Well, a few weeks or months back I posted a thread about my DH's nephew and his girlfriend and how we didn't get along but then we put everything behind us and just moved on. I also mentioned that they (nephew and his girlfriend) were getting married and I offered to make their cake if it wasn't anything too wild. Well it ended up being very simple but it was a square wedding cake. I don't have any square pans and was not about to go out and buy any when I already have round and hexagon cake pans. While I know this is the brides day and she should have exactly what she wants, I also know this bride and groom and they are very strapped for cash. My SIL is doing everything for this wedding. Her parents have yet to spend a dime on it as far as I have heard. My SIL got the bride her dress and is doing all the decorations. They are having their wedding at SIL's house and I and my SIL are doing the food for the reception. All this is leaving her a little strapped as well. So now she has to buy a wedding cake because her little DIL to be can't accept a cake that would have cost them absolutely NOTHING!! The cake was to be their present from DH and I. It just makes me so mad that they are putting mySIL through all this. I think they could be just a little more considerate to her. It's not like the bride or her family are contributing much anyway. Sorry about the rant but needed to get it off my chest.

...and they wonder why we call them BRIDEZILLA!!!!!

I would say that your SIL needs to put her foot down and tell this future DIL that she can accept the cake from you or do without. It would be that simple if I was in her shoes.

Diane

Well Dordee, Girl Sorry to hear this but that is how people are at time if you help is bad and if you don't help is also bad. Its just like Coxdex said bridezillasssssssssss. Good Luck. P.S Get a strees ball it works at times. LOL

Maybe someone can buy the square pans instead of the buying the wedding cake? It seems like that would be cheaper than buying the cake...?? I dont know. Or is there anywhere that you could rent the pans? I just read a post today I think where someone mentioned renting them.

It does seem like they could be more accomodating to you and your family though....sorry...

Why doesn't she pay for the square pans for you???

It will cost a heck of a lot less than a whole cake.. and you can still do the cake as a gift.

Sounds like your SIL is doing too much without much appreciation!!!

I would have and sorry to say the VERY RUDE BRIDE buy the pans and let u do it, believe it will be so much ceaper then buying the whole cake. and tell the bride to stop being so RUDE, and be greatful, i was 19 when i got married and I HAD TO PAY FOR MY OWN WEDDING AND IT WASNT EVEN MY DREAM WEDDING BECAUSE MY MIL WAS RUNING THE SHOW , AND JUST DID EVERYTHING HER WAY, NOT MY WAY AND ON TOP OF THAT SHE FORGOT THE UNTITY CANDLES FOR THE WEDDING CERMORY. SO PLEASE TELL THE BRIDE TO BE GREATFUL FOR IT CAN BE FAR WORST. Sorry about talking on.

Jessica

I'm sorry, but no one can put your SIL through all of what is happening unless your SIL allows it. How old is the couple? Old enough to know better? I'm guessing that they must be in their 20's or there about. SIL needs to sit down and have a Come to Jesus talk about the wedding with DIL-to be. She needs to tell her that her she and her family need to pitch in and help out financially, tell her how much she has already spent and tell her she just can't do anymore. Then if Bridezilla can't be more appreciative then it's time to tell them to find a JP!

Well, I agree with everyone else. They should definitely be grateful, and move on. A cake is important, but when you are on a budget (and about to be married and on a tighter budget) you should say thank you and take what you are given especially when it is a gift from people who love you!

Your SIL needs to sit them down and explain a little bit about the real world to them.

I say go ahead & buy one if thats what u decide. But Id make another one & throw it in her face.

Couldnt take it any longer had to get that off my chest after reading this.

She should be happy she is even getting a wedding. I got married at the courthouse, no wedding dress and no cake. If she couldn't afford it she should have waited. Sorry I am really touchy about this subject

You should read my post about "Serious Cake topper help needed".....we are sharing so much right now......I feel for you.

i agree with mjones. i also got married at a courthouse and didnt even have a dress or anything. DH and I are about to get our vows renewed in march for our 5 th wedding anniversary,(so i can have the whole wedding scene). we are on a hugely tight buget and will be doing and making everything myself (including the cake). if any of my family members offer to help me i will definatly appreciate it and let them know how much i appreciated it.my m,otto is if you cant afford it and someone helps you, you cant complain .tell her if she wants what she wants bad enough to do it her self. and if shes not grateful i wouldnt do anything at all for her. and i would suggest that SIL do the same.

Buy her a Walmart cake There's her gift.

Sounds like this wedding is way out of control and the two getting married should pay for everything and learn to live within their means.

Yeah, you would think that they would buy the pans and let me make the cake. It is a simple design with absolutely no color. Kinda bland for my taste but then i'm not the bride. Someone in DH's family did make the comment that it was just white icing on a cake CLUELESS I am definately not up to par with anyone on here but I do believe I could have made her a nice wedding cake. Oh, well someone else can have the headache I am sure she will bring on.

If I was the one paying for it, I would tell them to be happy with what they've been offered or they can buy it themselves.

Yeah. I've ranted *before* about people thinking "it's just cake and frosting!"

GAHHHHH!

And, like sparrow & mjones, I too was a "courthouse (actually bishop's house) bride." I wanted a wedding like everyone else, but my Daddy was very old (80's) and very sick. Wasn't meant to be. BUT----BUT---if someone had offered, I would have been GRATEFUL to get ANY wedding cake!

Do it your way---or send 'em marching!

--Knox--