Wow, I did not even see this had more comments! (I lost electricity for 4 days...ugh.)
I have since chatted with my caker friend. She received a check in the mail to cover the cost of the cake she gave of her own to save the Bride's day. Also a giftcard to Michaels as a thank-you. This was from the MIL, but signed by bride and groom also.
The note inside thanked her profusely and told her that the parents were asked (ummm...screamed at I think!
) to take their kids home in a taxi (parents had been drinking) and not return if they had no intention of paying for the damage. They did not want to pay, so they left with the security escort (so they would not try to drive).
My friend acted classy, and so did the B&G and MIL. I was glad they thanked her so well, she said she has gone above the call before and gotten nothing so much as a thanks before.
As for the kids issue?
I don't have a problem with a kid behaving well in a place where kids are welcome and a normal thing. But really, is a late evening party they cannot even begin to understand a place they need to be?
My wedding reception will be a late night party after a quick outdoor ceremony. Lots of booze and adults. I doubt I would even have to put "NO KIDS" on the invites, though I will, as everyone I know knows that not only do I not like kids in general, but they would not belong at my reception by any standards, unless you are okay with your kid watching adults get a bit sauced and talk like adults until the wee hours. I mean really.
As for the folks who decline invites that say "no kids"? Well, I do hope that that means more public events, office picnics, family reunions and the like, and not a good friend or family member's wedding or special party/gathering. They invited you because they wanted to see YOU and talk to YOU and have you see their special day and share in the celebrating, not have you be distracted by your kids and keeping them well-behaved or risk that kind of bad behavior. Plus it is for adults who understand what is going on and why the day is special and requires good behavior. (Not that all adults behave either, for sure!)
It is an 'each to their own' decision whether small kids should be invited to a place where they are hosting an event. Declining because you can't bring your kids to an adult event? I can't even believe it. I am sure after awhile folks with that attitude will no longer be invited places.
There are a million places you can take your kids (and I also don't just mean fast-food with toys and clowns) and there are plenty of well-behaved kids too. Also the bad parents who don't control, but still...
I would be right in line to vote for the "Ovary turn-on test" and "Joystick battery" also!