Ok, so I've been known to cancel a wedding or two in my day, and at my third kick at the bucket, I was afraid that HE wouldn't show up at the alter! He hadn't picked up his shirt from my mom's house and I was convinced that he wasn't going to go through with it. Of course, he was worried that I was going to back down at the last minute, given my history, so there were tense emotions on both sides
That being said, our beautiful wedding had MANY flaws if I chose to "see" them. So some of the napkins were the wrong color. I was married and in Mexico. So some of the place settings were incomplete. I was married and in Mexico. So the Mariachi band didn't play some of the songs we requested. I was married and in Mexico. You see where I"m going with this...
Of all the people that I know who saved their "anniversary" cake, NONE have actually eaten it. It ends up sitting for years in the freezer and getting thrown out. Personally, I would have eaten mine the next day. I LOVE cake!
If it is a HUGE deal to have the anniversary cake, get the bakery to do the right cake. Or not. Because most people would use the opportunity to tell a funny story at their anniversary party. Our party took place in the delivery room, and BOY do I wish I had cake then!!! But please just be greatful that the cake was the only thing that wasn't perfect. And if you couldn't tell from the way it looked, you were VERY fortunate. And seriously, did anyone else notice???
Let the bakery know nicely, and see what they offer. Then if you must, suggest the anniversary cake be on them.
I mean really, it's not like it was the wrong color of stucco on your house... But that is for another day!!!!
Eat smart... Eat cake!