish woman. I hope she changes her tune before she ruins her relationships with her daughters.

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