Cake crashed in the middle of the party

When I say "affected", I do not imply that she is crying in her coffee. Affected as in affecting her everyday life. The fact that she is having to deal with it, talk about it, live it daily. That is "affected". As far as "winning", I put that in quotes because this is what was used in a previous post about the lady "winning" by paying the lady off. I'm not saying it is a win or lose situation. What I meant by the last comment is that sometimes, people want to cause problems. That is their whole point and this could be this lady's point. Just to cause problems. One person is not going to change the person she is and has always been. And, I'm not saying do not stand up for your rights. We all have rights. And, I'm sure she felt she had the right to eat a $500 cake and she didn't. I'm not on the other side. I am on her side. I'm sorry. But I think you misinterpreted my post.

WOW! Maybe this will be my last post ever to CC...

I'm not saying that a baby sitter, the payroll of her helper, etc are not work her reputation or integrity. And it was definitely NOT an insult and I definitely hope bdrider did not take it that way. I scanned most of the other messages from other members. But the ones from bdrider I read completely. If you look back at her previous posts, these are things she mentioned and I was referring to what she stated. I never stated going to court would make a "wrong". My point is that everyone is posting comments based off emotion. Basically, everyone is angry and upset how the lady is handling the situation and talking to bdrider. When I say 2 wrongs don't make a right, I am saying that we can't all respond with emotion. Sometimes, we have to respond professionally and with the best option for us and our family. Its great that you think that you are the person in the world that can show this person that you will not roll over and play dead when she barks and that everyone is not afraid of her. However, some people don't feel the need to battle that. What I know about myself is way more important than what others perceive. I know I am not afraid of her and she does not control me and that is all that matters. The funny part is that people like this don't care about people trying to prove themselves. You won't prove anything to this lady. She will continue to be the person she has been all these years and will laugh about what she took you through.

Again, this is my opinion and I'm entitled to it whether anyone else agrees or disagrees. I don't comment on others' comments that I don't agree with or tell them that their opinion is wrong. This is what has prevented me from responding in the past and will make me think twice about responding in the future. My post was taken negatively as if I was trying to insult bdrider and that is definitely not the case. Please keep in mind that everyone is entitled to their opinion and that you may not agree. That is what makes this world great. That we are all different. But ultimately, my support is for bdrider as I know this is a difficult situation. Not the right or wrong, lose or win, court or no court. We can all post what we would do. But bdrider is the only one living it!

I'm sorry. I'm not saying it was bdrider's fault at all. We do not know what happened. We are speculating because none of us were there. I guess I should have just said, "Go to court and throw pennies at her". I'll look into deleting all of my posts...

bdrider... I am so sorry. I am not saying any of this is your fault and I do not intend to insult you or your profession. If any of my posts were seen that way, I sincerely apologize as that was not my intention. I hope you have found the path that works for you.

Thanks tania9 and ironbaker.

I think when I first logged in and saw my post being quoted in what I felt initially were negative responses, it put me on the defensive. What I thought was a supportive post ended up having words connected to it such as "crying, insulting, degrading, not her fault, etc." Sometimes what is typed out does not come across the correct way. I felt the need to defend that I am not against anyone. Just offering another opinion. And didn't quite understand why my post was being picked a part, i guess... (And maybe its the 5 meds I am on battling the flu...Hmmmm!) But, I certainly won't write off CC because I have learned a lot since I've been on here and even though I am very new to this, I think I have some things to offer to the community. New lesson, don't take the responses to my posts so personally.

With that said, I'll put the focus back where it needs to be. Off me! and back on bdrider as we all support the decision she has to make and hope it all works out for the best. Just know that in the "bickering" (if you call it that) back and forth, it was all to help and in support of you!