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post #16 of 23
7/21/05 at 2:24pm
Hi meme,

I feel your pain...I went through the same thing with family and friends. I would come home and complain.

One day I was really mad about something when my sister asked me to make a cake for her for someone else. I just went off, can't remember everthing I said but from that day on everyone pays me thumbs_up.gif .

Just stand your ground and tell them no more freebies unless you want to give it free and don't budge.

Your cakes are beautiful and you deserve to be paid.
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WE CC SISTERS AND BROTHERS NEED TO STICK TOGETHER - LOVE AND PRAY FOR EACH OTHER - STAND WITH AND FOR EACH OTHER - SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER - YEP - THAT'S WHAT CAKE CENTRAL SISTERS AND BROTHERS DO BEST. !!!

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post #17 of 23
7/21/05 at 3:01pm
At least feel flattered that your in-laws like your cakes, unlike mine, lol. I have the opposite problem.

Seriously though, if it were me, I would tell them that I couldn't afford to make it for free, that the cost of ingredients was X$ and if they didn't mind buying the ingredients, then you could make it for them. That is, IF you don't mind making it for cost.

If you want to make a few bucks, just quote them a higher price than the actual cost of the ingredients. I know personally, I am one to avoid confrontations, but lately I have had to stand up for myself, and although people may get miffed, they get over it, and I feel much better!

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post #18 of 23
7/21/05 at 3:54pm
What you could do is charge them (the immediate family that is) what they would pay at WalMart or a bakery.... that way they have a choice where to get their cakes.... You shouldn't have to do it for nothing..
I do hair, and I have a sister who always expected me to do her hair for nothing...cutting was one thing but hair color and highlites is totally another.... I know she wouldn't do it for nothing if the table was turned around...
When I did my daughters cake for her wedding last yr. I think everyone thought they would get me to do wedding cakes for freebies... I think NOT!!!! I told then right out... if I was making a cake like I did for my daughter I'd have to ask $400 at the least.... it just depended what they wanted on it , etc....they just looked at me like...holy cow...that's alot of money for a cake... Well, they can go elsewhere and get their cakes... I don't have to do it for nothing..
If I offer or do a reduced price for someone...that's my choice... not theirs..
I hope you get it sorted out..
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post #19 of 23
7/21/05 at 4:04pm
i used to do free cakes all the time. ive stopped doing it.. it costs to much and i want to make money not lose it. im glad that my hubs family isnt around so i dont have that problem. its my hubs work that is..
its starting to look alot like baking.
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its starting to look alot like baking.
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post #20 of 23
7/21/05 at 7:33pm
Hey Meme, icon_biggrin.gif
I am so sorry to hear your going through all of this with your family.
I just dont think I would have the nerve to ask or expect someone to do free cakes.

I would wait until Most or all of the Family was around for a gathering or what ever. Make sure you have a cake there and say....
I have an announcement "I hope you all enjoy My Last Cake" I just can't afford to do them anymore. Unless its a Paid Order.
I think that would get teh message across to everyone there and TRUST ME,,,,hahahaha. That will spread through the whole family QUICK.
Good Luck and Keep your Chin up. icon_twisted.gif
I know this can be so discouraging. but dont let it make you give up something you Really love just dont do FREE. I give Moms/Dads cakes as birthday presents. but that is My choice. & only if I feel like it.. icon_wink.gif
keep us Posted on this..
~Sweet~ icon_rolleyes.gif
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post #21 of 23
7/22/05 at 5:27am
How about just telling them that you took the classes to make a little extra money not to lose money on donated cakes and explain that you would be happy to make the cake however they will have to at least cover expenses or they will have to go to the market for their cake.

Deb
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Hope your day is a piece of cake!
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post #22 of 23
7/22/05 at 5:27am
Thread Starter 
Thank you all for your input. I feel better now that I got that off my chest it was nice to get advise from people who knows what goes into making these cakes! Aug . will be exactly one year that the whole freebie thing started well that neice's birthday is rolling around again and things are going to change icon_wink.gif I can already hear the silence on the line! I am going to be polite and let them all know I just can't do it anymore for free I like the family discount idea! I have a total of 15 nieces and nephews between the two families fortunatally I have not done cakes for all of them! I am saving the freebies for Holiday occasions, and immediate family for now on unless I decide otherwise icon_biggrin.gif Thanks again for all the advise!
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post #23 of 23
7/22/05 at 12:37pm
Meme,

STICK TO YOUR GUNS GIRL!!!!

& Silence can be a real good thing..hahahaha..
Good Luck!
~Sweet~ =0)
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