Do you want to be a lovely, happy relaxed smiling bride? With dress, hair & make up perfect, greeting guests with grace, actually enjoying your special day? Then maybe you shouldn't make your own cake...and here's why.
Don't get me wrong, making wedding & special occasion cakes is AWESOME, but unless you're really comfy making cakes, and have every other detail of your wedding totally dialed in, you just might want to sub that out...and start your cake making career when you don't have 10 million other details to attend to. Just making / delivering / setting up / serving someone elses wedding cake when you don't have tons of other things to do can be stressful enough.
I REALLY LOVE MAKING CAKES! And all kinds of cooking & baking; so much so that I catered my own wedding. In part because I wanted it to be really good, and in part because my 3 evil step sisters had been married on average 5 times each (swear to God, long story), & my very controlling step father wouldn't let my Mother give me more than $1,000 for my wedding, as he said "these relationships never last." FYI, I've been married 19 years. I had originally hoped for 200 guests, but cut my guest list to 125, & did everything myself, and DID NOT have a good time at all. I did use fresh flowers from my greenhouse, orchids, and the cake looked & tasted fine, but between that and the entrees, the drinks, the music, and set up, etcetcetc, I was totally spent by the time guests began arriving. My hair had gone limp, my make up was bleah, I had a bernaise spot on my white dress. My mood, well, let's just say I was really resenting that step dad & those fickle stepsisters (And they were there, looking for dates), their many marriages, and my measley budget (yes, I had $$ of my own, but weddings are very expensive!) So I hardly remember the night at all & was so completely exhausted that I spent much of my honeymoon in a near coma, recovering from days of hard work, and the cake was a big part of it. I'd attach a picture of it, but that was just another one of the details that was somewhat under attended to....tho I have one somewhere. For our 20th anniversary, I'm thinking I might want a do-over. Smaller. Just un-inviting the step-sisters & their ex's cuts the guest list in half....
Do you have a friend who you might switch off cakes with? Like, if you make hers now, she makes yours then sort of thing? That way you can hopefully get a cake you'll enjoy, without being burned out on it, and still have all the time and attention a wedding cake deserves without toomuch stressing. And trust me, you will have more than enough to keep you busy then. And there will be other cakes to love.
Good luck, best wishes, and send pictures!