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post #31 of 45
I cant get to page 3 has this forum been locked? I got an email telling me a new comment had been made and it would not open for me.
post #32 of 45
WOW! Some people really suck. Cash up front and the flourist phone number!
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post #33 of 45
OH MY GOSH! What an awful experience! I am getting ready to make my first wedding cake in November and have been practicing. My husband's brother and his fiancee (my friend) are the ones getting married. I am not charging anything to do this cake. They bought me some big, round pans, and lots and lots of decorating stuff....EVEN CAKE MIX AND CONFECTIONERS' SUGAR! I wouldn't/couldn't charge them even if they hadn't bought that stuff. BUT....That is immediate family and will be a gift from me. I just hope I never run into such an occasion with a non-payer. Thank you for sharing your story. We can learn from mistakes/mishaps. Maybe they'll eventually come through with the money. icon_smile.gif
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post #34 of 45
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Gee, it sounds like she gives the sob story about losing the home and job yet she's going ahead and planning a big wedding she might not be able to pay for.



Sounds like she doesn't understand the idea of paying for the things she wants period. She wants something therefore she should have it. Children who don't pay for things think that way, adults who work for a living usually figure out that simple honesty requires you to live within your means. Every so often you run across adults who really don't seem to understand that concept. The sob story was the the red flag-"feel sorry for me because I'm in over my head and I want to continue spending money I don't have." {Translation- If you are a nice, wonderful person you will help me get what I want and you will not expect me to pay for it. If you do expect me to pay, you are nasty, selfish human being who doesn't understand how hard my life is.}
post #35 of 45
I wouldn't have spent so much time worrying about the flowers after the fact for the pictures. You probably raised your blood pressure even more stressing about something that we would have loved even without the effect of the flowers.
post #36 of 45
Sorry it turned out so lousy for you.
I used to be a wedding photographer.
I finally learned to say NO wedding photos for friends or family. thumbsdown.gif
I explained it was my policy...tht it makes me too nervous and afraid of making a mistake.
I did do my son's wedding however.
But other than that, I got BURNED almost every time. icon_evil.gif
Your work is never appreciated as much as it is by a stranger.
I hope you at least get some good referrals for your effort. Hugs, Doleta
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post #37 of 45
I totally relate with your story. Same thing, a friend of my daughters gave me a sob story about how they couldn't afford to pay much for the cake, so my daughter talks me into doing the cake for free. It was 12, 2 layer cakes for each table as centerpieces. Did all of the cakes, assorted flavors, different designs on each centerpiece. The mother stops by to pick them up, she scoops them up and is out the door, hardly a thank-you. I find out later the groom spent 500 dollars for a sword for his uniform, and they don't skimp on spending money elsewhere. It is so maddening when these people spend so much on having a big wedding, but then act like the cake is negotiable, or not that big of a deal to do. I am trying to learn a lesson from this experience because it left me feeling used, and unappreciated. I got a tiny thank-you card, I at least expected flowers or something. I would have charged 300 dollars for those cakes.
post #38 of 45
Cathyscakes, I am so sorry that you feel used. I think you did the right thing your were trying to help some folks you thought needed help. We are each responsible for our own actions.
post #39 of 45
Boy, I wish I had guts like you, I would have never put my cake back into my car. Good for you. I hope you get the rest of the money thats due you.
post #40 of 45
That is so awful that it happened to you. You try to be nice and give people a break and they take advantage.

What I do is give my price and let them know that I need a down payment to start (1/3 of total). I let them know I need the full balance at least 4 weeks before the wedding or there will be no cake and I will also deduct what was spent on the start up cost.

I got burned on enough small cakes to know, that if people think $20 for a pound cake is too much they may feel the same about the cost of a wedding cake. After the cake is eaten and the event over they don,t need you anymore and you may never get paid.

I do give family members a little discount, but the same rules apply.
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post #41 of 45
dejavu! I had a similar situation this weekend. i got my deposit and then had to remind them three times that their balance was due two weeks before the event and they said no problem, guess what? the wedding was saturday, balance is not paid, they chose homemade raspberry chocolate ganache, there was supposed to be ribbon and floral, there was nothing and this was the only decorations on this cake! ARGH!
post #42 of 45
Wow! That was a nightmare. There are several good comments on this post and I agree with a number of them. First, I can understand that you wanted to help out your daughter's friend. However, I definitely agree that you should speak with your daughter. Children have a way of putting their friends above their parents. She should understand what a position she placed you in so it doesn't happen again. Second, I always get at least enough money up front to cover costs + two hours of time. That way, you at least don't go in the hole if you don't get paid. Last, you are a far better person than I as I am not sure they deserved that much consideration.
post #43 of 45
Wow. I would have taken some of the cake back with me, just out of spite. You are a better person than me. Did you ever get anything else?
post #44 of 45
How terrible!

I just got married and a lot of different vendors (venue, dress, etc.) insisted we have the balance paid off 15-30 days prior to the wedding. I'd probably add something like this to your contract from now on. That might help!
post #45 of 45
Wow, that's a bummer! Sorry you had so much trouble! The cakes look great but you're right, they really needed the flowers or they'd've looked a little dull. You're too nice. I don't think I would've gone and gotten flowers for them.
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