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Wedding cake fell/I can't take any more/Closing bakery

post #1 of 42
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This entire last month has been nothing but bad luck for me. My only wedding cake in July was a complete disaster and I knew it when I delivered it. It was a 3 tiered stacked cake (squares) and had tear drop leaves of fondant cascading down it. I put it together on Friday night and Saturday morning it looked like crap because it had settled or something and then I remembered it needed a center dowel in it. It totally looked like crap after that. I prayed that it would still be standing when I got to the reception but I should have prayed that it would fall (to avoid embarassment). I don't do well in stressful situations. I put on a hard shell when making communications about the cake, but as soon as the person is off the phone I am balled up in the corner crying for a week or more.

Anyway, the bride hated it. And I gave her half her money back.

Last week I had a customer call regarding there white cake that was not light and fluffy and I told them it was from scratch and that they are not light and fluffy like bakeries because they using mixes. She understood but I still crawled back in my coccon of shame.

This weekend I had 3 normal sheet cake orders, a wedding cake, and a very large 80th birthday with 3 full sheets and 1/2 sheet. The normal cakes went fine. The wedding cake went together beatifully, but I was leary of it be cause it was a cake from "Spectacular Cakes" by Mich Turner and it was just resting on dowel rods. The cake with a combination of bowing table that the provided and the cake with "magical support" fell.

Now, I left the set up and saw it had a lean I assumed it would be okay. I told the parents that the table was leaning and that is why the cake was leaning and I left. They didn't say anything about it. That was at 12:30.

I went to pick up my son that I never get to see because I work a full time job 3rd shift plus I own a bakery that I opened last November. We watched him play for a little while and then figured it would be best to leave him with grandma while my husband and I went to bake the 3 full sheet cakes.

We walked in the door at 1:50 to the phone ringing, it was the groom. He stated that the cake fell and the payed $200 dollars for a piece of crap and what was I gonna do about it. I again put on my thick skin and said that there was nothing I could do because they furnished me with a faulty table, and he said why didn't I ask for a new table, and I said that it was sturdy and the cake was fine. The groom hung up frustrated. The bride immediately calls wanting her money back and I agreed to give her half plus the amount for the topper that broke. We hang up the phone and I immediately start crying...

And I still have been crying except for when I think that I should close the business and spend time with my son and husband. The bakery is not going that well anyway. The lease and my 1 employees' are paid out of my personal pocket and the bakery is only supporting ingredients and utilities. We are in major personal debt from opening the bakery and I have no time to spend with my family.

It is just too much with a full time job and a family, I just can't take it anymore. The only thing that brings me peace right now is the thought of closing the shop and spending some much needed time with my son.
post #2 of 42
I am so sorry that it has been so difficult for you to get your business running like you would like it to be. The first year of a business is always the most difficult but it sounds like you are just wrung out from burning the candle at both ends.

I hope you are able to make decisions that you can feel comfortable with and have time to spend with your family. Wishing you better days to come! (((hugs)))

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post #3 of 42
I am so sorry that you are having to decide this. There is nothing I or anyone can say to you that will help you, except we care and will pray for you to make the best choice for YOU. Sometimes if we take all the emotion out of our decisions, they become clearer. Why did the cakes fall? Was it your fault, or the fault of outside forces you could not control. Why is the business not making money? Are you still in the "start up and get the word out" phase? Is the joy you feel when you are with your son the safe place to escape working too much? Is this the best time for you to be starting a new business? If you close the business how will that impact your finances? How will it impact your personal dynamics with your family? Are you missing your child growing up, or just seeing it from a different time frame? Sit down in a quiet place and have a really honest talk with yourself. Then have a talk with a pencil and a piece of paper. Most importantly, talk to your husband. Not wanting to get in trouble with anyone, but the FIRST talk should be an honest discussion with God. He can really help you find comfort and clarity. My quote at the bottom speaks to me each day. You have a dream - how and when will you make it come true?

Sorry I wrote so much. I sit here in tears for your pain. I have had to make some very hard decisions in my life, and I have found that being honest with myself is the best place to start. Good luck and have a piece of chocolate - that REALLY helps!! icon_lol.gif
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post #4 of 42
Gosh, theres not much that can be added to the above post, but I just wanted to jump in and send a big electronic hug to you. All of us have had a disaster happen to us so we understand the curling up in the corner feeling! You wouldn't have all those orders if you weren't talented enough to attract the order to start with. Thinking of you and praying for you as you go thru this decision process.

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--- Michael Jordan

" I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
--- Thomas Edison

" I have been through so much that I don't fear any more. Maybe it is the failures that have taught me to love to succeed or maybe it's the rejections that have toughened me."
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post #5 of 42
I'm so sorry for all your troubles and distress! I'm sure there are many people reading this and pulling for you! So many businesses are a struggle to start, and I've heard from many an experienced business person that bakeries are one of the most difficult. So whatever you decide, I give you a lot of credit for starting your bakery in the first place, and taking a chance that many people only dream of! Good luck with everything!!
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post #6 of 42
Thread Starter 
As far as I can tell I followed the instructions for that cake to a tee. I just think the combination of a bowing table and no "pillar locking into plate support" that us American depend on was the culprit. The decsion to close will not impact my personal finances, it will actually better them. I do need to talk to my landlord to see what he wants, but my original lease agreement was only until July 2007. And I won't have to pay an employee anymore (unfortuantely it is my sister, but she was just helping me out when we started selling donuts at the end of June). My husband is in complete support of whatever decsion I make. I just think I decided to open the shop too quickly.

The only thing that brings me peace right now is not setting foot in that door again. I don't feel I am capable of facing future customers knowing that I am such a repeat failure.

I do have a wedding booked for this coming weekend that I will complete, and one for October that I will call the bride about and let her make a decision about whether she wants me to make it from home or go somewhere else. I feel soooo bad.

I just need to live a normal life.
post #7 of 42
When you find peace, that is the right decision. If you are not happy, what is life worth? Good luck and always believe in yourself. You are not a failure. Things just happen sometimes. This has been a great learning experience for you. Look how everyone pulled together for you! Do you see how much your husband loves you to support whatever you do?? There are a great many people on this earth who would love for their spouse to say that. No, you are not a failure, you are a blessed child of God.

the cake you make this weekend will be wonderful. Don't impose the "self fulfilling prophecy". Remember the Little Tank Engine: I think I can, I think I can, I KNOW I can. You will do great. I expect to see that picture posted next weekend!

When I assmbled the last wedding cake I did, The bride had told me how the grandma did not like the cake , blah, blah, and guess who was there during set up! She spoke to everyone else setting up but me, I was no nervous my hands were literally shaking so badly, I had to set the tier down and start over. I had my DH stand between me and the others, took a deep breath, said a prayer, and put that sucker on there! You are not a failure! Believe in yourself and always remember, the only people that can make you feel bad are the people that YOU let make you feel bad. I love you and God loves you! Cake people have to stick together! Some of us with alittle more "glue" than others!! icon_lol.gif

Be at peace, and rest tonight knowing that tomorrow you are in control of your life!
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post #8 of 42
I am so sorry. You lived my nightmare. What you went through is my biggest fear. It can only get better.

From watching Ace of Cakes I learned sometimes disaster strikes and you have to work with it. So I don't get as tensed up as I use to.

I also take a picture of every cake I deliver so if someone bumps the table (it has happened) I have proof that it was fine when I delivered it.

Many hugs sent your way.
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post #9 of 42
I forgot to add, I have never had a white cake that was light and fluffy, ever.
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post #10 of 42
AWALLY 96,

I STARTED TO icon_cry.gif WHEN I FINISH READING THIS FOR REAL I DID. MY HUSBAND SAID WHAT WAS WRONG AND I COULD NOT EVEN SAID NOTHING BUT TEARS RUNNING DOWN MY FACE. AND IT'S NOT EVEN ME icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

I AM TRULLY SO SORRY THAT YOUR GOING THRU THIS. IF ANYTHING HELPS PLEASE REMEMBER THIS FOR THE FUTURE. GOD DOES NOT SEND YOU TEST IF HE KNOW YOUR NOT GOING TO PASS THEM. THIS IS TO MAKE YOU STRONGER. HANG IN THERE IS BETTER SAID THAN DONE icon_cry.gificon_cry.gifthumbs_up.gif BUT JUST HOLD ON TO YOUR DREAMS ONES ACOMPLISH DON'T GIVE UP THIS YEAR WILL BE YOUR FIRST YR ANNIVERSARRY AND YOU WILL BE OK. I JUST KNOW THIS JUST HAND IN THERE.

I TRULLY PRAY FOR YOUR SANITY AND YOUR HEALTH TAKE A WEEK OFF YOU NEED IT, GOD BLESS YOU. YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE ON MY PRAYERS.

GIRL KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. thumbs_up.gifthumbs_up.gifthumbs_up.gifthumbs_up.gificon_cry.gifthumbs_up.gifthumbs_up.gif
MICHELLE
If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way. James F. Clake

IF YOU DON'T LIKE MY CAKES, WELL GET A FROZEN ONE.
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If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way. James F. Clake

IF YOU DON'T LIKE MY CAKES, WELL GET A FROZEN ONE.
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post #11 of 42
I think that Havingfun has pretty well summed up anything I could offer to say. I hope that whatever decision you make works out well for you. Even if you give up your shop, don't give up on decorating and for sure, don't quit us here at CC.

Diane
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post #12 of 42
Somtimes, I'm not very good with verbally expressing sentiment. But I saw your post and felt the need to reach out. Sometimes, the way things happen can leave you wondering why events happen the way I do. I don't have any answers, but I think it's important to know that there are people who care. My heart goes out to you and I felt the need to say so. There is a whole cc community who are saying a silent prayer for you not just this evening but in the days to come. God bless.
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post #13 of 42
Don't give up! I know that you feel so low right now, but you WILL feel better. I have been where you are. The best decorators ever have had falls or some sort of mishap. It really is bound to happen when you are first starting out. You just need to learn from your mistakes and keep your head held high. Sounds like to me that if you can hang in there and learn a little time management between your business and your family, you will have much more peace with everything!
I will keep you in my prayers, but PLEASE, don't give up...hang in there. You do beautiful work! Hugs!!![/u]
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post #14 of 42
havingfun,

THANK YOU FOR SAYING THOSE THING FOR HER AND FOR ALL OF US.

I AM STILL CRYING THIS IS SUCH A GREAT COMMUNITY

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MICHELLE icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

I LOVE YOU ALL EVEN IF I DON'T KNOW YOU ALL I TRULLY HAVE BEEN BLESS WITH THIS WEBSITE. MY BIG CC FAMILY. icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way. James F. Clake

IF YOU DON'T LIKE MY CAKES, WELL GET A FROZEN ONE.
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If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way. James F. Clake

IF YOU DON'T LIKE MY CAKES, WELL GET A FROZEN ONE.
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post #15 of 42
AWALLY 96,
I am a full time mom, and sometimes I am thinking about "MY OWN BAKERY"... I know is alot of work, more time preparing, cleaning , publicity, and more, .... You need to learn about your own mistakes, you forgot to put a center dowel in the cake, but the next time you'll know how to do...

I'll send to you a lot of hugs...
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