Why won't people control their kids???!??? - Page 9

OMG, that poor bride!!!! I feel for her ----your friend is an angel and very, very professional and those parents are very irresponsible and expect others to take care of their kids. They should pay the bill for the entire cake their kids ruined!!!

My kids are grown and I'm not bragging but, they were the most well behaved kids at any gathering! There was NO way I was going to put up with 2 wild kids, I'm a single parent!! People would ask me how I did it and all I can say is I gave them a lot of attention, I talked to them, show them examples, praise them when they did good, (and that includes to constrantly WATCH them at a party!) etc...kids are smart and learn pretty quick so there are many ways to teach them not to act like wild animals.

Remember: children DON'T DO as we SAY, children DO as we DO!

I have to add to Rosie2's comment... I have a 12yr old & also 16mos twins. I am often told how well-behaved all my kids are in a restaurant - and just anywhere. I blame my mother for this, because she brought me up to show respect - as Rosie2 above did with her kids. I am finding out now how much hard work it is, especially with the 12yr old who will be a "teen" in October.... she's harder than the twins! I have to constantly listen to her tone when she talks to other, etc....... I have so many friends who let their kids use fowl language, watch r-rated TV (mine is barely getting into PG-13)... yes, my kids are kept on a tight leash. You wouldn't want them NOT to be - as specified in this horrible example! I am going to share this information next time someone tells me I'm too strict! I'm consistent with rules, discipline & much fun! I do the same with my kids as Rosie2 & I WISH other parents would as well!!! It's not fair to everyone else when unruly children (OR ADULTS) get out of control!
I posted on this forum a week or so ago, and I cannot stop thinking about it! I just couldn't imagine if someone were to allow their children anywhere NEAR my cake & knock it over... let alone if it were my wedding! ACK!

That is part of the issue with children. They are children and they don't know how they are suppose to act unless someone tells them.

Another part of the problem is carry through. If a child misbehaves, screaming is worthless. Remove the child immediately from the situation, and apply an appropriate punishment, a swat, time out, scolding... whatever works with your child.

Combining drinking -to excess- with parenting is totally irresponsible. Frankly, I have a major problem with people who get drunk at weddings or any other event whether they have kids or not. To me it is just plain immature and extremely rude. Unfortunately, it is a form of gluttony that our society seems to accept. A person shouldn't indulge in any more alcoholic beverage than they would lemonade or soda.

Several of you have mentioned making provisions for the little ones at weddings. This is an excellent idea. If they are going to be guests, then it is appropriate to treat them as guests and provide entertainment for them. I was at a wedding recently, and the DJ had the little ones on the dance floor doing various dances -Sponge Bob?- a couple of the mothers got up and demonstrated for the children. It was fun to watch them.

As to the cultural issue, yes, I believe there is a major difference. I noticed while I was living in Puerto Rico events always included the entire family. Little boys of about 5 and over knew they were expected to dance with their grandmother and their aunts (sometimes their mothers had to remind them- I even had little boys asking me to dance) fathers danced with their little daughters, and adults knew that excessive drinking was not acceptable!!! If you wanted to drink to excess, you did it in private not in public.

Good for you OCakes!!! that's the only way I could had raised my kids as a single parent 'on a tight leash'! yes it is a LOT of work and yes it takes a LOT of energy but, trust me, it works!!! my kids are grown and have kids of their own and guess what??? they are passing on the same principles to their own kids
Keep up the good work OCakes!!!!

My mother esp. was very strict and very proctective. During my teen age years that I was growing up, I wished she wasn't, but now I'm thankful she was. Because of the way she was to us, we did not grow up to be animals or wild children. Now that I have my own child, I am not stirct with him, but he is very well behaved because he can see that his parents are not wild and crazy parents. I don't even have to keep reminding him. Again, children learn what they live.

Kudos to those parents who raised good children.

Thanks Rosie2! And fondantgirl - my mom was the same & I wish she wasn't, but now appreciate it! Well, she was a teensy-bit more protective than was needed I think, but better more than not enough!

Now that I've finished LMAO...

Your friend showed incredible grace and class. Kudos to her!

I absolutely ADORE that line "stupid people should breed" - ha ha!! I agree! You know stupid people don't consider themselves stupid. So I hope I'm not one of them - ha ha! (too late, I already have kids!)