Why won't people control their kids???!??? - Page 3

This brings back memories. When my grandson was 2, he was taken to my cousins funeral in his stroller. He was being a perfect little gentleman, until his foot got stuck in the stroller. He yelled, "I got my d***** foot stuck" ! WE took him outside, gave him a speech of all speeches, told him to behave himself when we went back in. Good for awhile, until he decided to sing his favorite song, and loudly ! WHO LET THE DOGS OUT, WHO, WHO, WHO !!! Back outside we went ! After the services, the funeral director, a very good friend of ours, came up and said, "Oh yeah, you can tell he's your grandson alright !" I sorta took that personal ! LOL ! The cousins wife, came up and laughed, and said that's exactly what her husband, would have expected out of little Tyler ! He loved Tyler so much. In all fairness to the funeral director, i DID call him up to order some embalming fluid. So , i guess my grandson is a "little ornery" like me !

Your friend is amazing! I would have probably beaten those parents to a pulp!!

You know, if I am invited to an event that says "adults only" or "no kids allowed", I don't go. If I can't take my children, then I don't need to be there. However, my boys KNOW what would happen to them if they behaved this way in public, anywhere other than a playground! We go to church on Sundays, we eat in nice restaurants, we take them places where their best behavior is required & therefore, they know how to act! I once had an older couple stop me in a restaurant, to say how nice it was to see boys acting nicely in public. Now don't get me wrong, they are not angels & it took lots of practice, but they have to be taught right from wrong, in all aspects of life! The parents are to blame for this fiasco!

Oh, man.
My son's wedding is coming up this month.
I'm doing the cake.
They didn't want kids at the reception but didn't know how to go about it without offending relatives on my soon to be DIL. So my guess is, there will be kids at the reception.

The cake will be set up out of the way...but you know kids.... they can find a way to get into things without even trying.
I hope all goes well. I'll probably end up cutting the cake as well.

I can't believe the couple didn't offer to pay for the damaged cake.
Your friend shouldn't have given the money back. It wasn't her fault the those kids acted like monkeys.

Not to mention that boys/men shouldn't be issued 'batteries' for their 'joysticks' w/o the same review process. It takes two to tango.

Wendl

What an admirable and honorable thing to do! There aren't enough people in the world like that.

You HAVE to call your friend up & see if she heard from the MOB about the cake afterwards!!! Did they make those people pay?
I can't believe those "parents".

I respect your decision, but there are events that are not designed for kids. For example, my husband's employer offers a family-company picnic with lots of games and activities for children. They also do a very nice Christmas dinner for employees and spouses - adult only. There is NOTHING for kids to do. It's designed for adults, not for children.

In my very personal opinion, to cop the attitude of "if I can't take my kids .....!" is very disrespectful to the person hosting the event.

I sure didn't mean it in a disrespectful way! I generally don't even tell the host, I just decline the invitation. (My dh doesn't really enjoy those type of social events, anyway, so if I have to go, he has an excuse to stay with the kids!)

Why do we have to pass tests to be able to do anything else in life, except have kids? You have to take a driver's test, SAT's, licensing exams etc etc. If you have to prove you're smart enough to drive, you should have to prove you're smart enough to raise a child (the right way).

The worst I ever saw was a family at Sea World last year. One of their kids got lost and they were frantically trying to find him, he came sauntering down a hill towards them. The mom was about to let him have it (as she should). And the dad stopped her and said, dont get mad at him. DONT GET MAD AT HIM? HELLO!!!

I also brought cupcakes to a girl scout picnic and one of the toddlers who came kept trying to eat the sour cherry's off of them. The dad told me to put them somewhere else. No, move your kid!

I just cant believe how so many parents dont do anything about their kids behaviors. It drives me insane!

A friend of mine is getting married and has put "adults only reception" on her invitation. She said a friend of hers (a bridesmaid no less) was whining about all her child custody issues and crap.....and how it would be so awful if they couldn't bring their children....

I told my friend - "her child custody issues are not your problem. It's YOUR wedding. If she can't figure out a place for her children to be for a few hours, then maybe she should drop out of being a bridesmaid."

Not that my friend would want that - but I told her exactly what's been said - the kids will be bored out of their minds, the wedding isn't even until 7:00 - so the reception isn't until 8:00 - the kids will probably be bored to death by 9:00.... and for a bridesmaid to leave one hour into the reception? Seems a bit tacky.

Plus, how is the bridesmaid supposed to focus on the wedding or even enjoy it if she's trying to control her kids the whole time? Now granted, her husband is coming - but I dunno - I guess I believe the stereotype sometimes that "dad" isn't always the most watchful person. Granted, there are fabulous dads out there that would watch their children like a hawk, but I don't know this person and I just wouldn't chance it.

Again, it's my friend's wedding. Child custody issues and babysitting are NOT something she should be worrying about. And I fully support no kids at the reception. I had my two ring bearers and flowergirl and two cousins who were all under the age of 10 - but I knew their parents and I knew the parents wouldn't be drunk and they would be watching the kids like a hawk the entire time, so I wasn't worried.

Personally, If I have to take my three kids anywhere that's not "kid friendly" I bring them stuff to occupy them!!! Duh! I'll bring snacks, drinks, acitivity books, cars, etc etc and you just keep pulling out more stuff when they get bored. This is your job as a parent!! Yet I see so many parents who bring their kids places and expect them to just sit there quietly with absolutey nothing to do. That is just not possible for young children!

My oldest daughter is getting married later this month. I was half-way teasing her when I suggested she write on the RSVP card, "No brats allowed, regardless of age", which would include adults.

The problem is that the people that are the worst are the very ones that don't care. I admire the decorator that saved the day for that poor Bride, but I don't have any sympathy for the parents.

My husband, children and I are actually a very kind, patient, and gracious family, but we have seen our fair share of kids that ruined all kinds of events, or made everyone in a restaurant miserable, because the parents haven't taken the time to train their children. Kids are a direct reflection of their parents and their home life. We don't want to hear someone's child in battle with the mother all through the wedding video.
I am putting my daughter's interest first to make her day and memories special. I raised my kids to be very well behaved, so I know that it can be done.

We did put "No children under 6 years of age". We have hired a secret group of ladies to attend a nursery, just in case someone ignores our request. But, it will not be advertised. Any offending parents will be politely told when they register that their child will need to go to the nursery. If the parent tries to pick up the child between the ceremony and the reception, they will be politely told that they will need to leave the child in the nursery if they plan to attend the reception. It will be done in a pleasant, but firm manner.

So far we have not received a single complaint. I think it may be a relief for everyone, with and without kids. Our guests know us, and how we really love children, but also how we feel about their behavior. They have not been offended. It is my way to try to avoid stressful situations.

I have received a big thank you for this stand from people who do not have kids in that age group. They appreciate our courage to "take the bull by the horns". It will make the evening so much more enjoyable for everyone, including the parents. These parents may need a night out to enjoy themselves.

I will also be making both cakes. I plan to hire a "cake guard".


-Debbie B.
(An older mom that is determined to not let someone else's child, or adult for that matter, ruin my child's special day.)

Sometimes the problem with the kids is neglect on the part of the parent.

More and more these days, the problem with the kids is that the parents treat them like they are the center of the universe.

I love my kids. I honestly think I got the best ones ever. Sorry, those are just the facts. But one of the biggest favors I ever did for them was teach them that although their worth is immeasurable, the universe does not revolve around them. Even as a SAHM, I made sure that my kids saw that I had friends, I had responsibilities, and we all worked together to help other people. And mommy could have conversations and activities sometimes that they were not participants in...just as they could.

I think it makes all the difference in the long run.

Debbie B, from one Deb B to another, I salute you!

ziggy, I did the same when my kids were small. When my then-10-year old daughter complained about "why do I have to go to bed at 8:30?" I told her "because this is MY quiet time and I intend to spend it quietly! Now go to bed!"

My low level of tolerance is triggered by those parents who believe THEY have the cutest kids (when we all know that OUR kids are the cutest, so what is their problem? ) and they think we are ALL just DYING to see the next CUTEST LITTLE THING that their little darlings are going to do!

God save me!