I went out of my way, before my vacation, to make cookies(from scratch) for my brother, before he starts school on Monday...I individually packaged each one so they wouldn't break...overnight-mailed them through the post office...they said they'd get there by 3pm today. He hasn't called me or even messaged/emailed me or ANYTHING! But I can tell from one of his myspace quizzes that he got and ate them.....it says "What was the last thing you ate"...his reply "sugar cookies"

Then my daughter was talking to my mom on the phone...and my mom asked if my brother had called me. Nope. (This was hours ago) He STILL hasn't!

what, brothers are supposed to call sisters and say thanks?

esp brother away at school

where there are lots of girls?



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yep, we can be such jerks sometimes

My brothers don't call either when I go out of the way for them. (unless their wives or girlfriends make them )

Doug's right---college--lots of girls--need we say more.

My family knows that if I don't at least get informed that they received something (birthday card, cookies, feathers from the hens, etc) then they don't get any more.

Nope, doesn't surprise me either. And if you're his older sister, that puts you in the same catagory as mom..... loving, kind, underappreciated, and taken for granted. I bet if you STOPPED making him cookies for a while, he'd call! Men! (Boys!)

Shelle

Oh come on Mom2spunkynbug, it's your brother what were you thinking! Of course he won't call.

College aged male......Nope, doesn't surprise me! If you ask why they didn't call, most likely it's because their brains are just overloaded with everything they have to remember for school! (Ya, right!) My son is a college senior this year. IF he remembers to call, it's usually several days later!

YEah, I'm with everyone else - college GUY is not going to call his big sis to thank her for the cookies even if he absolutely loved them.

ONE year, and I mean ONE YEAR, I didn't make my brother the cake he wanted and he still hasn't let me live it down. But I've made him so much more since then, but does he remember those, noooo.. he remembers the ONE YEAR I didn't make him the cake he wanted.

Yeah, my brother wouldn't call, either. In fact, I am still waiting for my birthday gift (May).

I'd send an empty box...packaged just like the first one but with a note inside that said
"This would have been full of more yummy cookies if you had bothered to tell me that you liked them."




sometimes brothers need a kick in the pants.
mommachris

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Nope i say post a blog about how ungreatful cookie eating brothers are

That is just too funny...I'd try the empty box as well! Being a baby sister isn't much better!

heheh yup men that age they see "food- cool" and the thought is gone as fast as the food is. i know i have a soon to be 16 year old with a bottomless pit

I like the empty box too. It doesn't take much effort to text you a thanks.

My brother is NOT college aged (35 yrs old) and he's older than me, but he shares the same characteristics. I made custom cookies that I didn't have a cutter for!! My mom's excuse for him was that he's not really into sweets!! What? That doesn't matter, they were still pretty to look at! I feel a little better knowing that it seems to run in the male line and not just in my family. I like the empty box idea!

my brother would send me a single-word sms saying, "thanks" -- that's it. we're shy saying our "i love you's," "thanks!" and "i miss you's" so the impersonal text message is actually a lot coming from him. but then, would i be so sweet as to even think of sending him a box of cookies??? your post made me think! you're such a sweet sister!

I disagree that it's that he's a college-aged guy. If his GIRLFRIEND had sent him cookies, I'm sure he would have responded in some way, but it was his sister instead, so he didn't even think about it. I like how you both have myspace and he didn't even send you a message on that.

My brother's a jerk, too. I don't bake him anything.

You guys crack me up. I can't stop laughing. I love this website. It is like home!

My brother's the same way. The only reason he called me this year for my birthday was to tell me how old I was getting (40) and it would only be 25 years til I drew Social Security. What a brat. He's older than me too so I told him I may be getting old but he'd always be older.

He gets it from his/my mother. I take cake up to the SNAP Center (the place where old people hang out, play domino's, and eat free lunch) pretty often and don't get any thanks from her although all the old people always thank me when they see me coming with some goodies. I've started sneaking in there without even seeing Mom and leaving the cake just to see if I get a call later about it. Nope.

I think it's more of a brother thing than a college thing. My brother is 43 and he rarely calls me, my other sisters, or our Mother. They just don't act like girls do....wanting to call and talk about what's going on in their lives, etc.
When I call him though we have no problem talking for a few hours.
Boys are just stinky!


Mommachris idea about the empty box would be tooo funny...you should do that.

I'd just send an empty box....that way he would HAVE to call you to find out why it was empty!

this is just me, BUT, excusing him from thanking you , is just that, an excuse for poor behavior...anytime we allow it, whether it be our little sons, grown up sons, brothers , husbands, bosses, fathers, this just makes it harder for the next woman in their lives to get the respect, ( and it is a sign of respect to thank someone for their efforts) they have coming... my son just got married and his wife is always telling me how kind and respectful he is to her and even total strangers. it was the way he was raised. he learned to be a man from my husband in how to treat people. my daughter has learned what kind of man she wants in life by watching how her dad treats me, and trust me, the first time a guy doesn't show her the respect she deserves, he's out.

Yep, have to agree with others in the cesspool (oops, that's another thread!) that sending the empty box is a great idea. I also second what Kaciealexa believes about teaching people how to treat us. All that said...this time you probably made the cookies with a smile in your heart. You don't have that smile anymore to make your brother more cookies...so don't! I think it's important to give gifts with openess and love and if you can't do that, (understandable why, the ungrateful clod!), don't do it at all. Of course if he reads CC and reaches out to bestow his gratitude...that's a different story!

I may be in the minority here but my whole family calls and gives thanks (well all except my dad usually, he is probably the most ungreatful person ever, he doesn't even call or send birthday cards to his grandkids .. but that is another thread lol). I have 3 brothers 2 of which are usually ungreatful, self centered jerks, but they are always quick to say thank you and even send items in return. My brother who was 20 enlisted in teh navy, I sent him a care package (the only one in my family to do so) and he responded quickly with appreciation. He also sent me goodies and special teas for thanks for helping him out with various things I help him with. he has sent me and the kids souvineers from hawaii when he got stationed there. I love him to death. He is my middle brother, my one older brother who is pretty much a deadbeat, has a kid he doesn't support opens his mouth and thinks eh is a know it all, still says thanks and will be quick to give gifts to others as well, and my youngest brother now 18 is the same, he even called my husband yesterday to wish him a happy birthday (the only one in my family to do so) and he even asked for his birthday to have my kids draw him pictures so he could hang them in his office at work. Which like I said is weird because my dad can be as self centered and self serving as they come (my mom has this tendency but for the most part of greatful adn thankful) but my brothers and I seem to be close knit given that we are all grown now and living across teh country from eachother makes us realize what we have and that we need to stick together closly.

oh and we are very sarcastic if we don't get a thank you or acknowledgement if we give a gift we will be quick to let the others know lol, the way that news travels through our family is enough to make everyone stay on top of their thank yous lol

Call me crazy, but maybe he's in rebellion from being so closely monitored. I mean, you know exactly when the cookies should have arrived, approximately when he ate them, the time stamp of when he posted about eating cookies on his MySpace pg, and people of the previous and next generation are speaking to each other about his lack of response.

Sounds to me like you could have saved yourself a bunch of trouble and heartache by just calling or texting him and asking if he received the package and enjoyed the cookies.

I sent my brother a care pkg and he responded to me about a week later saying how he and his buddies loved everything. The next one I send will go to Iraq and I don't know how long it will take to get there, but I know he will appreciate it. He doesn't have to tell me.