BIG BEAR HUG!!!!!! 
Happy Birthday Mac. I'm still waiting for a birthday present from my DH and my birthday is in January!!!!! I say tomorrow or this weekend you go and do something for yourself and don't answer your phone. You def initely deserve a massage for pedicure after all this.
Well-same thing for me-my birthday was on the 19 and I got a Wal-Mart cake from my Dad and Stepmom-yuck! I did not eat one bite. I took it to my Mom's house and my niece, nephew, son, daughter, and sister ate about half of it. My Mom was saying, "Oh I cannot stand that smell!" The smell of the icing-and when it is a Wal-Mart cake I have to agree with her there. My husband only got me a card. He did buy me a KA Mixer, but that was 2 weeks before!! I thought he would at least get me a little something else! I saw a plant that I liked so I bought that for my own little present to me. I tell my husband to get me a plant, but he always says he doesn't know which one. I am a plant lover, so I will take any kind of plant, but I guess he doesn't understand that. Men and women are wired differently. I did get a pm from someone here on CC (sorry, forgor who it was 
) and that really made me feel good!! 
Dont you hate the saying its better to give then to receive???? YUCK....Sometimes it's nice for us women to get pampered...I mean we were born!!!! That is something in itself!!! IF it weren't for us...well I won't go into that. But like everybody else says you aren't alone hun. When my father was alive they would wait till Nov. 24th to celebrate mine and my sisters Birthdays (mine is Nov 21 and Sis' is Dec. 4 they decided to wait till my sis and her family came in for the holidays 
) and I never got a call on my birthday . They said it on the 24th!! I would cry and get depressed I mean it makes ya feel like nobody cares..but they do and don't forget that! I have NEVER gotten a bday cake from my DH and probably will never...he always tells me to go get what I want, which is alright cause his presents SUCK badly LOL. But here is a big ole LATE birthday hug from Kentucky..and chin up sweety we are here for ya!!
Christi
Sorry you had a sucky birthday. I've tried to convince my family that I should celebrate June 18th instead of December 18th-there is just too much going on at Christmas. My dad always calls me in June and my sister usually remembers on July 18th. LOL Your hubby probably enjoyed having nice quiet time together and not sharing with your whole fam-damily. Have a great day after!!!
Goodness--thanks everybody!
Yes, I guess we cakers are a family in more ways than one. And yes, my DH did enjoy the quiet time. We never buy gifts for each other but we always get each other a card--I got 2 this year.
My best friend called last night at 9:45 to see if it was too late to come over and have cake 
. Told them yes, I was going to bed early for my birthday. Oh well, there's next year, right?
birthdays suck. i always feel depressed on my birthday. i think it should be mandatory for people to trow you a party. that is the only special day that you get out of the year. the only "me" day. i think you should treat them the dame way they treat you. AND DON"T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT!
Abviously, THEY DON"T.
HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
oh my god, look at all these typos. i am mad. sorry.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY. I know how you feel. My Bday was also the day my youngest graduated from High school. We had everyone over because of her graduating. Well it finally dawned on my parents as they were leaving that it was my bday. I got sorry we kind of forgot with graduation and all. Even my kids and DH forgot. And what was the worst part was I had to make the cake for graduation.
Happy Belated birthday!!
This year ---before my birthday---I let it be KNOWN that I desired a DQ cake for little old me! 
And what did I get??? A DQ cake!! YAY!
My hubby tried to get one last year...ON my birthday and couldn't...so this year he pre-ordered it! 
I was very firm that I wanted a cake that I didn't make and that I would enjoy...lol
Happy Belated birthday.
You are so not alone.
For me and for my DH the last 3 birthday years have been really poor. Just last week on my DH's birthday poor guy ended up recovering the driveway with that black stuff.
On my birhtday we had a big family meeting for (argh) wont get into that one.. anyhow ... we have decided we will throw ourselves a party in Sept. everything looks better then anyway!
Our only saving grace were our 3 boys!
Ok....based on these responses, I am SO the "odd man out" here, but birthdays are no big deal to me. I am disagreeing with almost every post so far, so if you don't want to hear it, click out now.
I don't want the hoopla that goes with it. I've seen too many adults turn into Birthday-Zillas and I just hate watching it. I mean, someone got a KA 2 weeks before the birthday and then is feeling pitiful because they didnt' get a "real" present on their birthday?? If my kids acted that ungrateful and spoiled, I'd be taking them down a notch real fast!
Birthdays have turned into something degrading. I HATE being a customer in a restaurant and have to endure the loud singing, the making the birthday-person wear the silly hat, etc. One restaurant in town does a big production of making the person walk thru the restaurant doing stupid stuff! I am so embarrassed for them. My family is under STRICT orders to never do that to me. If it ever happens, I will walk out in the middle of it, I swear to god I will. I will NOT sit there and be degraded like that.
Will someone tell me why being the birthday girl is so special when it just gives reason for your friends to say "Oh let's make her do this or that! It'll be so funny!" Why is being the birthday girl a reason for your "friends' to set you up for something degrading? 
And don't give me the crap about "it's fun!" .... name me one person who had to wear the big sombrero and stand on the chair while a bunch of waiters sang to them, who said afterwards, "Oh that was so fun! let's do it again next year!" No, it was fun for the pranksters who set it up .... not for the person who had to endure the humiliation.
Part of it is that I am not going to be one of those moms that the kids dont' want to come over and see. I believe you judge your succes as a parent by whether your kids WANT to come over or whether they come over because they HAVE to.
If I was going to sit and around and bawl my eyes out because someone didn't say HB, then my kids would only be showing up because ".....if we don't go over, mom will get a pi$$y!" Do I really want to emotionally blackmail my children to that level? Heck no!!! I've worked too hard and long to build a GOOD relationship with them! As my children move into having in-laws and other relationships, they have actually told me how nice it is to have a mom who doesn't put them under the guilt-pressure-thing!!
In my house, we dont' recognize Mother's Day because I get mother's day every single day of my life. If you have a great relationship with your mom/kids, then you don't need one day a year to do something nice. If you have a crappy relationship with your mom/kids, then one day a year becomes another nightmare of phony actions to have to deal with. I feel sorry for those poor women who only get Mother's Day once a year. I get it all the time.
I feel bad for those people who get all upset if a birthday wasn't quite want they expected. My gosh, if my only hay-day was a birthing anniversary, I'd have a pretty sorrowful life! To me, that is NOT my "big day of the year". I have lots of wonderful things happen within my life and my family that gives us cause to celebrate all the time. I'm not discarding all the wonderful things that are done throughout the year just because someone didn't buy a buck-twenty-nine card on ONE particular day!
If I want to celebrate a milestone birthday, then I will do it by ME celebrating it .... I won't be sitting around hoping someone else does what I secretly want and then cry when they dont' hit my secret expectatations.
All of this has nothing to do with age or anti-aging. I LUV being older and I proudly ring out my age with each passing year. I would never go back to being a teenager or a 20-something again! I get better with age!
Life's too short .... I am not spending one minute of it whining because everyone didn't make me the star of the show one day a year for something that I had nothing to do with.
As I said at the beginning ..... I know I'm the odd man out and I'm not trying to convince anyone to view it like I do, nor am I saying that you shouldn't observe it the way you want.
I just don't understand the big deal.
If I want to celebrate a milestone birthday, then I will do it by ME celebrating it .... I won't be sitting around hoping someone else does what I secretly want and then cry when they dont' hit my secret expectatations.
That is the key to happiness.... If you want something, say so, loud and clear. Don't hint, don't assume they know, don't expect them to read your mind. I don't just mean on your birthday, either, I mean always. And don't wait for others to make your happiness for you, go out and get it!
Looks like we have a lot of people in this club! My birthday is the day after my dad's so my whole life I had never been able to choose my cake. My dad always got to and I had to share with him. If anyone ever gets me a German chocolate cake for my birthday I may shoot them!
For my immediate family I start reminding them weeks before because I'm not taking any chances! (okay, I tell a couple of friends too!) It sucks to be forgotten so...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I'd bake you a cake if I were there.
indydebi--
I don't want all the hoopla--just a simple "Happy Birthday" from my family. My DH and MIL ALWAYS remember my BD. My DH and I have the best relationship, we don't go all out because we do it all year long.
My family is the one that calls "Aunt Pam" when they need a cake for them or their friends, money, work...you get the idea. My mom called the next day upset that no one bothered to call or come by for me because I do so much for everyone in the family.
That being said, I feel EXACTLY as you do about Valentine's Day. If every man treated their girl (wife, girlfriend...) with the love and respect that my DH gives me, there would be no need for Valentine's Day. He tells me every day he loves me, holds my hand, ... and this is after 16 years of marriage and weight gain. Over $40 for roses...my DH gave me a rose bush so I would have roses every day. I love him...he's the best!
omg, valentines' day is the WORST! I worked with so many guys who STRESSED over getting something for "the wife" on V day just so they could avoid the fight. So how sincere is the "gift" if the only reason they buy something is because she holds a gun to his head?
I dont' want a gift becuase they feel they HAVE to.....I want it because they WANT to.
One single rose for no reason whatsoever is MUCH better than a dozen roses because they felt threatened if they didn't. And i get the equivalent of a single rose all the time. It may not be a rose, but it's a little thing here and there that really counts.
My hubby has long been trained that he BETTER NOT get me anything for V day! And he is the envy of every guy he works with! They are envious because he has a great wife!
Well, I sure don't want all of the hoopla for my birthday either-getting embarrassed in the restaurant or whatever-I would just like a small surprise gift that I didn't know I would get. My husband got me a card that was very nice so that was fine-as for Valentine's Day-don't get me a bunch of flowers in a vase that will only live for a week-get me a real plant if it has to be flowers-also, I don't really like Valentine's Day either, because for school you have to get cards for every single person in the class and go through all the trouble of putting their names on it. I would be just fine if there was no Valentine's Day or Halloween (which is the worst)!
I know how you feel! For the past few years I have planned several of my friends surprise outtings for their birthdays (and brought big cakes)......what excuse to I get......Everyone is party pooped out by the time my birthday rolls around (jan.2) so no one plans anything. I have taken it into my own hands and now for the past 2 years I plan my own parties and they have been great!
Happy Birthday~!
I agree--
Every guy at my husband's office always ask what he is getting me...he tells them that I don't want anything for VD. They used to say that he was going to be in the doghouse...but they, too, have learned that we celebrate EVERYDAY! He is also the envy of his office. No stressing on getting the right thing.
When we celebrated our 10th anniversary...I told him I wanted a 1 carat, 3-stone anniversary ring. We went and picked it out together. My in-laws raised him well. His dad was the same way with his mother. He lived for her.
So celebrate EVERY DAY...not just one day!
But remember to wish those around you a Happy Birthday! Much love to all my flaky, cakey friends at CC.
... or Halloween (which is the worst)!
What!!
I am the QUEEN of HALLOWEEN!!! It's my favorite holiday! Our storge room is overflowing with all of my halloween stuff! Our house is THE house in the neighborhood (you can probably see all my strobe lights and glow in the dark items from the highway!). I have a $300 witch that's bigger than me that I got on clearance for $60. We give out full size candy bars. Our new neighbors was giving out the HUGE candy bars. We're thinking, "Hey! Who's trying to compete?" and my husband said, "That's it! NExt year we're giving away a car!" The neighbors always look forward to what items I'm adding each year.
I LIVE for halloween!!! 
Happy Belated Birthday, Mac!
While I see IndyDebi's point, I also agree that it's nice to be remembered on our birthday - especially when we're the ones turned to for all other big occasions in our families.
My birthday is Dec 21 - right in the middle of the Christmas prep season - so I used to get lost in the shuffle every year. Now I send out a global email and/or text to my friends and family announcing the "big holiday" a week before my day! I celebrate my birthday for the entire week so everyone has ample time to get a call in to me! Most of my family/friends call to tease me about it, but they call! It's become such a tradition that a lot of our loved ones now celebrate their birthday "weeks" instead of "days"!
It's good to be remembered - here's remembering you, Mac!
it seems like there is a lot of us in the same boat. By birthdays are not half of what they used to be. But then again, I wasn't married and didn't have kids. but I would change that for the world either. I know how you feel though. I try to remember everybodys birthday, buy them gifts or make them a cake and when it comes to my birthday nobody remembers except my mom and dad and husband of course. Who in reality are the only people that really matter. My kids are too young to say happy birthday to me. This year my 4 yr old said to me "but why is it your birthday, you can't have a birthday, you are not little like me". I guess he thought I was having a pinata and all the works. Made my own cake too, tres leches with my new cuisinart that my husband gave me on my birthday. So after all it wasn't too bad. If only it hadn't been that time of the month and my husband making me very upset a day before. But he did make up for it though. so don't feel bad. I think that after a certain age it can be a good thing for some people not remember your birthday because then you can keep your age for while longer and nobody will know the truth.
Here's a big Happy Birthday from MA!!!
I do know how you feel, I don't need a big to-do for my BD, hubby and kids are good about it - but JUST ONCE, I'd like all those friends and family to make ME a cake and throw me a little party. I get where you are coming from Debi, I do agree and I don't pity party, but just once... It would be pretty cool.
I save lots of my birthday cards over the years and on the first day of my birthday week I put out all the cards I have (some from more than 15 years ago!) out on the mantle or dining room table and that way I have cards even from my grandparents who have passed on. I even tell DH to pick one of the old ones he loved best and re-sign and date it instead of getting a new one.
I do this for him on his birthday as well - it's fun to see the cards the kids gave us when they were tiny.
As for Valentine's Day - when I worked in an office, I ordered a lovely plant or flowers for myself and had them delivered with a card from my boys We agree to give each other the gift of a guilt-free Valentine's Day. Same with Mother's and Father's Day. We alternate each year have the boys' portraits taken. This year DH took them on Mother's Day, he has to dress them and bring them in, select the pictures, etc.. Then next year it is my turn.
I think we need a birthday cake club - a local CC'er will bring you a cake on your birthday (just a little 6" round or something). Anyone want to sign up?
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