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post #46 of 92
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Originally Posted by xstitcher

Your friend offered to pay $0.40 per serving????? You can't even buy a candy bar on sale for that much!



I have never thought about it that way, but what an excellent point!!
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post #47 of 92
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Originally Posted by jlynnw

It amazes me when people expect a free or cheap cake but when you want their talent in some way, they are really valuable. It seems they think their hobby and skill is worth something but a cake is just flour, sugar and eggs, so why so much? I don't expect my haircut, electrical work, plumbing, tile work, car fixed for nothing so why do you all think your cake is FREE? icon_confused.gif




But what do you mean, they are right, its just FLOUR,and a bit of sugar,....................ok maybe some eggs.It's not like a dress or a holiday,please chill out.You can make the cake for $20. icon_lol.gif
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post #48 of 92
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Originally Posted by shelly101

lol...that's funny. How did you handle it. I swear i have a little sign on my forehead that says i am a weeny and i can't say no so please feel free to take advantage of me.



Me too! I used to see it when I looked in the mirror when I would come home from work. icon_cool.gif

I've been laid off now for 3 months and not coincidentally, I have not seen it in my reflection lately.
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post #49 of 92
This happened to me, and stupidly, I bought the sob story...and did a 4-tier wedding cake for $125.00 (I know...shoot me now). Then, when I went to deliver it to the address I was given, I was certain there was a mistake, because it was a huge, beautiful reception hall, decorated PROFESSIONALLY. Then, I put my cake on the cake table, and while I was assembling it, another woman brings in an extremely fancy groom's cake and places it on the table, too. I asked if she was family, and she said, "No, I'm from ___ bakery." I said, "Oh." She said, "Yeah, they only ordered the groom's cake for me, since you were willing to give them the wedding cake for a GREAT discount," and then she smiled and winked at me. Let me mention, that in the background we were listening to the clinks and clanks from the kitchen as white-jacketed PROFESSIONAL CATERERS were preparing food for the reception. Finally, as the final straw of insult was placed upon my already weak and weary back, I heard someone say, "What time is the limo with the bride and groom arriving here at the reception hall again?"

Yeah, I just about lost it. These poor, young college students DESPERATELY needed a "deal" on their wedding cake because they decided to get married "quickly" before she headed off on a trip abroad to deworm orphans in Somalia or something like that and he started taking classes at seminary. I thought, okay, mission work and pastoral care, sure, I'll help them out. I was taken, plain and simple, and will NEVER do that again! icon_redface.gif
post #50 of 92
First, I always (ALWAYS!) find it amazing that these people want a big ornately decorated piece of sugary art, but when they can't get it for nothing, then SUDDENLY a crappy sheet cake is "ok". icon_confused.gif

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Originally Posted by costumeczar

After I "politely" explained that people are paying for the cake, shopping time, cleaning time, decorating time, planning time, time to answer too many emails and phone calls, and that I don't work for minimum wage, he seemed to get it.


I had a lady call for just a couple-three hot dishes she wanted for a party (drop-off, not my full catering). I sent her the quote and she replied "Wow! I'm so out of the loop! I had no idea catering was so expensive!" and she told me she'd just go ahead and do the food herself. She said she rarely even goes to the grocery (job - travels a lot) so she's not even sure what regular groceries cost anymore. She was actually very nice about it.

I replied "That is fine. Unless you do a lot of entertaining, most people are unaware. They can figure the cost of the food, but don't stop to think that they are also paying for the labor to buy the supplies, prep the food, cook the food, the equipment, the delivery, the clean-up, etc..." (I then offered her some suggestions on where she could get some good prices on bulk food items.)

They think they are paying for THE FOOD. It's much, much more than that.
post #51 of 92
rsaun what did you do to get over it,I would have called them after the wedding to let them know how cheated i feel(you never know they might have a concience).I'm not looking for more money but so maybe they won't do that to someone else.
And of course i'll have a good cry and wallow in self pity,till I snap out of it.
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post #52 of 92
My Best Friend is a Florist. Recently her step daughter got married and, of course, I did the cake as a gift. I wanted to do it because she had given us a HUGE discount (like cost) when my son got married and even provided free equipment to decorate the reception. So, I felt like it was the very LEAST I could do.

We were shopping last week and I wanted to buy a pair of MBT shoes (check 'em out ladies...they ROCK....literally! LOL) so when I went to pay for them she gave a wad of cash to the salesman. I'm protesting and she is INSISTING...you know the drill. I finally gave in but before I did she told the salesman "She just made a GORGEOUS $500 PLUS cake for my stepdaughter's wedding. This is the very LEAST I can do!" THAT'S why I do things for my friends. They are literally ALL like this! Gift cards, little gifts that I enjoy all seem to come my way as their way of saying "We appreciate your hard work". That's NOT why I do it...but it sure does make me feel good to know THEY "know"!

Beth in KY

I know this is kinda "off subject" but just wanted to share a GOOD Bride story since "Its a Beautiful Day in MY Neighborhood!"
post #53 of 92
rsaun,

I so would have wanted to take my "cheap" wedding cake right back out the door. I would have then called them and said that you are positive that they gave you the wrong address for the reception and you couldn't find their location! Besides that, don't you have a contract with the clause about no other cakes but yours at the reception?? Another reason to take said "cheap" wedding cake to the nearest homeless shelter!
post #54 of 92
bethola can you introduce me to some of your nice friends please,mine just seem to use me esp my ex-best friend of 15 yrs.(yes i'm bitter).

edited to add the ex
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post #55 of 92
Solascakes, I got over it by saying "no" next time they needed a cake. I quoted my price, and she said, "Could you come down on that any?" I said, "No. That price is firm." Well, she said she was going to look around and then called back about a week or two later and said they wanted to go with me after all, but by then, we had just learned we were moving from Ohio to Oklahoma, and so I couldn't do it. I was somewhat satisfied to do that, because I know she had to then go with someone more expensive.

Christeena, No I didn't have the "no other cakes" clause in my contract at the time (I was brand new at doing this...learning from mistakes, no doubt), but you'd better believe it is in there NOW! icon_rolleyes.gif
post #56 of 92
I have gone through the same thing many, many times with so many "friends". After making a wedding cake for a friend's wedding for free (my wedding gift to her) I am expected to do free birthday and baby shower cakes for her and everyone I know.

Last year my manager at work was mentioning that her birthday was coming up the next month, so I asked her what her favorite flavor was in case I had time to make her a cake. A week beforehand, she told me that her husband asked her what to do about the cake for her party and she told him not to worry, I was going to do it. (Party??) So I asked her how many people did she expect. She replied, oh about 250 or so, don't you think?
Unbeknownst to me, she had rented out a local restaurant and sent flyers out to all the local bars where we work in the restaurant industry...And this was all 2 weeks after the 150 person free wedding cake (to which only about 60 people showed). And I never got my cake boards back from either event. Can't really charge against their deposit...
Last week this same manager called me about her husband wanting one of my cakes for his birthday party--"chocolate with chocolate mousse filling, peanut butter icing and chocolate ganache drizzle, or whatever flavor you feel like doing, but you don't have to..." knowing this is a hint that they expect it for free. Ironically she was having my DH take her to do some grocery shopping, so I gave him a list of the ingredients I wanted her to pick up for the cake. I know she wasn't expecting it, and he said her eyes got real big and she was shocked at the amount of ingredients. "She needs all this? For one little cake." Since when is 14" little?
I relayed that story and list to my friend for whom I did the wedding cake, and she replied, "oh, I just thought you made cakes from a box.."
Which I don't, but even if I did, do they think a cake costs us the face value of only the box itself? People are so clueless...
This same friend came over to borrow a small cake pan to do a bridal shower cake, "unless I wanted to do it" she said. (A simple "No" was all I said) and she later sent me a pic of the finished disaster. I sent her back a message saying "Now maybe you have a new perspective on what I go through." She whole heartedly agreed...

From now on, I am charging for the wedding cake and buying them a crockpot.
Sorry this ran long, don't mean to hijack, but all your stories got me fired up and I had to vent also.
post #57 of 92
And I didn't even mention that my birthday was last month, and though I am expected to make cakes as my gift to them, they didn't so much as give me a card. And they knew it was my birthday, being I was so broke I picked up a shift to work on my birthday. (A funeral at that)
post #58 of 92
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Originally Posted by sugarMomma

I relayed that story and list to my friend for whom I did the wedding cake, and she replied, "oh, I just thought you made cakes from a box.."
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Yeah, you open the box and the cake comes out totally baked and decorated icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif Dang, people piss me off sometimes.
post #59 of 92
Of course there is nothing to doing a box cake. Pan spray, eggs, oil, water, the pans in the oven, the cooling racks, the saran wrap, refridgerator, canned icing of course, bags, tips, couplers, and I do suppose I should have towels and cleaning products for all of it. Yes, I can do your cake for 25 cents a person. My family really doesn't eat much, I will just take it out of the family budget. Yea, I am so poor doing cakes for all my "dear" friends and family I may have to look into food stamps to feed them. I know, I know, I should really charge what the cakes costs and all but you, my "dear' friend only want to pay me the 99 cents for a box of cake. tapedshut.giftapedshut.giftapedshut.gif

Just got a call for an impromtu wedding (sure, she is not preggers, just gained a bump icon_confused.gif ) They are not in a position to pay more than $75 for a cake. They want all the bells and whistles. They will be having a full sit down dinner, a church full of flowers with the isle long floral arch, cathedral length train on the lightly beaded Swartzki crystal gown, 6 attendants and about 300 guests. They have managed that much planning and finances in 2 weeks but only $75 for the cake! I wished them luck and asked where they were registered! No, I will not do the cake. icon_mad.gif Sorry to vent but seriously, when did cake decorators get the rep that we want to lose money making peoples cake because we are "cheap"????
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post #60 of 92
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icon_lol.gif Okay, I have the cakes baked and cooled and the frosting made. The friend and the bride will be here shortly, by the way I loved the compairson of a candy bar to a piece of wedding cake. this should be interesting icon_biggrin.gif wish me luck!
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