Cake Central › Cake Forums › Cake Talk › Cake Decorating › Ticked off - maybe I'm too sensitive...
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Ticked off - maybe I'm too sensitive... - Page 2

post #16 of 53
chocomama - I love your email response! It's still friendly while getting your point across. Maybe next time your friend will be more appreciative of your efforts!
If you are going to doubt something, doubt your limits.
Reply
If you are going to doubt something, doubt your limits.
Reply
post #17 of 53
After doing such a mean thing to your cake, do you need to take your dog to the vet and make sure (s)he's okay? icon_eek.gif Some people are so rude... I'm sorry it was your friend who was rude to you. Please let us know what the response was to your email.

Deanna

P.S. - Cookieclaire, I can't believe that happened!! I've never heard of such gall before. Grrr!!!!!!
My free tutorial website is:
www.cakedalaska.com
Learn cake sculpture on DVD!
http://www.prettytreats.com/critters.php

())_CRAYON_))>
Reply
My free tutorial website is:
www.cakedalaska.com
Learn cake sculpture on DVD!
http://www.prettytreats.com/critters.php

())_CRAYON_))>
Reply
post #18 of 53
I can't wait to hear her response either.
All of us know the time and work that you put into making the cake,can we get a group hug lol
Seriously,
It upset me to read what happened and I didn't even make it!
Make sure you let us know.
"I come from a family where gravy was considered a beverage"- erma bombeck
Reply
"I come from a family where gravy was considered a beverage"- erma bombeck
Reply
post #19 of 53
I can't believe she told you what they'd done to the cake. That would have bothered me too.
Years ago before I made cakes I went and paid $7 (which for a college student seemed like a fortune) for a 6" cake to give at a baby shower. We decorated it and made it cute in honor of the baby. Wasn't the only cake, but we wanted a little one to send home with the parents.
A couple days later the mommy to be called laughing and said that when they arrived home after the party the cake went face down in the parking lot as she was getting out of the car. I remember wondering why she would have told me that. I knew it was an accident, but what was so funny about it? I knew her well and know that she never would have done anything to intentionally hurt my feelings, so I was able to blow it off, but the laughter is what really got me. If I'd been in her shoes I would have kept this a secret. icon_wink.gif
COULD SOMEONE PASS THE FROSTING?
Wendy's Cake Space
The Homeschooling Blog
Reply
COULD SOMEONE PASS THE FROSTING?
Wendy's Cake Space
The Homeschooling Blog
Reply
post #20 of 53
I don't think you are being sensitive at all.I think what you friend's husband did is rude and her laughing at it is the kicker.....I guess that will be the last time you make a cake for them!!! Hey...maybe if she needs a cake next time for a birthday or something you could reply by saying.."Hopefully this time you won't smash the cake to pieces..." She'll get the picture!!

Busy Bakin Kakes For Kids!!!

Mom to Mitchell 13 yrs and Delaney 11 yrs

Reply

Busy Bakin Kakes For Kids!!!

Mom to Mitchell 13 yrs and Delaney 11 yrs

Reply
post #21 of 53
No I don't think you are being overly sensitive, and I don't think I could have been as nice to this person as you were!

I'm still upset that my niece has never even mentioned the cake I made for her birthday last October (I couldn't go to the party), much less thanked me, even though I've seen her several times since then. Now that may be being overly sensitive!

We'd all like to know what the response was to your email. Telling you what happened was unnecessary under the circumstances...laughing about it was just adding insult to injury! Janice
post #22 of 53
Is this the same friend that cleaned up after the dog?

If so........hmmm...maybe she was cursing the whole entire time.

What disturbs me even more, is not only did she allow it to continue, she laughed about it.

I do feel that if you said something to her about it, she's probably think you're psycho, but....I don't know if you should reconsider your friendship, I mean, can you even look at her the same way?

good luck with whatever you choose to do, but I wouldn't make her any more cakes w/o getting some $$$.

And, don't you even let this bother you!!! Life's too short!!!
post #23 of 53
Thread Starter 
OMG, I love you all! You are just the sweetest! My husband couldn't figure out why I was still upset a few hours afterward so I tried to explain but I don't think he got it. He should, since he knows I've been having neck & back troubles lately and that my hand falls asleep when I work it too much so making even the 20 roses that I did was kind of hard. (Off to see my dreamy chiropractor today! icon_lol.gif )

Yes, this was the friend who cleaned up my doggy's messes last week. I haven't really known her very long, only since last September, but I do consider her a friend. I don't know why she laughed, only that when I called I think that the mess had just been made. Who knows? Like I said, I would freak if my husband did that to something of mine. I know that her household is more laid-back than mine and that there don't seem to be a lot of rules for her daughter and that she's a bit spoiled b/c my friend doesn't think she can have more kiddos. (Her words, not mine.) But, obviously, hubby doesn't have an excuse for his actions. I really can't even picture him doing what she said he did b/c he's more "uptight" in my view. I've made things for them to taste-test before and nothing like this has happened, that I know, so I don't get it. I would have thought that my friend would have been mortified, but, then again, she laughs at things her kid does that I find annoying. To each his own, I guess.

You're the best! icon_biggrin.gif
post #24 of 53
I think your friend was rude for laughing at the situation but honestly, I don't think men in general, understand the concept of creating something out of joy and love for a friend. A simple beer would do for them. icon_lol.gif The best I could compare the feeling to would be if a husband spent all day washing/waxing/cleaning a car, and you hopped in and hit every puddle you could find, and then parked it under a big ole tree loaded with berry-eating birds. icon_eek.gif Your friend didn't understand that it wasn't just a cake you gave but your time and creativity. That's a shame. I find that most people that aren't crafty or creative are clueless to the time involved. Sorry you had a bad experience. Next time, hand her a beer! icon_lol.gif


kos
post #25 of 53
Thread Starter 
Kos, LOL! You're probably right, but her husband is into cooking and has been helpful in the past so I never thought he could be so rude. I guess just about every man can be a jerk at some point, right? icon_razz.gif And she does lots of crafting herself. Oh well, I'm slowly getting over it - with everyone's help here! I really didn't expect this type of response...I thought everyone would tell me to get a grip! icon_lol.gif
post #26 of 53
Maybe this woman is just clueless what goes into a cake...
Your effort, time and expensive ingredients, thats' why she allow this to happen.. what a stupid thing of her to do.. did they at least eat it after they demolish your beautiful cake ? Don't make her another one..she didn't deserve it after all..I guess you wasted your time making something beautiful then just be destroyed by careless people.. icon_smile.gif
post #27 of 53
cookieclaire........I would have told the chick "thanks for the compliment of using MY cake for a gift.......but if you would have just told me you needed another cake I could have made you one to give to her".....obviously she knew she didn't have the talent to do anything on the cake except write the name.......I would take it as a total compliment...not disrespect!!!
God's Word will either keep you from sin;
or sin will keep you from God's Word.
Reply
God's Word will either keep you from sin;
or sin will keep you from God's Word.
Reply
post #28 of 53
Hmmm I don't suppose its *possible* that she didn't give you the real reason she couldn't get a photo of the cake? When you said you can't picture her dh doing that, it made me wonder...

Oh well.
post #29 of 53
I know this would probably annoy me too after putting so much time and effort into it...but in an effort to always see the positive in things...you made the cake for her to enjoy. Even though she didnt enjoy it the way you would have (or would have hoped she had)--it does seem that she and her family enjoyed using it the way they decided to.

You cant control what happens after you hand a cake over to somebody--she enjoyed it, thats what really matters. Its a whooole lot better than getting a complaint that it fell apart or didnt taste good!
post #30 of 53
Thread Starter 
I thought the same thing, mikaza. It still sucks. icon_wink.gif
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Cake Decorating
Cake Central › Cake Forums › Cake Talk › Cake Decorating › Ticked off - maybe I'm too sensitive...