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post #31 of 84
OMG, how horrendous!!! That woman needs to see legal action...she has to take responsibility for her actions..that's a fact...

I have been dreaming about this very thing...doing my DS's cake in a week...I feel so bad for the cake baker, the parents and the bride and groom....wow...horrid...
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post #32 of 84
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I just want to clear up that when my daughter found out and saw the cake she also showed the groom. He was very upset too but asked that we set it aside for the evening and deal with it after the fact but he is very busy in the police academy and these were prominent people in the community and as I said before good friends of his parents that I doubt he would want to cause any waves. I know whatever I do will get back to his parents and I don't want to create any conflict at all with my daughter and her new family. On the other hand, I am appalled that the MIL would encourage the insanity and find it funny. Drinking at a wedding isn't my idea of a celebration but it's pretty clear was theres. Still I'm seeking all the feedback I can get in order to sort and figure all this out. I am definitely going to ask Susan to create the top again. I have contacted her and asked her if I could show all of you the incredible work she did and I'm hoping for a response soon. She has no idea what happened to her masterpiece.
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post #33 of 84
Sunny, icon_surprised.gif

I am so sorry this happened to you. I would have been in such shock I just don't know what I would have done. It must have felt like you were in a nightmare.

If you do have the top recreated you may want to have it done for their first anniversary so that it is fresh. That is what my daughter did she shared with us and it was so good and looked just like the wedding cake.

This just makes you shake your head and wonder what is wrong with people.

I say take them to Judge Judy thumbs_up.gif
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post #34 of 84
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Originally Posted by darandon

I agree that "being drunk" is no excuse and it is not "cute" behavior. I'd send her the bill.



Now I'm wondering why no one tried to stop her.

This makes me think about the tradition of Bride and Groom smashing cake into each others faces. No class. I just hope the Groom doesn't take after his family.
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post #35 of 84
Prominent member, eh?

It would be a shame if someone anonymously sent a photo to the editor of the local paper. tsk tsk

Her behavior is appalling and she'll get her just rewards.

pssst send me the photos and I will forward them on.
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post #36 of 84
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Originally Posted by ccr03

I'm gonna have to disagree with the majority and agree with kriskreations.

I would just ask Susan to make another topper and pay for it myself. I know TOO many marriages that have broken up or lead to worse because in-laws fight with each over the dumbest things. Yes, the chic was completely wrong and the MOG was wrong to not do anything, but if the MOG didn't so anything at the time, why would you expect her to do anything now?

Andchances are that neither the MOG or the drunk chic are gonna want to pay, so you'll either end up paying or with MASSIVE headaches.

Basically, I think there are certain people/things worth fighting with/for and others not. Plus, if you got the cake I am sure it would be much more special/meaningful to your daughter because YOU got it for it.



I have to heartily agree with ccr03. Causing waves in a new family is not the way to go. You aren't accomplishing anything by dragging the whole situation out in the open again. It will just cause hurt.

The groom sounds like a good man to quietly ignore the spectacle and move on. That is probably what everyone should do in this situation. It is a terrible thing but the best thing to do is move on and forget it. Just my humble opinion.
post #37 of 84
This is horrible. You have done all you should do. You have contacted Susan for a re-creation.
I think.... that since this was your daughters wedding and this is a friend of her in-laws, that she and her new husband should decide what to do. Yes, I'm sure you paid for it. It was her wedding cake. She might want to handle it quietly so her husbands career isn't killed before it gets started.
I don't understand why people think they must drink to have a good time. From my experience or lack of, the stuff smells, I can't imagine how it might taste.
post #38 of 84
Sunny,

It's horrible what happened. My two cents are:

Ask Susan for another topper

Don't get lawyers involved because they will just chew up more money than paying for the topper yourself.

Leave the drunk and MIL out of it because it will only cause stress for your daughter and her marriage. THe drunk and MIL obviously don't care and you and your daughter will only feel more stress, hurt and grief when they snub you again over the topper and the bill.

Be there for your daughter when this crazy MIL does something else to hurt her.

Update:
My husband thinks you should put in on youtube. And he agrees that was a sick think to do.
post #39 of 84
I'm so sorry that this happened to you and your daughter.

My opinion is that the husband should be man enough to talk to his parents and their friend about this nonexcusable behavior. I hope he does, he needs to stand by his new bride!
post #40 of 84
I'm so sorry for both you and your daughter. What a terrible thing to happen!!!
Certainly the lady should be responsible for the cost of the cake but that is rather delicate. Your daughter is just starting a new life with new in-laws which can be stressful without adding to it. A lot would depend on the in laws' attitude. If they are equally upset, let them(they invited the witch) handle the financial end.
I would contact the person who made the cake, let her know what happened, and put in an order for a top tier for your daughter's first anniversary and pay for it myself. That way the newlyweds will have a perfectly fresh cake in great shape next year(no matter what you do a cake that's been frozen for a year is less than tasty and has been bumped around). It can be your anniversary gift to them.
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post #41 of 84
My 2 cents...

I would not pursue legal action for reasons already posted. I also believe that the expectation of reimbursement is unrealistic. If it happens, all the better if it's unexpected!

I would, however, try to obtain photos of the damage and send them with a letter to both MOG (she encourged it) and the drunken party-girl. I would express in the letter the level of inappropriateness to her behavour and detail the expense of the cake plus the replacement top layer, the resulting damage that prevented anyone from consuming the cake, as well as the distress caused by to your daughter. You may want to ask for assistance in the cost of the cake/replacement and they may offer some token for it. However, if these people are 'prominent' as you say, I'm willing to wager that the embarassment of seeing ones self drunk and having that behavour spotlighted would drive the point home more than a letter from an attorney. These people are often all about their image.

Wedding cakes are not cheap in cost, labor, or love. I mean if she made the actual food catered to the reception inedible wouldn't reparations be expected
post #42 of 84
I agree with Zahra- I wouldn't expect any compensation from her, and I wouldn't want to get tangled up in court with her, but I would definitely want her to know what happened- she probably remembers it very differently than it actually happened since she was so drunk. It's a pretty tricky situation, but you keep mentioning how socially prominent and wealthy she is, and I definitely wouldn't let something like that get in the way of me confronting her about it. That's probably why she acts like that- no one ever holds her accountable for her behavior! I understand the benefit to keeping civil with the in-laws, but I think there's a way you can navigate this so that you can both inform her of her shameful behavior and keep the peace. In the letter, I wouldn't act angry or indignant, but I would act like I very much pitied her, like this:

Dear Mrs.Lastname,

I noticed at my daughter's wedding last week that you were not your usual self, and I hope you are feeling better now. I don't want to cause any friction between us or our families, but I did want to discreetly let you know that many people at the wedding were very concerned about you when you started to serve the cake. I know you would never intentionally ruin such a lovely piece of art or knowingly prevent other people from enjoying it, but wedding cakes are difficult to cut without making a mess out of them, which is why we had our baker specifically instruct our friends X and Y in how to properly cut and serve the cake. I'm sure you're not aware that the cake was rendered inedible, even the lovely anniversary tier, after the change in servers. I've enclosed a few pictures of the cake after it was ruined, and I'm sure you can see why so many people were concerned for your state of mind. I wish you the best, and again, hope that you have made a full and speedy recovery. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.

Yours,

XYZ
post #43 of 84
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Originally Posted by ameena

Sunny,

It's horrible what happened. My two cents are:

Ask Susan for another topper

Don't get lawyers involved because they will just chew up more money than paying for the topper yourself.

Leave the drunk and MIL out of it because it will only cause stress for your daughter and her marriage. THe drunk and MIL obviously don't care and you and your daughter will only feel more stress, hurt and grief when they snub you again over the topper and the bill.

Be there for your daughter when this crazy MIL does something else to hurt her.

Update:
My husband thinks you should put in on youtube. And he agrees that was a sick think to do.



I agree...you actually need to talk to your daugther and her husband to see what they think should be done, if anything. YOu don't want your daughter getting in a sticky situation with inlaws from the get-go. Man...I would want to strangle the drunken idiot who destroyed the cake. This is unbelieveable. On the other hand...if you want to get the drunk back...take out an add in the paper and put photos in there of her tearing up the cake. You know something like this...

Wedding dress--$1500
Photographer--$800
Wedding Cake--$1100
Taking out an add in the newspaper of (insert Ms. Drunk Cake Cutter) making an ass out of herself at my daughter's wedding...PRICELESS.
post #44 of 84
kittypterror... omG! That is great! Are you listening sunny77? send that!
post #45 of 84
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Oh yes KoryAK, I am listening to all of you. Still trying to get rational before I decide what I will do. So many GREAT comments and I guess the fact that so many of you feel about the same way I do makes me know I'm not crazy for being so disappointed and upset about the entire thing.
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