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post #16 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:20pm
Not that your bride isn't over reacting regardless, but is it possible that she thinks you actually made a version of her wedding cake for the birthday cake?
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post #17 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:21pm
I'm sure she probably think you meant the design. If she didn't, I would tell her that you apologize she's upset, but you wanted to make sure the cake recipe was perfect for her cake.
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post #18 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:24pm
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oh man! this is killin' me!!! icon_confused.gif

she KNOWS the cake did not look like hers, because i sent her a photo at the same time.

the bridal shower cake is also a flavor i've made for many others before...dare i mention that?

she didnt mention cancelling the wedding ONLY because of the cake flavor. lots of little things...that must not be going her way have added up.

i have half a mind to give her back her money less what Ive already spent and just say GOOD LUCK FINDING SOMEONE ELSE TO DO A RON BEN ISRAEL CAKE AND AN EDITH MEYERS CAKE FOR THIS PRICE, FOR THESE FLAVORS , ANYWHERE ELSE! no more games.

http://www.wedlok.com/uploads/weddingcake.jpg (same style, different design for 75. $3 serving, banana brown sugar cake with strawberry imbc, fresh roses, chocolate dipped monogram strawberries, satin ice fondant and gumpaste bows painted in luster dust!)

http://www.edithmeyer.com/emilys.htm (different colors, gumpaste flowers, $4 serving, amaretto cake with espresso imbc with fondant)
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post #19 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:24pm
Does she think that once you make her cake you'll burn the recipe so you can't ever use it for anyone else? That's such a trivial thing for her to be upset about. Now, if she supplied the recipe and it were Granny's secret recipe that came over on the Mayflower and it's just supposed to be used for family and she has you fingerprinted and background checked and you sign a contract with the CIA never to use it again..........Good grief, hun!!

No ettiquette rules broken here that I can see--from you anyway! Good luck with her!

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post #20 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:24pm
God help the husband if this is what she does over a cake!
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post #21 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:27pm
sorry shud have read "there could be a momzilla" lol

There good be a momzilla hiding in the background and the cake is the only thing the bride is allowed to pick lol. Just give her a few days and she'll get over it.
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post #22 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:27pm
Naw Melysa it wasn't what you did it was how you communicated it. Your email confused her. She thought you made her EXACT cake for a birthday. Pick up the phone and call her. Sometimes people don't understand texting. icon_wink.gif

(Oh and yes, she really over reacted. The stress really has really done a number on her brain cells.)
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post #23 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:28pm
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Originally Posted by melysa



she KNOWS the cake did not look like hers, because i sent her a photo at the same time.




OK, well that just makes her insane then, doesn't it?

Tell her the only totally unique flavors you have available are spinach cake with tomato filling and zucchini buttercream.

Then you can reassure her, with absolute certainty, that nobody will EVER have her cake flavor again.
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post #24 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:31pm
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Originally Posted by HollyPJ

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Originally Posted by melysa



she KNOWS the cake did not look like hers, because i sent her a photo at the same time.




OK, well that just makes her insane then, doesn't it?

Tell her the only totally unique flavors you have available are spinach cake with tomato filling and zucchini buttercream.

Then you can reassure her, with absolute certainty, that nobody will EVER have her cake flavor again.



That is hilarious!!! I am going to remember that. thumbs_up.gif
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post #25 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:32pm
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Originally Posted by HollyPJ

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Originally Posted by melysa



she KNOWS the cake did not look like hers, because i sent her a photo at the same time.




OK, well that just makes her insane then, doesn't it?

Tell her the only totally unique flavors you have available are spinach cake with tomato filling and zucchini buttercream.

Then you can reassure her, with absolute certainty, that nobody will EVER have her cake flavor again.



oh my...thats hillarious!
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post #26 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:33pm
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Originally Posted by tiptop57

Naw Melysa it wasn't what you did it was how you communicated it. Your email confused her. She thought you made her EXACT cake for a birthday. Pick up the phone and call her. Sometimes people don't understand texting. icon_wink.gif

(Oh and yes, she really over reacted. The stress really has really done a number on her brain cells.)



nope, my email was pretty clear. however, i did just email her again to clarify.
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post #27 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:37pm
I'd tell her to take a hike. If she is so stressed out about this wedding this far in advance then can you imagine what she is going to be like when the date gets closer. I wonder how drastic and dramatic the e-mails you get will be like then.
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post #28 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:44pm
melysa okay there then - she's totally nuts......

Oh, oh, oh offer a peanut cake! Yeppers! That outa do it.........
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post #29 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:45pm
Well, IT WORKED! She got you to apologize when you did nothing wrong! That is a manipulator for you. I'm sure she needs you to feel sorry for her because she is the most picked on stressed out bride on the planet.
Since she is family, maybe you could do her a favor and tell her to get over herself and stop being dramatic. I bet she would never pull that crap with an actual Bakery! (I am assuming you do not own a bakery).

She's trying to create drama and manipulate. Don't you let her. Just make her the cake she wanted. I doubt she'll be crying crocodile tears when she is cutting it with her new hubby.
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post #30 of 273
8/1/07 at 1:55pm
Leta just brought out a very good point - never mind that the girl to totally coocoo - we know that, but maybe she is also trying to make you feel guilty - which you do and shouldn't - and trying to get you to lower your price out of guilt. I mean - okay so maybe she is really stressed out and took this way out of proportion, but c'mon, let's think about this, who in their right mind can possibly think that they are to have a one of a kind flavor that no other soul has ever had?!! Is her dress one of a kind? Are they going to tear down the reception hall/church where she is holding her wedding so that she will be the only bride ever to use it .. . .is she the only woman her husband has ever been with. . . sorry, didn't mean to go thereicon_smile.gif
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