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post #31 of 85
A cookie bouquet is an awesome idea. I've taken cupcake bouquets for the very reason and gotten hugs and thanks I never got with flowers. The cookies show someone went to a whole lot more effort than picking up the phone or stopping by the store. Flowers make me more sad at times.. weird maybe.

And, as far as casseroles go.. yeppers! Melvira I'm right along side with you, it's perfect for such occasions.

Bake away--make their day!
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post #32 of 85
It would only be in poor taste if you used a bad recipe!

Sorry, couldn't help it. : ) I think your ideas sound just right.
post #33 of 85
I think this is such a nice idea. If the secretary does not like it -- then tell her to take up a collection from the employees and that you will just send the bouquet from yourself. It is a beautiful idea and you already know the family likes your cookies. I say yes to making them!
post #34 of 85
It's already been said ... people take food in for family deaths all the time and cookies are no different than any other kind of food.

I just hate funeral flowers. My biggest peeve is people who send planters to a funeral with the specific thought of "....that way they can have something to take home afterward."

Right. Like the first thing I want is a SOUVENIER of my husband/child's funeral sitting in my house!

My family knows that if something ever happens, I will instruct the funeral director to keep all planters out of the viewing room and NONE of them are to be sent to my home. So I've put them on notice to not even waste their money on planters. I won't even accept delivery of them.
post #35 of 85
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Originally Posted by indydebi

I just hate funeral flowers. My biggest peeve is people who send planters to a funeral with the specific thought of "....that way they can have something to take home afterward."

Right. Like the first thing I want is a SOUVENIER of my husband/child's funeral sitting in my house!



And with my brown thumb, it's a death sentence for the poor plant!

I was able to convince the secretary that decorated cookies would not be unseemly as a condolence gift. I suggested we get a nice, big basket and place the cookies in the center, stuck into a block of floral foam. Surrounding that will be an assortment of fruit. I think she was just so set on the fruit thing that once it was added to the cookie bouquet, she "got with the program". The added bonus will be that the boss's wife is on a diet, so we'll be including something that she can eat without feeling guilty. I'm thinking the fruit will add balast to the basket and keep it from tipping over....another bonus!

So it's home from work tonight to start baking and decorating! I'll be sure to post pictures.
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post #36 of 85
Yes, please remember to post the pics! I think those little kiddos will LOVE you for COOKIES! Of course, I'm sure your employer and his wife will as well. Glad the secretary "got with the program" so "we" on CC wouldn't have to deal with her! LOL

Beth in KY
post #37 of 85
This has already been said, but I, too, think this is a great idea. The way you describe the cookies (clouds, suns, flowers w/ kind words)--sounds like a lovely idea.

I recently lost my mom--and my granny fell the same week, having hip surgery unexpectedly during the service for my mom--and what really meant the most to my sister and I that week was all the ladies in the neighborhood (all really good cooks) bringing in such a nice variety of foods, along w/ their kind words and hugs. They were such a big help.

I think the combination of cookies and fruit sounds like a win-win for everyone. Looking forward to your pictures when you get done.
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post #38 of 85
GeminiRJ - I think you have an excellent idea. I like idea of combining the cookie and the fruit. It appeases the secretary, gives the wife something to eat as well and pulls away from any concern of it seeming like a normal 'festive' bouquet. If it still seems to 'cheery' with the cookies being on sticks, do you like the idea of individually wrapping them in cello bags and nestling them in with the fruit? The only problem is that then they don't show as much, but that is the only thing I can think of. Either way, this is a sincere gesture that I am sure will be appreciated during a difficult time.

KHalstead - I am touched that you shared your experience and am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thankyou very much for sharing your view of the situation.
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post #39 of 85
I share the same feels on flowers. In the past 3 years I have loss a 6 year old niece to an accident, my grandmother and grandfather (my grandmother died on my birthday two years ago), a very close family friend to accidental overdose, and my brother to sucide (may 22 will be a year). Flowers do nothing to help the pain and hurt that those times. The things that meant the most to me were friends that drew near and reached out with their hearts. You do that by giving of youself. Your bosses family will know your gift came from your heart because you gave of you time and thought of them.
post #40 of 85
dmhart, that made me cry.

WHen I was 16 years old, my 3 month old brother died. He never came home from the special care nursery. It was the first time we "hosted" (lack of a better word) a funeral. And you're right ... it was the people who showed up, and cried and hugged that really impacted me. It made me understand, at a very very young age, the value and importance of a funeral ... they are not for the dead, they are for the living.
post #41 of 85
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Originally Posted by indydebi

It made me understand, at a very very young age, the value and importance of a funeral ... they are not for the dead, they are for the living.





That is so true. It is to help those left to going on. When my brother died I had a lot of people to reach and help me through it but a lot sent flowers, cards etc... and I am not putting those thing down But it was the time spent with me or feeding my family or the phone calls in the days after and the unexpected meals that I realized the people that understood my grief and loss. And that truly care about me and my family. I do appreciate all that has been done for my family in the years past through all of our losses but I truly understand how important it is to reach out from your heart to those who have lost a loved one.
post #42 of 85
I agree with all of you.
When i lost my daughter in a car accident a few years ago, i truly appreciated the meals, platters, and of course the condolences. Even better were the cookie platters, candy, and toys that people brought for my other kids who were too young to understand what was going on.

Any flowers, plants, etc went in the garbage as i had no time nor desire to tend to them. Besides, who want a memory of a terrible loss to live on in the house when everyone is just trying to move on?

I look forward to seeing your pics.
post #43 of 85
You guys stop it right now! I can't get anything done if I am bawling over here! icon_cry.gif

I think the combo of fruit and cookies is outstanding. Very classy, very thoughtful, very delicious. thumbs_up.gif
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post #44 of 85
Gemini-you are so thoughtful. I am sure you will come up with something beautiful. thumbs_up.gif
post #45 of 85
I would just like to add that even if you made some "fun" cookies especially for the kids, that would be hugely appreciated by the adults. It's nice to have a smile or a laugh in the middle of a difficult situation. I know I enjoy a good laugh in the middle of a crisis.
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