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post #16 of 62
2/1/09 at 8:42pm
Does your contract include a line item charge for being witchy? icon_evil.gif - if so, mark it twice!
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post #17 of 62
2/2/09 at 4:58am
Bridezilla syndrome is running rampant these days, isn't it?

First, I hope your son is feeling better, the poor little guy, kidney infections are so uncomfortable.

Second, If it were me, I'd call her and cancel the consult, for good. You don't need the stress that this spoiled brat will dish out to you.

I had a similar situation a couple of years ago. My Dad had died unexpectedly overnight and I needed to obviously cancel a consult for that next morning that was scheduled for 11 a.m. I phoned the girl at 8 a.m. to explain to her that my Dad had died the night before and her response was not "I'm sorry" like any person with a heart would have responded with, but she said "so I can't come for my consult?" icon_eek.gif
Emotions got the best of me and I told her that I didn't think I'd be able to work with her on her cake at all. Looking back, I'm not sorry that I sent her on her way.

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post #18 of 62
2/2/09 at 5:16am
Are you SURE that she was being b@tchy (moderator edited) ? I know YOU were upset, so did you hear her correctly ? Whenever my husband and I are "ouchy" with each other, we say " He said, she heard"..... so many times we are in our own misery, and don't hear things quite right...... If you are SURE, then I wouldn't do her cake at all...... she isn't going to" improve with age"....
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post #19 of 62
2/2/09 at 5:23am
I'm sorry your son is sick! I hope he's feeling better soon.

If this bride is already a jerk imagine how she will act when she is stressed out on her wedding day! thumbsdown.gif I think if I were you I would suddenly discover that I had overbooked the weekend of her wedding and send her somewhere else...
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post #20 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:21am
grama_j...I see your point, but in this case the girl said the thing about her cake not being as important as the baker's son, so I don't see any way that isn't b@tchy (moderator edited)! Some things aren't open to interpertation (but your willingness to try to give her the benefit of the doubt is admirable. I'd have hung up on her.)
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post #21 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:28am
Costumeczar...... the quote from the bride was "'well I guess your son in more important than my wedding cake''
That is why I questioned it..... I guess it would depend on HOW she said it..
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post #22 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:33am
Ah, I see your point. You're right, it would mean a different thing if she said it with or without a "tone"
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post #23 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:37am
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Originally Posted by dkelly27

I phoned the girl at 8 a.m. to explain to her that my Dad had died the night before and her response was not "I'm sorry" like any person with a heart would have responded with, but she said "so I can't come for my consult?" icon_eek.gif


Happened to a friend of ours. He's a politician so he gets calls from the public all the time. He had just gotten the call that his dad was dying and was heading out the door. The phone rang. Thinking it was about his dad, he answered. A constituent wanting a political favor. Friend explained he was on his way to the hospital because his dad was dying. Constituent said, "You mean you can't take 5 minutes to talk to me!" Friend said, "My FATHER is DYING! No I CAN'T take ONE minute to talk to you!" and hung up on him.

People are just self-centered jerks. And unfortunately, not all of them are brides.
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post #24 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:46am
Wow - amazing how self involved people can be. I only bake as a hobby, and the more stories I hear like this I'm glad that's all I do. Good luck and I hope your son is better soon.
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post #25 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:52am
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Originally Posted by grama_j

Costumeczar...... the quote from the bride was "'well I guess your son in more important than my wedding cake''
That is why I questioned it..... I guess it would depend on HOW she said it..



That ran through my mind--some people digest things out loud. It could be that she was lining up the ducks.

I mean I tell people specifically 'ABC only' all day long.
They go, "Oh so what about D?".
What part of I said 'ABC' did yah not get.
No they gotta be specificially told "NO D no E no F no G no H no I, yada yada yada. Even though you clearly said "ABC only" in the first place.

No cyrillic alphabet, no Japanese alphabet, no Chinese characters, no hieroglyphics. Could we just not stick with 'ABC only' and be done with it.

Thanks I feel better now. (dumb dang people)

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post #26 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:54am
But I have to as patient with the next person as I was with the previous person and go through all the 'what about's' with them. <grimace> icon_lol.gif

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post #27 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:58am
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I had to call and cancel a 2nd consultation tomorrow because my son has come down with a kidney infection and I have to get him to the doctor in the morning. She was very put out and said 'well I guess your son in more important than my wedding cake'. He certainly is to me!!! I apologized several times and set up another appointment for 4pm when dad gets off work. Her wedding's not till September for Pete's sake. I was so upset I wanted to tell her she could get her cake at Walmart for all I care...but I bit my tongue and apologized again. I would like to know how anyone else would handle these types of situations. Thanks for listening, I needed to get that off my chest.




well i first have to say if those are her exact words f**k her!! however if you remove the words " i guess" then she may have just been agreeing with you; ie: well your son in more important than my wedding cake'. be careful not to lose the order because you heard wrong.
hope your son is better, i have been thru those kidney infections god they hurt!!
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post #28 of 62
2/2/09 at 6:59am
Oh yeah, my other thought is, is this the second cancelation or the second consult?
 
 

 

 

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post #29 of 62
2/2/09 at 7:03am
Which let me hasten to say no question that your boy comes first but it just adds to the possible reason she vocalized the re-arrangement of her wedding cake buying day.

And I hope your boy is better real soon.

And Liapsim, o m g --hope your babies do grow out of those conditions.

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post #30 of 62
2/2/09 at 7:22am
I hope your son is going to be alright.

Sometimes people just don't think before they speak and other times people are just rude. Lately there is a lot of that going around. I try not to react to such bad attitudes, but there are times that it is impossible for me to not say something. Family will always come first and if someone can or will not understand that then maybe they should not be around me.

I think a simple response like Atonia suggested would do. What will this person be like when it comes to her wedding day. Has this bride been like this in past interactions maybe she has something going on in her world that is making her act in a way that is not normal for her? Still there is no excuse for her actions that your son is not important. Family is everything!

I am curious to how the later appointment turned out.
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