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is it bad etiquite? i'm confused!

post #1 of 273
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wow.

i have a wedding cake for october. the cake flavor was requested, so i found a recipe and gave her a sample cake. she liked the cake but chose a different filling/icing. this weekend i made the cake combination for a mutual aquaintances birthday. the bride was out of town so not there, i emailed her today and told her that i made the cake (I WAS PRACTICING!!!) and it turned out great. THINKING that she would be happy to hear that. her response was a little confusing, so i emailed back and apologized, thinking that would do it.

well, she got deeply offended and now wants to change the wedding cake. she said she's been crying since i told her (WHAT???) and has even considered cancelling the wedding because she is losing all the little details that are important to her. she doesnt want her wedding cake to be remembered as a copy of a birthday cake. HUH? icon_confused.gif

this is an aquaintance, but i have NO IDEA at this point how to respond. come on, i bake ALL THE TIME. is there some sort of ettiquite that i am missing out on? should each bride have a patent on THEIR cake flavor? wow- set me straight here. i am really frustrated.

i'm also supposed to make her shower cake this weekend. things have been purchased, (i have been paid) and i need to make things in advance ...as in now...(gumpaste). argh. am i supposed to sit around and wait for her to get over this to know if i continue with the cake? thumbsdown.gif
post #2 of 273
Ironically I am watching Bridezillas on WE right now...sounds about right! I would go ahead with the making of the shower cake as ordered and paid for......it's too late for her to change her mind and cancel. Sounds like she is stressed and freaking out because that is an off thing to consider cancelling your wedding over icon_confused.gif

Perhaps take it with a grain of salt....and advise her to build a bridge - AND GET OVER IT!! icon_lol.gif
post #3 of 273
no...you've haven't done wrong

you've encountered the "i am the center of and source of all life and things in the universe" version of the bridezilla.

the "i'm soooooooo special -- no one can be like me or have anything like mine" bridezilla

(hmm and are her clothes custom made? her car?
are her wedding invitations hand made originals or stock design, etc.???)

really now -- what, you have to use that recipe once and then tear it up never to be used again???

and like, how many at the b-day party will be at the wedding?? and who's to know unless little miss pissypants/weep-a-lot tells them?

oh PUH-LEEEEEEEZE!!! get over yourself little bride.

of course we practice flavor combos, of course we make tasting samples -- some even called b-day cakes.

this is one that if she cancels --- good riddance!!
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post #4 of 273
She's crying over this? Cancelling the wedding?!??!

My goodness. She must not have TV, radio, internet or any news magazine subscriptions. There's a lot to cry about in the news lately, someone baking a cake isn't one of them - no matter the circumstances that surround it.

Hurrah to her fiance for (presumably) being her port in the storm. She seems to need one pretty badly.

And courage to you if she calms back down - I think you should let her know that you don't do baby shower cakes, kids birthday cakes, etc. Three years from now you won't be able to make chocolate, vanilla, marble, strawberry, lemon, etc. cakes. She's going to cake you out of business!

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post #5 of 273
Ask her if she wants some cheese with the WHINE!

When a client asks for a "new recipe" I always practice. Just explain to the pain in the you-know-where that you want everything perfect for her wedding. And that unfortunately, she was out of town and unable to taste the product. Also explain that you do sample tasting for EVERYONE. I'm sure a birthday isn't going to be anything like the wedding...

You have like what, 20-something people at the birthday party and 100-something people at the wedding. Think about it - where would you get better compliments, comments, etc?
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post #6 of 273
Doug I love your sense of humor. icon_lol.gif

Does the bride think that once a cake decorator/baker makes a cake they rip up the recipe and create a new one for another person??? She really needs to get a personality.

I agree with everyone, continue as planned for the bridal shower cake and hopefully her family puts her in place before the wedding.
post #7 of 273
The only thing I could see as offensive ( and I don't get it still, but) Maybe she thinks that you made a complete mock up design and all of her cake. As I understand it you just tried out the flavors? Maybe she needs to be enlightened and the slappedicon_biggrin.gif LOL
post #8 of 273
It sounds to me like she thinks you made the birthday cake LOOK like her wedding cake, too.

I would e-mail her again and clarify that you were just testing the cake/filling/icing combo to make sure it was perfect before her big day and that you did not, in fact, give your friend a replica of her wedding cake.
post #9 of 273
sounds ike she needs a good stiff drink !!!!!!
it is not you, just her.
post #10 of 273
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Originally Posted by Doug



you've encountered the "i am the center of and source of all life and things in the universe" version of the bridezilla.



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Ok I love that...too funny.
Umm did she honestly say to you that she was going to cancle her wedding OVER A CAKE??!!?? icon_confused.gif
If she is so quick to toss out a realtionship with a man she is getting ready to vow the rest of her life to over a cake then she should cancle (if anyone would cancle it should be HIM, boyfriend needs to run as fast as his legs can carry him)...what a twit thumbsdown.gif

You did nothing wrong. We had something like this happen once. My hubby was his best friends best man, as such he took him out for his batchelors party, which of course included a stop by the strip joint..no big deal. Well this poor unfortuante guys future wife calls ME up at 6 the next morning telling me that I am married to a pig and that his actions have brought disgrace to her and her family, becasue after all we didn't know WHO her family was and how important they were icon_rolleyes.gif and that the wedding was off!! icon_lol.gif
I was like "umm ok icon_confused.gif I'll let my hubby know"
So when he woke up I asked him what the heck happened, did he buy his buddy a hooker or what?? icon_lol.gif (if you knew my hubby you'd know how rediclious that very notion is). He said to me.." this chic is a nut, we went to the strip joint (which is just a topless deal) then we went and played pool at ...( a local club that we all used to hang at) tell her to call... (the owners of the club, who was friends of ours) and ask them."
So the moral to this story is...you DO NOT have to feel bad because some little girl just realized that is not in fact the epicenter of the universe. thumbs_up.gif If anyone should feel bad it should be this poor sap that is getting ready to marry this nightmare icon_rolleyes.gif
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post #11 of 273
Maybe you should tell us the flavor combo and then you can take a poll to see how many of us have done it before. Then you can inform the bridezilla that it's not HER flavor combo, it's been done X amt of times by various decorators all over the world.
post #12 of 273
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Originally Posted by HollyPJ

It sounds to me like she thinks you made the birthday cake LOOK like her wedding cake, too.



It's possible, I didn't read to closely the first time through and wasn't sure what was meant. If that isn't the case than the woman has a problem if she thinks that her flavor combo should be just for her wedding. icon_rolleyes.gif
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post #13 of 273
It sounds like she's going to make a great EX-wife.... icon_lol.gif
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post #14 of 273
I dont find that you did anything wrong, I do admit though that I kind of feel sorry for her. She sounds like she is stressed to the max and that there may be other underlying cercumstances that have nothing to do with your cake. When I got married the first time (lol yes I've been married more than once) anyhooo for my first wedding I was so broke and was having such a simple ceremony at the church that when I bought my wedding dress it was just a very lovely pink dress but bought with the idea that I would be able to wear it for work, later on I broke down and cried when my mom was showing it to all my sisters. icon_cry.gif The reason I was upset was that I had so few things weddingish (if thats a word lol) that I wanted to have at least a few things that no one had seen but after a day or so of thinking I realized that I was being a baby. So who knows what this poor woman's situation is. There good be a momzilla hiding in the background and the cake is the only thing the bride is allowed to pick lol. Just give her a few days and she'll get over it.
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post #15 of 273
Hi,
I would NOT WORRY about the bride..I agree with the other person..maybe she thought you made a mini version of the cake, not jsut the flavor combo. Beside that, don't think twice about it. If she says that the cake is one of the things that "might" make her cancel the wedding, then something else is up and she is just looking for an excuse. Make the shower cake and then if she cancel's the wedding cake then you are proably better off not dealing with her anyway.

Dee
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