Wow, so many different arrangements! We both work f/t, and I like it when I am off work, but I like to go to work too. I've also, always been very afraid of something happening to him, or to his income (as in losing a job) and not having any way to support myself. So even though he has a good job, I can't seem to let myself retire.
We have two kids, but the daughter has her own house now. Son is 20. He takes care of the cat, but the dog won't go out for him or walk with him, so all he does is pet the dog and play with the dog. This dog is really fussy. DS does his own laundry too, I quit doing his laundry when he wouldn't put it away. Now he washes and dries and folds it and puts it away, but I will iron anything if he asks. He is starting to do some grocery shopping for us.
DH does his own laundry, his own ironing and takes care of his car. Sometimes he does his own mending. I don't mind doing any of those things, but he wants to do them. He does most of the outside work and vacuums and washes the floors (I can't stand vacuuming, haven't done it in 24 years). He has strangely started cooking lately, I say strangely, because he has always hated to cook. He will help me with anything else if I ask, or if he sees me overwhelmed.
I have been doing the dusting, and toilets. I change the beds, and wash all bedding, towels, cleaning cloths on top of my own laundry. We both will do any organizing that needs doing. We each take care of our own cars, and we each are responsible for some of the household bills. I have to say I'm a maniac about dust...I am forever dusting door frames, light fixtures, you name it. We just installed a Hepa air cleaner last week. We have a housekeeper starting this week, so that will be strange. Sometimes DH gets groceries, and sometimes I do. As I said earlier, DS is in training for this.
I like to garden and he doesn't, but when he sees me behind in my goals, he pitches in. He is really nice that way.
I have to admit that I had the best of both worlds until my kids were in grades 7 & 11. Until then I worked from home, so I was constantly around to get them lunches (they came home for lunch), and I was there when they were sick and when they came home from school. By that time it wasn't so bad when we were all called back to work out of the office.
I think it is much harder to be a SAHM, even for the ladies who have help from their spouses.
I'll jump in here. I'm a sahm of four kids ages 8, 7, 5, and 2.5. My dh is amazing. He completely understands that being a sahm is still a job and he admits that it's harder than what he does. When he gets home from work he knows his "work" is not over, just a shift in job duties.
We don't have any set duties as in this is what I do and this is what you do, but over the years there are things that have fallen into place as things one of us does more regularly. DH usually does dishes, laundry, general pick-up, getting kids ready for bed, bills, and car stuff. I usually do shopping, cooking, vacuuming, general cleaning, keeping track of kids schedule, and mowing. Obviously I take care of the kids during the day too.
But, I do know how and will pay the bills LOL. Hubby isn't as good a cook, but can prepare a pretty good meal. DH encourages me to get out and do stuff (like cake classes) and often takes all the kids out to give me a break. We complement each other very well. Early on in our marriage he didn't "get" it, but after being with the kids by himself for any length of time he quickly "got" it.
I always imagined being the perfect 50's housewife taking care of everything. I got over that idea real fast LOL. Who does what isn't as important as how you respect each other and treat each other.
Kirsten
I am a sahm and I do eveything from keeping the house clean, cooking, doing laundry,keeping the kids ages 5 and 3 occupied and happy and mowing the lawn ,mowing is much easier then it looks especially with a self propelled mower 
, the only thing I ask for hubby to do is take out the trash it works out well in this household!!!
Lisa
Like, Mom will cook dinner right? NOT ALWAYS...
But, do any dh's cook dinner while you're a sahm?
Who mows the lawn? He Does
Who gives the children a bath? More him, they shower
Who goes grocery shopping? Is it done together? usually I do.
Who fixes things around the house OR who calls the plummer or the a/c guy? Dad does!
Who takes the trash out? Dad does.
Who dusts & vacuums? Dad likes to Vaccum for sure. I will mop and dust.
***to add , he SAH w/the kids I have 2, is tuff enought w/diapers to change, mouths to feed and million gazillion toys to pick up and naps too! heck......Imsure glad my hubby doesnt expect it all. THou money is tuff w/1 income. 
My husband came home one day, all excited to tell me something. That he was listening to the Don & Mike show one day, and they said that Stay at home Moms would be getting about $110 thousand a year for just being a SAHM. They said Mother's have different kinds of jobs. Such as, a housecleaner, a Teacher, a referee, a shopper, a bookeeper/accountant, a Culinary Arts person, a telephone answerer (something to that nature), a driver, a nurse. Something like that. My husband did not remember all of them. But you get the idea. $110 thousand, wow, that is alot we should be getting paid from our lovely husbands. LOL. Tell them that and see what they say. LOL. My husband said, I can't pay you that much for just being a Mom, but I will give you all I can give, is my Heart and Love. I have the best husband in the world! He is an Awesome husband and Dad! I am blessed! 
~Josie
I for one do NOT believe that staying home with the children automatically makes you responsible for the house. My husband comes home from his 7-3 workshift, picks up after his kids, not me, baths them, gets them in pajamas, and has daddy time. This doesn't bug him, but maybe its because for God knows how long every year, my husband deploys overseas and I'm stuck being mom AND dad, so for the small amount of time that I actually get him home, he sure as heck is gonna help out in this house. I do dishes and laundry and that's IT. We clean on Sundays together...but Matt is the primary house cleaner, and I'm the primary caregiver. My children prefer playing with me than watching me clean. I've stayed home with my girls (3 and 1) since I gave birth to my oldest, and my main priority in being a stay at home mom was to be just that, a stay at home mom. I give them exactly what a daycare would give during the day, its just they get to spend it with mommy instead. So my day is full of hide and seek, playgrounds, playgroup, arts and crafts, sitting and watching Dora together, and I don't think anyone in my family would have it any other way. I love my life just how it is 
This is an interesting thread! I'm not a SAHM but I've always wanted to be (or at least just work part-time). Unfortunately, where we live, it would be impossible. I leave the house at 8 and don't get back home til 6, M-F. I have to do all the groc shopping (well ALL the shopping), cooking, cleaning, laundry, bill paying, homework help, even going to the post office to get the mail. If my car needs to be cleaned or the oil changed, it's up to me to do it. Luckilly, DS goes to my mom's for an hour or two after school and she'll drop him off at baseball or soccer and I'll meet him there. DH does the lawn and pretty much the dump once every week or two 
. He's very handy and can do all the house repairs or remodeling himself, but I generally help, and things don't get done in a timely manner. Dh works 6 days a week. If I asked him to help clean or do laundry he would help, but it would have to be on a commercial! He cooked dinner once about 12 years ago and I've been after him to do it again, ever since. Oh, he'll go pick up pizza if i order it. But after 14 yrs, I don't see it changing anytime soon! LOL
I take care of the kids, housework (I'm a lousy housekeeper), meals and laundry without much help.
The husband is in charge of fixing things and mantaining the vehicles, he's a mechanic. He does the litter box and sometimes helps around the house.
We both do yard work, we live in a rural area and have a huge yard. It takes a few hours just to mow and we have a path in the woods behind the house that needs a little work at times. We've been working on clearing the brush on the edge of the woods so the kids have a wooded area to play in so we've been busy hauling wood.
He pays the bills. I grocery shop once a week and he picks up other things on the way home.
I am a SAHM with four children (ages 8, 8, 6, and 18 months). One child is actually a step daughter who currently resides with her mom most of the time. Two of the childen are from my first marriage and reside one week with me then one week with their father.
It was my husband decision for me to stay at home even before we got married (3 years in November). He is very old fashion and believes that a mother's place is at home.
He works 10 - 15 hours a day so by the time he gets home the children are bathed and supper is cooked. I take care of all the inside chores (dusting, mopping, vaccuming, etc).
He tends to the lawn, vehicle maintaince, house maintaince and takes the trash out. He does not do any laundry, dishes, dusting.......
My husband is super spoiled. I get up every morning at 5:30 and fix him breakfast. Most morining I stay up and begin my housework, get the older children off to school and play with the baby.
Yes, I do have days that are really rotten and I would like some help. When he get's home, I usually off-load on him but he says nothing. We have come to an understanding that my daily work is sometimes overwehlming and I need to let of some steam. Occasionally he will vaccum or do some dishes when I have a bad day but for the most part everything just waits till the next morning.
What keeps our marriage in tact is on those really bad days as a mom and homemaker, he makes sure that I remember that I am also a women. Bad days usually result in very good nights! ! By the morning I have forgotten about the past days troubles.
We like to grocery shop together but sometimes his works schedule does not allow it.
And he has only gotten up with the 18 month old, four times since she has been born. Again, that's my fault for not pushing the issue but he does have to work the next day and I can always take a nap if I need too.
Many years ago I was a SAHM of five, working only part-time at nite when the hubby was home. My baby is now 18 and graduating high school next month - I have been working full time since he was 4 mos. old (hubby out of work at that time) and my husband is not a professional and does not make any where near enough money to support the family. Let me tell you, I would give up the "corporate world" in a heartbeat if I could and be a SAHM again, even now with all the kids grown and most of them gone. Like the old Peace Corps ad, it is the "toughest job you will ever love", but the most rewarding. When I hear of women who complain they are bored at home with their child, want to smack them acrosss the head and say "what't the matter with you?!" Corporate America is a cold, nasty, place (and I do like the folks I work with). My opinion, the reason there are so many "troubled" children in our society is because moms have to work just to keep a roof over one's head, and are not home providing the care only a mother can give her own children - ok off my soapbox. My hats off to all of you who are able to stay home and the hubbies who support that, and my best wishes to those women who, for whatever reason (like myself) have to leave their children and go to a job every day.
I didn'r read any responses yet, but this is the way it works in our house.
Like, Mom will cook dinner right? But, do any dh's cook dinner while you're a sahm? I cook most of the time, but on nights I have a party (I sell Tupperware) my dh will cook. He will also grill a couple times a week now that it's nice out.
Who mows the lawn? He does, I would hack it. lol
Who gives the children a bath? both of us, usually I get the little ones in and out of the tub, abd while I am getting them dressed, he will get the older boys in, and get thier pj's and clean up the bathroom after.
Who goes grocery shopping? Is it done together? i do, I love to shop. lol. Sometimes, he will go out and get milk or whatever if we run out, but that's all me.
Who fixes things around the house OR who calls the plummer or the a/c guy? My dh is a contractor, so that's all him I wouldn't know what to do with a drill.
Who takes the trash out?
That's me too, although, I wish he would do it, our driveway is so long, and I hate that chore.
who dusts and vaccuums? I do. We have all hardwoods, so I am constantly sweeping, sometimes, he will pick up a mess if the kids make a giant one, but in general I sweep and wash the floors and dust on a daily basis. Wow that was a run on sentence. lol
Kelly
proud sahm to 4
I didn'r read any responses yet, but this is the way it works in our house.
Like, Mom will cook dinner right? But, do any dh's cook dinner while you're a sahm? I cook most of the time, but on nights I have a party (I sell Tupperware) my dh will cook. He will also grill a couple times a week now that it's nice out.
Who mows the lawn? He does, I would hack it. lol
Who gives the children a bath? both of us, usually I get the little ones in and out of the tub, abd while I am getting them dressed, he will get the older boys in, and get thier pj's and clean up the bathroom after.
Who goes grocery shopping? Is it done together? i do, I love to shop. lol. Sometimes, he will go out and get milk or whatever if we run out, but that's all me.
Who fixes things around the house OR who calls the plummer or the a/c guy? My dh is a contractor, so that's all him I wouldn't know what to do with a drill.
Who takes the trash out?
That's me too, although, I wish he would do it, our driveway is so long, and I hate that chore.
who dusts and vaccuums? I do. We have all hardwoods, so I am constantly sweeping, sometimes, he will pick up a mess if the kids make a giant one, but in general I sweep and wash the floors and dust on a daily basis. Wow that was a run on sentence. lol
Kelly
proud sahm to 4
Ok can some of you send your husbands over to teach mine. He nearly has a heart attack if asked to do something. We live with my mother and here's how it gets done.
I cook unless I'm busy then mom cooks. Hubby will only cook if he cannot get anyone else to do it.
Mom mows the lawn. We nearly have to drag hubby out to get it done so it's easier if she does it.
I give the kids a bath unless I just cannot. He will only after being begged.
I do the grocery shopping mostly but he is sometimes with me.
Who fixes things? Ha ha. Mom calls whoever she knows to fix something. Again hubby doesn't like doing it.
Hubby takes out the trash after being bugged.
Dust and vaccuum yeah right who has time for that...lol.
Unfortunately my hubby is self centered as is his father. I love him dearly though. We are working on his problem though...lol.
I agree that SAHM's shouldn't automatically be given the brunt of the household chores. I stay at home with my 2 boys {4&2} and do a lot of the housework, but my husband does his share as well. He will vaccum, mop{on occasion},get the boys dressed after their bath{I give them the bath} and then help them brush their teeth. He does mow the lawn, take out the garbage and attempts to fix things around the house. I do the cooking though, which I don't mind. Except when I have a cake due or am really busy he'll just say let's just eat out. Which is fine by me! He's not always a saint though, sometimes he will get home from work and go off upstairs to have some quite t.v. time, which is fine don't get me wrong, but I don't get that escape. I have to beg him to watch the boys so I can run to wal-mart! Other than that I wouldn't trade being a sahm for the world.
Cool topic! Although I better not bring it up in an argument or my husband will cut me off of CC.
ME:
*I take cae of 2yo dd and 8 mo ds all day
*run then to their classes (gymboree, swim class, storytime at library)
*do small errands like post office, dry cleaner, small grocery trip
*Clean house
*Make 3 dinners a week, tehn eat out once and other nights leftovers
*Take kids to drs
*Make appointments for entire family -
*Plan parties and having friends and family over
*Laundry & dishes - but DH brings his dish up and rinses it.
*I am the organizer. I know where everything is including all of his tools, the entire basement and the attic. Ask me, I know.
DH (He's fantastic!):
*He feeds kids dinner while I finish ours
*He bathes kids and gets them ready for bed while I clean up the dinner dishes
*Takes care of cars, including filling them up with gas so I don't need to worry about it
*He takes care of all of the bills and investments
*Trash (sometimes I will gather the small bags from the bathrooms)
*He always drives the car so I can finish my makeup/hair on the way to dinner or church
*He also checks the kids' diaper bags before we go out to make sure they have enough diapers, wipes, bibs, etc.
*Makes appointments having to do with car or house repairs.
TOGETHER:
*We do major grocery shops together when he gets home from work. Even running to Wal-Mart and Lowe's we do together. We really like to spend every evening with each other, so we tend to do all teh running around then, with the kids.
*Baths - I run the water, he gives the bath, I get the clothes ready for bed and the next day.
*Diaper duty - we usually split the kids up, although since I get the diapers all day, DH tends to get them much more at night or weekends.
I really am happy with how things run at our house.
I also am a STAM of 3,( 2 boys 12 and 6, a girl 3, and I also babysit 2 girls 6 and 8.)
My husband is a truck driver, he leaves on Sun. and usually comes home Fri., so it is all pretty much up to me. 
I do all of the inside work, and also mow the yard, keep the pool up, feed the dogs, cats and horses.
I guess you could compare me to a single mom, not much difference there. Other than I have a husband that I love very much.He is the greatest. He may be gone alot, but me and the kids know that we are loved and blessed to have him.
So, I do all of the work from Sun. to Thurs...On the week-ends when he is at home, I pretty much let the house go, just so when can spend time with him.The mess will still be there on Sun. but he will be gone, so what better time to do it. Life is to short, so live it while you can.
Also, I love to try to make a little extra on the side baking and decorating cakes. Isn't it an awesome hobbie. The people here on this web site are the best. We are like one big happy family, giving advice and helping each other out.( We are AWESOME). And don't forget it. 
I'm a SAHM of a 2 yr old girl and pregnant. My hubby and I have been together 14 yrs and married 10, up until about 4 months ago I did everything. All housework,yardwork (except weed whacking), shopping, cooking, garbage, bills etc.....EVERYTHING. Except his laundry, I went on strike with that about 5 yrs ago and have refused to do it since.
He says it's my job since I stay at home, but it was all my job when I was working 20 hrs a week MORE than him and going to night school too. We've done nothing but fight about who does what since we've been together, even when I was working more hours than him at work and at a harder job (he even admits that) .My thought is hey, he has assistants at work, why can't I have one too? Did I also mention that HIS 81 yr old grandmother lives with us? Ya, I take care of her too.
Well we finally had the knock down,grand poo-bah, the wife has finally had it, gone nuts drag out fight (or actually I had it AT him) and apparantly something clicked and now he helps. He will start doing dishes or cleaning up after dinner, empty the garbage, cleaning up our daughter after dinner, getting her ready for bed, cooks breakfast on the weekends...shoot, the other day he stripped everything out of the tub and totally scrubbed it all clean. He even tries to let me sleep in on Saturdays. He also helps with his grandmother, does her laundry, takes her dinner, picks up prescriptions, listens to her complain....
Anyways, it's absolutely fantastic and I make sure he knows that I notice and appreciate it. I don't know why it has taken this long to get him to help but thank God he finally does. What a relief!!!!! I have to say, I am a much happier person.[/b]
im a stay at home mom. i do everything around the house. my dh works full time(with lots of overtime)just to keep us financially stable. we dont have a lot of money and i sell pampered chef part time to help out, but as far as house work is concerned and managing the kids. it is all me. i make sure they have baths, take them to doctors apptments, bday parties. ect.i love every minute of it. my dh keep the lawn up and brings home the money. now dont get wrong he does hep out, like recently i was sick and he came home after working 16 hrs to do dishes and straigtened up. so he does help out some if i cant do it, though he does have a horrible habit of leaving his underwear on the floor. lol.great topic. i like to hear what everyone has been saying.
I tip my hat off to all stay at home moms, I am going crazy staying at home, I just relocated with my husband to japan and I am not working at the present time. however, i have been quit busy around the house with cleaning and running every day errands. I love having my own money, don't get me wrong my hubby have no problem with sharing. I promise him, 10 years ago that I would work or go to school, and so far I have kept my promise. I have worked and have gone to school
( one day I will get my college degree). Since I have not been working hubby have backed off alot with helping around the house, when I was working he did 75% of our house hold chores. once again I tip my hat of to u guys.....
SAHM for 5 years now. Two DD's (7 and 9). I do everything in the house. The only thing DH do is mowing the lawn. Everything else I do. (Dogs, pool, the rest of the garden) brightbrats, I know how that feels. My DH used to work in a neigbouring country for about six months. Flying on Monday mornings and came back on Friday nights. It was awful.
My kids are very busy with afternoon activities and altough we live nearby the school, I walk with them. I need the exercise you see!!
Together: We do the shoping and go to the library.
Like, Mom will cook dinner right? But, do any dh's cook dinner while you're a sahm? I do it because he is not allowed in my kitchen!!
Who mows the lawn? Most of the time I mow it because it is a riding lawn mower and it is over 2 acres I have to mow so it gives me alone time from the kids.
Who gives the children a bath? Most of the time I do this but on occasion he will do it if I ask nicely..lol
Who goes grocery shopping? Is it done together? I do ALL grocery shopping he is not allowed because I buy generic and he will only buy brand name and our grocery bill would be out the roof.
Who fixes things around the house OR who calls the plummer or the a/c guy? He FIXES EVERYTHING...we have never hired anyone to fix a thing at our house..knock on wood
Who takes the trash out? It depends if he is at the fire dept. I do it and if not he does it.
Who dusts & vacuums? I do both of these. he has no clue where I keep my duster and I am not real sure he even knows how to use a vacuum..
The ONLY thing I hate to do more than anything is laundry I mean I would rather scrub a toilet covered in $*&t all day as to do laundry but I have yet to get him to do it. We argue over this quite regular!!! 
I've been a stay-at-home mom for the last 3 years. We have a 3 year old and I take care of her baths, preschool, activities etc.
My husband works out of the house, travels sometimes, but is 95% of the time home for dinner.
I cook most of the time, breakfast, lunch and dinner. I love doing it. I have a bookcase filled with cookbooks, many of them bought on our vacations. My husband likes to handle the bbq.
I also do all of the grocery shopping, watch the sales and try to be a very savvy shopper. Even so, I still think we spend lots of money on groceries each month. My husband laughs about it and always says eating good food is one of the pleasures of life, besides what's the alternative.
I find I can do the laundry better, checking for stains and etc. I also do most of the ironing, but sometimes if I'm too busy he'll help with that.
I do all of the cleaning in the house, and although it's fairly big, I manage it pretty well by sticking to my cleaning schedule; besides the daily pick up, I clean one to two rooms tearly well each day.
My husband takes care of the trash, and cutting the lawn. I do the gardening.
Since I'm home I check all the bills as they come in, than write ok to pay, and my husband writes the checks and mails them out.
My husband is great. There's been times when I haven't been filling well, dishes left in the sink, dinner not on the table, laundry still in the washer, and he's never complained. We've been married for 5 yrs, still gives me a kiss when he lives the house and first thing as soon as he enters the house.
Emi
I am also a SAHM for 12 years now (OMG). My boys are 10 and 12. I pretty much do most of the housework ( I also hate laundry with a passion), I have taught my boys to do their own laundry this summer(YAY) I went back to school about 2 1/2 years ago and got my degree, just graduated in January and sat for my Optician boards in May. I will go back to work in the fall when the kids go to school. I am so lucky to be able to stay home with my kids, but am SO looking forward to going back to work. My DH does ALL the cooking, otherwise someone could die!! But I do all the baking My older son cuts the grass and they both have chores that help me throughout the week.
Hey Jennifer 293,
I'll do your laundry if you clean my toilets. Deal?
Hahaha. Anyway, I'm a SAHM for 24 years! DH does all the yard and garden work. I do all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, laundry, dishes, cleaning, bill-paying and taking-out of trash.
However, if I'm sick or tired or busy with a cake or a client or a sick kid, he will pitch in and do a load of laundry or fix a meal. And we host parties a lot -- he's really good at running the sweeper and "fluffing up the house" before guests arrive. Not so good at cleaning bathrooms, though.
I should also add -- I'm NOT the housekeeper I used to be. I could care less about dust bunnies in the corners or sticky stuff on the kitchen floor any more. Happy people having fun in my home are way more important.
I'm a SAHM with a 14 yr old daughter, 14yr old stepdaughter, and a soon to be 4 yr old son. I'm probably married to one of the sweetest, most genuinly nice guys in the world.
I cook because I enjoy it. He's not a bad cook and likes to make breakfast and occasional dinners on the weekends. Cooking and baking are like therapy for me. Some people go to a shrink, I go to my kitchen. Dinner is on the table (or almost there) when he comes in the door because that's how I like it.
I clean because I'm home. I like my house in order and am a little spastic when it's a wreck. He will pitch in if he's home when I'm cleaning-that doesn't happen often because our time together is precious to me. I don't like to be cleaning when he's here. That sounds kind of cheesy, but it's really true. He leaves for work at 6am and returns at 6pm. He travels off and on for work and is sometimes gone for a week at a time. We truly love our time together as a family. He vaccuums way more thoroughly than I do though.
I take the garbage out because I'm usually the one who throws the last thing in before it's ready to spill over. If he's home, he takes it out-not a deal though. The can is right outside the back door.
He mows the yard, cleans the pool, plays Playstation with the kids, runs wiring if we need something wired, fixes the plumbing, and keeps me very happy.
I don't want to sound like I believe a woman's job is in the home and to take care of her man, but I have always had a job outside the home until my son was born. We decided together that I could do whatever I wanted to do. I feel like I've been given this opportunity to figure out who I will be in "my next life" when my son starts school. I have been interior decorating, cake decorating, raising money for breast cancer research (Mom is a survivor), going to concerts with my girlfriends, attempting to use a killer new sewing machine, and I STILL have no idea what I'm going to do. I just know that he's going to support me in anything I decide.
I think one thing people need to realize is that even though you are a SAHM, you still have a full-time job! I always said I had six jobs, the house, the husband, and the four kids.
I always told my husband (back when he was my husband......... LOL) you get a day off, I do not. We will split them. One day, you may take it easy, but one day you will help me, and I will take it easy, well, easier....... yeah, convince them of that........ notice I said used to be my husband.
Y'all need to split the chores, and you need some time to yourself. You need to be able to get out, even if it's just to the library, or take a walk, or a drive, or visit someone. I used to go to Barnes and Noble and read books.
The thing to keep in mind is that all partnerships need to be renegotiated from time-to-time.
When we were both working, Hubby did more around the house. Now that I'm retired, I do more.
He does the dishes (I HATE DISHES) and I mow the big lawn and do all the outside work. I think I got the better of that deal - he thinks HE did.
I do most of the laundry, but if he's home he pitches in.
All the family is responsible for putting items on the grocery list; I figure the best place to buy each, and whoever is going by there picks it up.
He has a day off, I have a day off.
He does messy jobs and ones that require ladders - I take care of chickens, preserve food, nag people to make appointments (or just do it for them).
The point is - you BOTH need to feel happy about the amount of work you do.
When we had been married a few years and I was NOT working DH thought I did very little too...
SO...I took one typical day and wrote down EVERY SINGLE THING I did, time included - and presented it to him. It's been 30 years now and we still have that paper.
I have been a SAHM for almost a year now. My daughters are 10,9,5, and 8 months. We also have a daughter that is 23 and a grandson who is 3. I never thought I would like to stay home, I was one of those workaholics. I LOVE IT!!! I keep the house straight and then mess it up with cakes. My DH does all the laundry and does it wonderfully. Believe me we have a lot of laundry. I haven't touched it in 17 years. I keep a 1 1/2 year old and do my cakes. I actually make almost what I made when I was Dental Hygienist. I fill in every once and a while just to keep my skills current.We both pretty much share all the housework, because I am just as busy as he is. We pretty much stay on the go running the girls to all their extra activities. I am so thankful I have such a good husband, even though he came home yesterday and asked What have you done today??? LOL He was just kidding because I was just about passed out on the couch. He also stayed up most of the night last night with my 5 year old who has an ear infection.
I'm a SAHM for 7 years of 3--7yrs, 5yrs and 3yrs old.
In my opinion, we work equally hard. He goes to work everyday, comes home and often has to leave for his business that he owns. I raise our kids, take care of the house and animals, cook and treat him to all the cake he wants!!! lol. He does the manly stuff, like mow, garage, car maintenance, killing spiders, etc. We both equally respect each others jobs and wouldn't trade them for the world...Although he wishes sometimes he could be home more often. We both agree that we are equal partners!!
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