My DH is supportive..he serves as artistic consultant (free of course) when I need help with a colour or a design.
I think he is excited about me doing cakes and has asked if I can give him some practice cakes to take to his work instead of going to mine all the time.

Yes, I'm pretty lucky. And to think that the only thing we ever fight about is housework and I'm the one who is griping, shame on me. Well, he stays at home with the kids during the day while I am teaching. He has his own business as a videographer. The kitchen has become his expertise, he can do it while the kids are in the living room or napping. Pretty much the rest of the house is up to me but, he works nights and weekends at his 2nd job.

My DH is very supportive. He helps me out with most of the cakes. Last week I was making a army tank cake and had to leave it unfinished to go to work. When I returned the cake was finished. I just did the camo on the bottom cake, he viva smooth it, did the top cake and made all the fondant decorations Here's a pic.

OK--I forgot to add about my wonderful DH: The kitchen is a foreign planet to him, but he always praises me and reaches for the camera. He NEVER asks about the money I spend, even though our garage and under-the-bed spaces are filled! His moto: "I think you should have whatever you want." Aahhh......what more could I ask for!!!!???

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My BF is the best when it comes to my hobby. He serves as my other set of hands all the time. I have done a few more "guy or boy" style cakes lately and he tells me what color goes where and even colors the icing just right. I also love the fact that he makes all of my MMF for me. As for cleaning everything - we try to work together on that. (I think he likes this hobby alot better than my horse)

aggiedecorator..........Oh, we already have a kitchen, and we really don't care what your DH looks like (we'll take him "as is"), so I'm sure the picture request refers to a recent cake photo!!! However, if you want to include your DH with a kitchen photo, we won't object! However, if he's a 22 year-old hunk.........don't you dare! We're jealous enough!

I am devastated as I thought my husband did support me, but it seems only when it doesn't involve spending our money!
We are looking to buy a bigger house and today I showed him a house that I have dreamed of for 2 months which has a granny flat with it's own kitchen and he told me he will absolutely not look at houses with a second kitchen!
I am sooo tired of using my kitchen for both our family food work and also cakes..and I can almost never use the oven for roasts or anything as I always have cakes in there.
When my customers pickup their cakes they walk through the whole house to the kitchen at the back and therefore the whole house has to be perfectly clean and tidy as well as the kitchen and it interrupts our family life, whereas if I had a granny flat it could all be seperate.. my work and my family life. I just feel like he doesn't take it seriously now and I am considering throwing it all in and quitting.

I just wish I had a husband or significant other K'ly

melvira you are hilarious!

My hubby is supportive. Last week he INSISTED I buy an Artisan KA that was on sale for $99.98!! He has even started going to bakeries to see what "they are trying to do". He'll even clean up the kitchen when I have a bunch of cakes to do. As far as the second kitchen..lol, he said one day (when we win the big lottery) he is going to buy 2 houses, hook em together, and totally revamp the one to make one huge kitchen. He said he'll leave the bathroom, 1 bedroom, and living room for consultations, but the rest of the house, it's gonna be ALL KITCHEN!!

My Hubby supports me 100%.Cake money has saved our butts a few times financially so he loves it and he is my #1 cheerleader when he sees every cake !!! Gosh I love that man!!!!

I wish. For almost 5 years now, I've been teaching myself to decorate. Now that I think I am ready to begin actually selling things for a profit, he's pulled the plug on my dreams. We are getting ready to move to HIS home town area, and talking about what kind of house, etc. and he said something along the lines of "you know when our kids are in school, you have to go back to work" I was like, yeah, making cakes. He said, umm, no, a real job with retirement and benefits. When I protested, he said he'd love to be a beer brewer, but it's not going to pay the bills, so he has a real job, and that's what I need to think about. I should have known better. He actually told me I should go back to school to be a dental hygienist. Where he came up with that, who knows. I don't even like to hug people, let alone dig around in their mouths! I am so envious of all of you who have a supportive husband.

keira, I am feeling your pain! we have been looking at house plans, and my hubby won't even look at ones with dining rooms. Why on earth would we need a separate dining room, when we can just eat in the kitchen? He also wants an open kitchen to the living room. I told him I'd prefer it to be separate, so when I am in the middle of a project I can concentrate, and his response was that he cooks too and he wants it open. Why are men so $#@% stubborn? Oh, but get this - he HAS to have vaulted ceilings in the living room. Why? Because they look "cool". I swear. Never marry a scorpio. especially if you are one.

I'm lucky that my husband is so supportive. Over the 2 years that we've been married, i've gotten really involved in a LOT of hobbies, and he's always been awesome about helping me. he never complains about the money i spend on decorating (he doesn't mind the practice cakes either) and he's really proud of the stuff i make.

Ask him if HIS hometown has a "Husband Store." Sounds like you need a trade-in, with upgrades.

Seriously, though, I hope he comes around. Maybe if you can stick to high-end orders, like wedding cakes, he might come around. Show him a price list. There are tax write-offs, too, when you own your own business, such as a portion of the car, ins., etc. Doesn't his company pay for your/kids benefits? I hope this works out for you.

BTW, will he be paying for the maid and cook when you get a job? Or does he plan to split these duties with you??? It sounds like you're being set up to work around the clock!

Dh is pretty supportive of my hobby. He knows I enjoy doing it, and has never said I couldn't do it. I know lately I've been doing lots of cakes, and he only asked that I buy my own ingredients, which is fine. He laughs that I am on here so much reading. He likes the neat things I've learned, and even asks questions. He helps sometimes with colors, like if he thinks it needs to be darker, or different. Besides, I love toy bake, and he says I find any excuse to bake... LOL

You know the funny thing is.. he loved this hideous house yesterday because it had a nice pool!! Now I agree on wanting a pool for our children to reinforce what they learn in training but not with a house that has tiny bedrooms, tiny lounges and foul blue carpet with designs all over it! (we are asthmatics and looove our polished floors!)
I couldn't believe when I pointed out how small the lounge rooms were and that if he had the "boys" over for a footy game there would be no room for them and he just dismissed them saying they were big enough... he just doesn't see it!
I am thinking of going on strike.. in the kitchen..."make your own meal honey as it's YOUR kitchen!", in the loungeroom.."if you don't like the mess, then clean it yourself"... and well maybe in the bedroom too!
I am only doing birthday cakes, maybe if I break into the wedding cake market he might change his mind..probably not though, stubborn man!

As I am the one doing the footwork( or should I say reading the online real estate), I am just not showing him a single house without a second kitchen! Although there are not many and we will probably be stuck in our current house for years

Sometimes I wish I had a supportive husband, or wait....a husband at all.....then I realize since I don't, I get to do whatever I want without someone telling me I can or can't. Sometimes life is really good that way.

Boy, there sure is some truth in all that. It's Funny, my husband doesn't have an opinion on most things and then when he does it's totally frustrating.

I have to share this funny with you. Our freezer on our refrigerator is on the blink, so we need to get a new one. I had looked a bit and I really, really like the freezers on the bottom a LOT more. I don't care about stainless steel or water dispensers and ice makers or all those extras. I just want as much refrigerator space as possible and at eye level as much as possible. BUT... these are pricier. When I told dh what I wanted, he said, "Not for this house which we will probably sell (and appliances stay behind in agreements usually). We'll just get a base model. Plus, they're inefficient"

My heart sunk. We've been married for 13 years next weekend. I cook ALL our meals (we eat breakfasts at home, pack lunches, and eat almost all meals at home) and I've always had the base of everything. I didnt' want gizmos... I wanted SPACE and organized space...

Well, we were pricing them and I realized that what I wanted was pricier and we are trying to save. We figured for what we wanted we would need to spend about $600. However, first we decided to go to the Sears Appliance Outlet store to see what they have...

Guess what I ended up getting and it was my HUSBAND'S DECISION. All iI did was show him, "Oh Honey, this is the type I was talking about." and he said, "Oh, those really are nice. I can see why you like that. Hmmm.... they are as efficient as top freezers too" So, after looking at things, comparing features and set ups, we did get the freezer on bottom refrigerator and it was a scratch and dent (had one TINY ding at the bottom in the corner) and on top of that, they wre having "move it out" sale as they are flooded with fridges right now. It usually costs over $1100 with shipping/taxes and today we got it for $680 all included with the same warranty. I am SOOOOOOOOO happy!

I just think that for LOTs of men, they just need to be SHOWN. They are so visual and many are cheapskates - well, cheapskates for things like fridges and daily task stuff - now music and stereos and tvs, that's a different story!. That and they need to have time to mull it over...

Anyway, I now have a larger capacity fridge, with more organization and the freezer which I hardly use (as we have a deep freezer in teh basement) is on the bottom.

So, give it time, I think you'll find that you'll have the two kitchens you want in the end. Just make sure it has something he really wants too so that he'll be more ready to agree to it! LOL

Melissa

You are so right Melissa! You know I was so disillusioned all last night, was close to tears all day yesterday.
I have not talked to him much so he knows something is wrong with me! So this morning he brings up the house subject again and I said very calmly to him that I just can't do it all in one kitchen anymore and said that the least I need is one extra room to put an oven and storage etc.
Then he said well why don't you have the 4th bedroom in the future house and put a proper stainless steel bench etc in it for decorating, and buy some proper cupboards to store bulk flour etc.
I nearly died! It won't be a proper 2nd kitchen, but the main mess I make is when I decorate anyway, so I think we might have the issue solved! Only thing is.. I am putting an extra oven in it whether he agrees or not!
I told him I was being reasonable and that I just need my own professional space.
He also had a point that since I am only a 2 year old business, if it wasn't successful then he didn't want to be stuck with a useless second kitchen.
Surely having a stand alone oven in "MY OFFICE" will work!

I am thrilled as I thought the outright "NO 2nd KITCHEN" thing showed no regard for my opinions etc, so him being willing to change enough things to work for me too is great!!!!!!!!!

I think I might keep this one after all, for a while I was considering a refund or exchange!!

Melissa, in my previous house I had a freezer on the bottom. When we moved here about 3 years ago, I didn't get one (didn't want to spend the few extra hundred dollars) and I have regretted it everyday!! So, from now on for things that I really need and use especially on a daily basis, I get what I want!!

Enjoy your freezer on the bottom!

thanks for the affirmation that bottom freezers are what I hope they will be! LOL. DH won major brownie points, because, yes, we did spend a little more than we first anticipated (less than $100), but... we COULD have gotten the kind of refrigerator we were originally hoping to spend $600 on for about $450, so he listened to my wishes and discovered their worth on his own.

I'm hoping he'll come around with a baking business too. He's so skeptical and not because he doesn't think I do good and delicious work, but that it won't bring in enough money to make it worth it. Perhaps with SHOWING him with some "product" and $$$, he'll change his mind.

I won't make anywhere what I made pre-Henry (my toddler), but the whole point is to survive on his income for a bit longer while he's still not in school. I can pull in more income later. I can understand him though as I have the earning potential of a middle level management position in the university setting and cake decorating will only make a fraction of that, but quality of life is more important and we do both understand that.

We'll see...

Melissa

This is my hobby and my husband has been very supportive from day one. I've never been to Michaels which happens to be in the same shopping area where I do my grocery shopping, so one day I decided to go in. I bought the Wilton yearbook, and got hooked. I'm a SAHM and was bored, and learning to cake decorate gave me something to look forward to each week. I went to my first Wilton Tent Sale with my husband and spend a lot of money and all my husband said was if it makes you happy I'm happy for you, and don't worry about the money. Of course, we're not hurting financially, and he knows I'm frugal and don't waste the money, and since this hobby became important to me, he's said or done nothing but encouraged it. He doesn't want me to work too hard but to enjoy life, and if something makes me happy, and I have the time to do it, then he's all for it. He truly is a wonderful person, and I feel so blessed to have him and our daughter in my life.
Emi