Ok gang I need your help! I called my mother tonight to find out the exact plans for us babysitting tomorrow night and she pops in "Oh I need a cake for next saturday" So here's how the convo goes....
Her: "I need a cake for next saturday so and so is back for a visit and we're having a picnic for her thru work"
Me: "Ok"
Her: "I'll need it for about 30 people and nothing real elaborate because I'll have to pay for it, and I'll make a batch of brownies and I was thinking you could make a batch of cookies - chocolate chip!"
Me: "ok what do you want? Round sheet? what? and what do you want it to say? 'Welcome back' 'Welcome Home' what?
Her: "Well she's not moving back she's visiting oh you know she's here for a golf tournament so you could do a golf theme"
Me: "Ok so you want me to give you a price on this in a few days right?"
Her: "Well I have to pay for it and I don't want you to charge me more then $20.00 for the cake and the cookies!"
WTF!!!!!!! That's .66 cents a serving on the cake and throwing in the cookies for free! I charge $1.50 per serving for basic butter cream and basic decoration, and I charge $3.00 a dozen for cookies. I don't even know how many dozen is in a batch of chocolate chip it's been so long since I've made them from scratch. Normally we just get the quickie ones so our daughter can help me make cookies when ever she wants... like they have this tub of cookie dough now so I bought it and it's half gone but I don't know how much a whole batch would produce....
My husband says plainly "you can't do it tell her no call her back right now and tell her no!!!! how the hell does she expect you to make this business work out and worth your time and money spent if she is going to do stuff (nope not the word he used lol) like this?"
So I'm just at a loss. She can go get a sheet cake at the grocery store for $22.00 for a 1/4 sheet. She can also buy cookies in the store bakery... I don't know how much they charge but...
How do I tell her I need her to either pay me more or go else where? The problem is my mother is very very VERY manipulative and she just has this way about her. She can change the tone in her voice or bring up something where she's helped us or something and make you cave and give in to whatever she wants. She's also used to my dad waiting on her hand and foot because she's so manipulative and demanding he does it or she won't speak to him.... yeah I know major issues there but they've been together 30 some years can't change now lol. Anyway I know what she'll do tomorrow she'll do what she did with the wrestling ring cake for my nephew. We had fallen on a tight spot in between pay checks and needed a few things from the store so I asked her if I could borrow $50.00. She was already told that cake would cost $56.00. She blew that info off like it was just a FYI type thing not a verbal bill. So later on we're talking about the cake business and all and she asked me if I was making any money at this hobby.... I wanted so bad to smack her or cuss her or something but ya know... can't disrespect the woman that brought ya into this world. So I said yeah I am because you seem to be the only one who won't pay for the cakes you order everyone else pays me what I ask or what they feel it's worth which is normally more then what I charge for it. She said "I did pay you for his cake if you remember I gave you $50.00 for groceries a week later!!!!" real bitchy like. Then in the same sentence she says "which you still haven't paid back yet" wtf is that?! I'm being paid for the cake one second the next I have to pay it back!?
So yeah she's a handfull! BIG time. I don't know what to do. I want to do it because I want to show her I can and I want to hopefully get customers from her work people, but I can't do it for so cheap it won't be worth it especially not with what cookies involve. I'd have to stand over the hot oven in the hot kitchen baking cookies all afternoon just for nothing... for a thank you. And remember she's making brownies....
She said it doesn't have to feed 30 because they will be having other stuff there it doesn't have to be real big and nothing real elaborate but a golf theme..... HOW THE HELL DO I DO THAT FOR $20.00?!?!?!?!!? Please someone help me!!!!!!
Thank you in advance!
Becky
Her: "I need a cake for next saturday so and so is back for a visit and we're having a picnic for her thru work"
Me: "Ok"
Her: "I'll need it for about 30 people and nothing real elaborate because I'll have to pay for it, and I'll make a batch of brownies and I was thinking you could make a batch of cookies - chocolate chip!"
Me: "ok what do you want? Round sheet? what? and what do you want it to say? 'Welcome back' 'Welcome Home' what?
Her: "Well she's not moving back she's visiting oh you know she's here for a golf tournament so you could do a golf theme"
Me: "Ok so you want me to give you a price on this in a few days right?"
Her: "Well I have to pay for it and I don't want you to charge me more then $20.00 for the cake and the cookies!"
WTF!!!!!!! That's .66 cents a serving on the cake and throwing in the cookies for free! I charge $1.50 per serving for basic butter cream and basic decoration, and I charge $3.00 a dozen for cookies. I don't even know how many dozen is in a batch of chocolate chip it's been so long since I've made them from scratch. Normally we just get the quickie ones so our daughter can help me make cookies when ever she wants... like they have this tub of cookie dough now so I bought it and it's half gone but I don't know how much a whole batch would produce....
My husband says plainly "you can't do it tell her no call her back right now and tell her no!!!! how the hell does she expect you to make this business work out and worth your time and money spent if she is going to do stuff (nope not the word he used lol) like this?"
So I'm just at a loss. She can go get a sheet cake at the grocery store for $22.00 for a 1/4 sheet. She can also buy cookies in the store bakery... I don't know how much they charge but...
How do I tell her I need her to either pay me more or go else where? The problem is my mother is very very VERY manipulative and she just has this way about her. She can change the tone in her voice or bring up something where she's helped us or something and make you cave and give in to whatever she wants. She's also used to my dad waiting on her hand and foot because she's so manipulative and demanding he does it or she won't speak to him.... yeah I know major issues there but they've been together 30 some years can't change now lol. Anyway I know what she'll do tomorrow she'll do what she did with the wrestling ring cake for my nephew. We had fallen on a tight spot in between pay checks and needed a few things from the store so I asked her if I could borrow $50.00. She was already told that cake would cost $56.00. She blew that info off like it was just a FYI type thing not a verbal bill. So later on we're talking about the cake business and all and she asked me if I was making any money at this hobby.... I wanted so bad to smack her or cuss her or something but ya know... can't disrespect the woman that brought ya into this world. So I said yeah I am because you seem to be the only one who won't pay for the cakes you order everyone else pays me what I ask or what they feel it's worth which is normally more then what I charge for it. She said "I did pay you for his cake if you remember I gave you $50.00 for groceries a week later!!!!" real bitchy like. Then in the same sentence she says "which you still haven't paid back yet" wtf is that?! I'm being paid for the cake one second the next I have to pay it back!?
So yeah she's a handfull! BIG time. I don't know what to do. I want to do it because I want to show her I can and I want to hopefully get customers from her work people, but I can't do it for so cheap it won't be worth it especially not with what cookies involve. I'd have to stand over the hot oven in the hot kitchen baking cookies all afternoon just for nothing... for a thank you. And remember she's making brownies....
She said it doesn't have to feed 30 because they will be having other stuff there it doesn't have to be real big and nothing real elaborate but a golf theme..... HOW THE HELL DO I DO THAT FOR $20.00?!?!?!?!!? Please someone help me!!!!!!
Thank you in advance!
Becky
Happy Cakin! ~*~Becky~*~
Happy Cakin! ~*~Becky~*~
and buy cheap tube cookie mix. that should all come in well under $20. and if there's a problem, just explain that that is what you get for the $$$.
If I was going to be really honest about it, I would tell you that I would not have charged my mom to do a cake and cookies but my mom was nothing like this and my mom babysat for me so much when my kids were little. She never charged me a dime.
