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post #1 of 84
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Hi Everyone, I've just returned from my daughters wedding back in Iowa. I ended up not making her cake and turned that over to Susan from QTCakes (also a cakecentral member). She made the most beautiful cake I've ever seen at a wedding and it was delicious I hear. But here's the problem and I am hoping for some feedback. My daughter and I had 2 "official" cake servers for her wedding. They were doing a very nice job slicing and plating servings of cake for the guests when a very wealthy and obviously very drunken guest (invited by the grooms parents) decided to dismiss them telling them "let a professional do it!" and she proceeded to hack and tear away at the cake and plopping some on the floor. She thought it was so funny she began using her hands to pick chunks and put them on plates and by the time I got to the table she had completely obliverated the entire cake. This was a 5 tier gorgeous detailed cake! She destroyed the top piece that my daughter and her husband was to keep and she had her hands in all the other parts as well. It truly looked as if a cake fight had occured. My sister reached the table before I knew anything about it and dismissed the woman telling her to go wash up (she was covered including her clothes and hair in cake). The drunken woman was upset. It was all I could do to not cause a scene. I knew it wouldn't bring the cake back and it wouldn't save my daughters top piece but I didn't even get a bite of it! After seeing the mess she made no one wanted any. I am still so angry and upset about it. Please help me know what to do. I know there isn't much I can do but what right did this woman have playing in my daughters cake. She truly was NOT trying to help. Is there anything I should do? We are thinking of calling susan and asking if she can recreate the top for my daughter and her husband to freeze and have next year. For some reason that tradition was very important to both my daughter and I since I never had the opportunity to do that with my wedding cake. Sorry this is so long and thanks for any remarks.
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post #2 of 84
I would call Susan and see if she would make another one. And then call the drunken lady who obviously was brought up by a pack of wolves and tell her she owes you for it.

I would have been beyond angry at that lady if I were you and your daughter. icon_evil.gif
post #3 of 84
I'm so sorry this happened! What a horrible woman! Weddings seem to bring out the worst in some people! How upsetting to have someone ruin such a lovely thing! I think I would contact Susan, tell her the situation, and ask her if she wouldn't mind making another topper. Of course, someone's going to have to pay for it - and to avoid conflict with the new family, I would probably just offer that up front. I'm sure she would have no problem re-creating that for the tradition sake!

Not only do weddings bring out the worst in some people - it brings out the worst people, that would otherwise be holed up in their homes. HA! Again, sorry this happened!!
post #4 of 84
I agree with heyjude. I'd find out from the groom's parents who that person was, then send them a bill (and let the groom's parents know that's what you're going to do so they aren't blindsided if the person calls them). Include a letter stating that she ruined an expensive cake and an important part of the wedding, not to mention the momento of the top tier. Hopefully the grooms parents will agree with you and support you. If someone on my side did that, I'd go after them myself.
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post #5 of 84
If it would have been me she would have been wearing the entire cake! I don't know where people get off thinking they can take control of someone else's event. Are the in-laws aware of how their guest acted? I'd call her and tell her the wedding cake cost $xxx.00 and that is what I expect to be reimbursed from her since she took it upon herself to destroy it.
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post #6 of 84
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The girls that were supposed to be cutting the cake told me the mother of the groom was taking photos of her drunken friend destroying the cake and thought it was humorous. I am just sick about the entire thing.
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post #7 of 84
I'd definitely ask for the money for the cake. Cakes are too expensive to just play in like that, unless you've bought one specifically for that purpose. She can! icon_razz.gif And I would certainly make the groom's family aware of it... if they don't want to bother her with it, then THEY can make reparations, but either way, an expensive element of the wedding was destroyed, and someone should respect and be responsible for that!

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post #8 of 84
Just wondering if anyone got photos of her attacking the cake....

As either evidence or blackmail. icon_wink.gif
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post #9 of 84
I would call the mother of the groom.. and ask her to pay for the top tier cake and also ask her to pay for half of the wedding cake.. being no one touch it after her drunken friend got a hold of it.. Or better yet! Make the drunken friend pay for it!! That's not fair to your daughter.. maybe the cost of a wedding cake will make her think before touching someone elses wedding cake again.. drunk that is!!
shit were grown men and woman.. icon_mad.gif We dont have time to play childish games with others.. It was your daughters wedding.. a day you cannot replace.. and dont think your going to hurt either ones feelings.. because that was the last thing on thier minds at the wedding..

shoot.. give me thier numbers, I'll call her!!!! icon_twisted.gif

Sorry ya.. Got me in a mood!!! tapedshut.gif
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post #10 of 84
What a wench!! I would have pressed her face in the cake and not let go until she stopped moving..

She should be sent a bill for the whole cake.. just so she knows what she did. If I were the servers I would have kept her away from the cake at all costs, but I am more agressive than most people.

At the VERY least she should be responsible for a new top tier.. but do contact her and let her know that she made the entire cake unserveable and made the bride VERY upset. How horrible.. I'd hope she would be so embarrassed that she'd just pay for the cake.. I know I would (not that I'd have destroyed the cake in the first place, but you know what I mean).
post #11 of 84
I would send the mother of the groom a bill for 50% of the total price, and her drunken friend a bill for the other half. I'm guessing that since there are pictures, you could have a case against the drunk in small claims court.
post #12 of 84
If it were me, Drunky Drunkerson would get a bill for the entire amount of the cake with a strongly worded letter about her behavior. I'd let her know that she ruined your daughter's reception, no one was even able to eat the cake, and that if she failed to reimburse (whomever paid for it) as well as sending a written apology, she will quickly find herself in small claims court where you will add a sum for pain and suffering to the total.

I get SO SICK of hearing things like, "Oh she was DRUNK, she didn't know any better!" as an excuse!! There is no excuse for acting like that. If you don't know your limit, DON'T DRINK IN PUBLIC where you may end up doing something like this. She thought she was being cute, but she was making a mockery of the beautiful and expensive cake that was the centerpiece of the whole party. Not to mention the sheer embarassment of everyone thinking this was someone your daughter associates with.

That's just my opinion, and I know you will hear SO many more, but I had to weigh in! I'm so sorry this happened!
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post #13 of 84
First and for most, I am so sorry to hear about what happened. It makes me sick to my stomach to think that someone could do that in the middle of the most importnat day in you daughters life. I have a daughter and though she is way to young to get married I would be so mad for someone to ruin her day. I can't believe that the mother of the groom thought it was funny. What did your daughter and her new husband think about the whole thing? I think that I would try to get the top layer re-made. Then I would send the bill to the drunkn lady icon_mad.gif . Again I am so sorry for your problem and I pray that everything gets resolved. God Bless icon_wink.gif
post #14 of 84
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Originally Posted by Melvira

If it were me, Drunky Drunkerson would get a bill for the entire amount of the cake with a strongly worded letter about her behavior. I'd let her know that she ruined your daughter's reception, no one was even able to eat the cake, and that if she failed to reimburse (whomever paid for it) as well as sending a written apology, she will quickly find herself in small claims court where you will add a sum for pain and suffering to the total.

I get SO SICK of hearing things like, "Oh she was DRUNK, she didn't know any better!" as an excuse!! There is no excuse for acting like that. If you don't know your limit, DON'T DRINK IN PUBLIC where you may end up doing something like this. She thought she was being cute, but she was making a mockery of the beautiful and expensive cake that was the centerpiece of the whole party. Not to mention the sheer embarassment of everyone thinking this was someone your daughter associates with.

That's just my opinion, and I know you will hear SO many more, but I had to weigh in! I'm so sorry this happened!



I totaly agree!
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post #15 of 84
I am so sorry this happened to your family. How stupid can some people be?

This is the reason I refused to serve liquor at my daughter's wedding. I totally agree with the other posters that you should get another topper for the couple and bill the lush who destroyed the cake along with a letter telling her how stupid she acted and looked.

I also agree with the poster who suggested blackmail. Then again, this is probably pretty common for her so it won't bother her.

I'd still bill her for it.
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