I am new to cake decorating and would like some advice . I have been offering everyone I know to make them a cake including my husbands ex-wife !! she and her twin sister's b-day is next mo. and I would reslly like to knock their socks off !!! but I do not want to get in over my head ,I would like to do a 2-3 tiered whimsy or crooked cake and would like to know if they are somewhat easy to do, and also how to transport?I have done a few decorated cakes (fondant) and they turned out really good so I would like to jump right in- any suggestions ??? thanx p.s. do you think that offering to make their cake is tacky ? I just need practice

Good Luck!!!
Tacky? No.
It's business, just business.
AND CAKE!!!!!

thank-you lilie , i was starting to second guess my offering. should I go for it on the whimsy crooked or stick to a "normal " stacked cake?

whimsy is always a good choice for birthdays. Fun is the name of the party, unless it's a formal affair then stacked is best!
Good luck!!!!!

oh sorry, I got it wrong. U are the wife. Well, as before If u have a good relationship with the ex-wife go ahead and do. Its a stickly situation to be in because, the ex-wife can make fun of you. Play it safe and think about it some more.

I've made a b-day cake for my husband's ex. She wasn't his wife but she is the mother of his children. We've been through a lot of stressful, hateful and hard times (his ex and I) , so that I would even think of making her a cake (without adding arsenic) is a cause for celebration. We have actually become friends!! So I say that if you have a relationship with her that allows for you to offer, first consider it a blessing and then make cake!!!

My husband's ex-wife asked me to make his daughter's 10th birthday party cakes.... 4 of them (Barbie and flowers in my photos) it was my first paid order and first character cake as well... I charged her a whopping $35.~ that was supposed to be paid in cash but was a check... was hellasious!! to say the least... she wasn't happy with them at all said the colors were off (were exactly as the child asked for lol) and the cake was dry and crusty and hard and a CHEF friend of her's said "it's nasty and tasteless and the icing is too thick and too sweet" Well he was the only one who complained everyone else complimented lol there was hardly any icing on either of the 4 cakes because all of my husband's 4 kids have ADHD and so does her other child... so I wasn't about to put a lot of icing on it....

Basically my only advice is be careful lol ex-wife's are b****es and always will be lmao especially if the new wife is doing better off then the ex is....

well the Ex and I for the most part get along. My husband and I have been together 6 1\\2 YRS. She has her moments ,as I do- I would really like to do a good job on this cake , I think I will try the whimsy cake and just go for it !! If she laughs at it I will laugh along with her!! are the cakes difficult to stack? that is my main concern thanx for your suggestions !!!!

Yeah we've been together 10 1/2 years now and she's just now coming around and being decent to us lol. She jumped state with 2 of their 3 kids (she has one more since their divorce and 1 of his that doesn't live with her) and just came back and has agreed to letting us see them after 6 1/2 years of not seeing his kids at all.... We get along for the most part and do the trash talking behind each other's backs lol but that's expected... I wanted her cakes to be perfect and stayed up from 8 am friday morning straight thru to the next morning finishing the 4 cakes and stayed up the entire day for the party lol.... but they were perfect the little one loved it and so did most of the family lol...

I say do what you want to do go out with a bang! Get that wow factor from them you deserve it if she's anything like my hubby's ex you deserve the lime light at least for one day

go with the madhatter...i had a blast doing mine. i sat down and planned it all out, and then slowly did it layer by layer. take your time, use common sense, and it will turn out beautifully!!

go knock her dead, girl...ok! ok!maybe not dead, but at least speechless!!

I did my ex husband's ex girlfriend's cake, he sad "don't do it she is crazy", I did it anyway, I love it, every one did but her and her mom, she said is not what she ordered, But I have a drawing I made with her with all the details is JUST WHAT SHE WANTED, she is so crazy, she changed the reception site and never told me!!!I had to call her the day of the wedding to see were it went, My ex was right and now I have to admit to it
Here's the cake, and the grooms cake, I also did 2000 pettifors and little sweets for her
http://www.cakecentral.com/modules.php?name=gallery&file=displayimage&pid=744443
http://www.cakecentral.com/modules.php?name=gallery&file=displayimage&pid=735213

wow!! paola!! those are both breathtaking!!

love your stories !!! makes me feel better knowing I am not alone , I would love to hear more stories. and of course more cake advice! love your cake ,it is a beauty yall are funny

I am wearing the same shoe but on the other foot so to speak...I am the Ex...and I get along wonderfully with ex-hubbys new wife...( i was glad to get out of the marriage and she loves him wayyy more than I did....we got married too young) ...anyway...they live a good distance away a lil under 100 mi. and when they come to visit and see the kids...sometimes if its late they will just spend the night...yeah , it works ok for us.

Not too long ago she was going thru a lot and her bathtub was messed up and they were trying to remodel. So she had only had showers for a couple of months and having lots of other problems...and when they were here one night after the kids went to bed I ran her a hot bath in my jaccuzzi tub with bubbles and lit candles and turned on some classical music on a radio I keep in there for my bubble baths. I even put a bottle of wine in a bucket of ice with a wine glass and went in the livingroom and watched a movie with my ex and my new DH of 5 years.The silly wench drank the whole bottle and came out smiling and cried and hugged me and said she hadnt been that relaxed in years.

That kindness went FAR with her....she said her own sister has never done anything so sweet for her. Eh.....I dunno...I have my moments.

I guess I should've rephrased my comment on ex-wifes lol.. Kay you are one kickass woman lol. My husband's ex-wife hates me with a passion and makes it her lifes duty to ruin our lives in any way shape or form she can. She accused me of beating their daughter to the point of leaving marks, called the police and everything, when her daughter mentioned she had POSSIBLY been touched in a way no little child should be by one of her mother's family members I spoke with the mother telling her what was said word for word... she flipped told her shrink she wouldn't be in that day because of that (in not so nice words) who then called Social Services and the Police department to go to that family members home and by the time she got there they had her 80 year old grand father in hand cuffs in the back seat of a cop car for something she wasn't even going to have investigated... she never took the child to the doctor or anything! For so long that whole family thought I was the one who called the cops and stuff... she told them I did... and I had death threats from everyone in her family to not go near that area, just so happens my best friend lives two doors down from her mother so I was down there quite a bit and had to death with these threats all the time... Turns out... 10 years later his daughter told the truth... said it did happen and XXXXXX is the man that did it.... she remembers it and remembers who did it and it wasn't who her mother accused....

She's had drunks and druggies around the kids, she married her cousin who is a drug addict and alcoholic and has 3 charges for indecent exposure for showing him self off to a car full of 15 year old's at a gas station.... Real nice role model... And she has them "call him daddy because their father was never around" and our reply to that is "you never let him be around, you lied and ran and never were around when it was time for visitation and then you skipped state with them so we couldn't see them" and now after 6 yrs of not seeing them we get to see them but only at her house under her terms still. She just found out about 6 months ago that she is dying, she has lupus and may not live much longer, her stomach is dying and is shutting down, her kidneys are shutting down and so on... it's hard but I'm there for her, we talk whenever she needs to and I listen... I even bought her a book about living with Lupus and she loved it. But things were going too good between us I guess lol I guess she couldn't deal w/ the fact that they didn't last 6 years and we've lasted 10+.... but he told her when she cornered him and asked him wtf I had that she didn't and what made me better then her and he told her the truth "She's never cheated on me, she's never looked at another man, she's never touched another man" and so on... and then we left and we've been fine ever since except she is requesting that we agree and sign a legal document giving her new husband custody/adoption of his kids when she dies... he said no and I said no she wants us both to sign it because something about MD law I would be able to have custody/adopt his children in the even of both of their deaths if at the time of my husband's death we were legally married.... So needless to say not all ex-wifes are nice.... Kay is a big exception! lol Not many are as nice as KayDay is lol although I wish they were lol.

Spending the night!?!?! She wouldn't dare invite us to sleep over lmfao she can't even stand seeing us sitting on the sofa together or holding hands or anything! (We normally give each other a hug or kiss before entering her home because we know what we're entering into.... a 4 hour visit of nothing but her reliving their life together even their intimate relationship.... and we know that we need to make it thru those 4 hours and stay strong and remember that nothing will come between us..... but damn she makes it hard lmao she flirts and wears skimpy clothes and even runs around in a bakini (she's a rather large woman...) and it's just nasty lol... I wouldn't be caught dead in a bakini lmao but she'll wear clothes that are are really short and low cut tops and no bra and no panties and make it a point to bend over right in front of him so he can see it all... he just turns his head and normally doesn't even notice because he's playing the game with her husband but man is it hard being around her lol I just wish she'd let the kids come visit us instead of us having to live thru that crap every time we want to spend time with the kids lol.....

ohmygoodies..... after reading that I think I should makes her 2 cakes !!! I happen to be an ex also , and when my ex was married to this "blank" of a woman, she pulled that stuff with me concerning my own kid !! lies ! Lies ! lies !!!! They dragged ME through court-trying to take my kid from me - all because after 10 yrs. of getting NO !! child support I finnally went after him . I guess they thought if they won they would not have to pay up ! stupid ... well they got what they deserved - divorced 3 mo. later repremanded by the judge ( I LOVED THAT !) no kid and still had to pay HA !! I had always been "the cool ex" to that girl but sometimes I guess people are just plain jealous - leading me back to the current one i have to deal with .SO i guess "she AINT that bad " \\ mad hatter cake it shall be !
one ? should i assemble on site ? i am going to try 3 layers or should i assemble 2 layers adding the top when i arrive there - i guess that was 2 ?? maybe we should start up an ex - wives club !!

Paola, you are so incredibly talented. I am a huge fan!

i wont speak for all x-hubby's...
but i will speak for mine...he is a 2 bit...lying...cheating...son of a gun..drunk...and i would put arsonic in his cake...hehe...no resentment there...hmm...

You guys are killin me!!!! lol....

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Sorry you had the compllaints of a dissatified mom, but some mothers are never happy regardless of who does the work. If the majority of the taster and the kids were hapy then you can call your creations a sucess.

On another note, not all ex wives are the female dogs that you claim, i happen to be an ex wife, but the new wife and i get along great as do my new husband amd my ex husband. It i never a good idea to alienate 60% of a population due to their marital past.

Don't come down on OhMyGoodies for saying in jest that 'ex-wives are b****es and always will be."

See tbe winking smiley face and the "lmao" following that statement?

She meant it as a joke.

All women who are ex-wives need not defend themselves.

It was a joke.

Now - the only cake I would bake for my "ex-wife-in-law" as I call her would have some VERY special ingredients in it, just for her. And we'll leave it at that.

~ Sherri

I'd bake my honey's ex wife a cake and write Thank you on the cake. If she wasn't an ex he wouldn't be with me.

I agree w/ dolfin I've wanted to do that for so long lol. I did have the balls to say thank you to her one day lol. We were in a heated arguement about why he left her for me and what not and I just looked at her and said "ya know what ____ (her name) I want to thank you for all you ever did to him...because of you doing all that to him... he's such a better man now and because of your actions I was able to have him to call him my husband and father of my child" and walked away. All that was done at the court house after a child support review lol.

Anyway yes I did mean the bitches comment as a joke gang. Currently I am an exwife lol we got divorced 2 years ago this October and we've both learned from our mistakes the first time around and are happier now then we were before and now that I've come to terms with having a miscarriage we are better and are planning to remarry so we still refer to each other as husband and wife lol.

And as far as the true topic at hand here... the cake... I'm really sorry I got off track and got all this stirred up lol I can't help on the cake but I'm going back to page 1 and reading about this mad hatter design idea and I'm sure it's a good one lol

Also I wanted to let ya know I belong to a Yahoo Group for 2nd Wifes lol it's called the 2nd wifes club and it's great lol. It's a place where you can go to get support from other people who are going thru the same crap you are and are there to also lend info and help with stuff like court cases and such

dolfin you are soooo right I will make the prettiest cake i can !! i should thank her , he is the best MAN i know!!! I think I will go and make him a cake right now !!!!!

OhMyGoodies, I knew you were kidding around! So was I!