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OK, so I made a cake today to thank a friend who took care of my dog last weekend. I decided on a classic, but relatively simple cake that consists of a lot of roses. Since I have a 1 year old to chase around all day, it took me a looong time to make the cake, icing and to decorate. Anyway, my friend wasn't home when I went to surprise her but I was able to catch her on her cell phone before she went home so she picked it up at my house. Her husband and little girl were with her and they all oohed and aahed over it so I was pleased that they liked it. Anyway, I meant to ask her to take a picture of it when she got home b/c my camera had just pooped out on me so I called her when I remembered, which was about 10 minutes after she left. She lives in my neighborhood so I figured I would catch her before they ate any of it, esp. since she had said they had just come from eating. When I called her, she started to laugh so I figured that the must have already dug in and started eating it, but noooooo, I was wrong. My beautiful cake had been demolished byher husband and then her daughter! It seems he got the cake home, plunked it down and promptly stuck a finger into a rose and smashed it all the way to the base! Their daughter thought that was cute and started messing with it, too. I'm sorry, maybe I'm just too sensitive, but I wish she hadn't told me what they had done. I mean, I put a lot of work and time into that stinkin' cake only to have them smash it? It's not like it was meant to be a smash cake, you know? And these are our friends. I would never allow anyone in my house to do that. It almost feels disrespectful. And I made it for her, not for her hubby. If my husband did anything like that I would be livid! Oh well, it's over. I guess I'm just a little disappointed, that's all. Thanks for the vent. icon_sad.gif
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wow i can't believe anyone would be so rude! i could possibly understand if it was just her daughter...but her husband?!?!?! somebody needs to teach him some manners!
post #3 of 53
Sorry your feelings were hurt. Putting that much time into something just to have someone mess it up would bother me too. I think I could have come up with a better reason as to why I couldn't take a picture. But I'm the type who is always thinking about the other person's feelings. That was very thoughful of you to take the time to make her a cake, next time just make her some chocolate chip cookies.Haha icon_smile.gif
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Since I have a 1 year old to chase around all day, it took me a looong time to make the cake, icing and to decorate.



That is me, too!! It just took me all day to do some cakes for church.

I don't think you are being too sensitive! It was rude and childish what he did. Why, anyway?! Your friend shouldn't have laughed about it, either. You should call her and let her know you put alot of time into it and it was meant to be enjoyed not destroyed. I'm at stay at home mom now since my daughter was born and I don't have the time or the money to be making freebie cakes. I at least would like some kind of feedback and I don't get any, so my cake baking is severely limited right now. I can relate to how you feel and I am sorry it happened to you.
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post #5 of 53
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Thanks for the kind words. I still don't understand. He is a nice guy but obviously needs a swift kick in the butt.
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Zamode,
I'm a SAHM and don't have many people to test my cakes out on, either, so this is what I did. I told everyone I know (which isn't much, but it's better than nothing) that if they needed a cake made for any reason that all I would charge them for is the ingredients. Just this week I got 2 "orders". It's good practice for me and all I have to put into them is my time. Everyone understands that I won't be doing this forever and it helps my diet! icon_wink.gif
post #7 of 53
What he needs is the rest of the cake shoved up his nose!
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post #8 of 53
im so sorry you had to hear this, especially since you didnt get to take a picture of it. Unfortuanely non cake people have no clue what we give up and put into a cake, no matter how small it is. there is alot of thought, time, money and energy. Its the same feeling i get when i see brides and grooms smash that slice of cake into each others face. Its better not to know these things. But you know that you created a lovely, tasty beautiful cake from the heart.
post #9 of 53
I can understand being ticked off.. I'm a stay at home Mom and when I'm decorating a cake that's time that I'm not playing with my kids.. I think I would just prefer not to know what happens to the cake after it leaves my house... Because I know I'll just get mad if something like that happened.. So, no, I don't think you're too sensitive I just don't think he's a very nice person!
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post #10 of 53
Awwwww, my heart goes out to youicon_sad.gif Don't know if this helps but you'll get your reward for your kind gesture and hard work, and they'll get their "concequences" for their lack of feelings and respect towards a wonderful gift of love from the heart! Don't worry, they will have to answer for this one day! Chin up! You should be proud of your part in this!!!! And, you can still let her know how this really made you feel and one day, have her in your kitchen and tell her what to do while SHE bakes, mixes, and "tries" to decorate a cake!!! Then give it a good smashing!!!LOL (sorry, just had to let that out...ahhhhhhh icon_smile.gif

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post #11 of 53
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LOL! Thanks so much, everyone! I feel lots better now! I just wrote her an email and here it is...

"I hope you were still able to enjoy the cake after Frank smashed it. Make him feel guilty by telling him it took me most of the day to make it."

Short and simple! I'll let you know her response. icon_wink.gif
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Originally Posted by chocomama

LOL! Thanks so much, everyone! I feel lots better now! I just wrote her an email and here it is...

"I hope you were still able to enjoy the cake after Frank smashed it. Make him feel guilty by telling him it took me most of the day to make it."

Short and simple! I'll let you know her response. icon_wink.gif



Now that was nicely said and BLUNT! See, you even go out of your way to make an email with the best way to say it. You are like me! Too nice and you get stomped on! Sometimes I just want to give up on people but my HEART is too kind.

Oh, I have a sister in law like your friend-we are close enough that she would have told me that too, but I think she would have exagerated abit just to be crazy. Maybe she exagerated on the husband smashing up the cake, Maybe he could not resist that BC rose and just put his finger in one of those and the little girl thought it was funny and did the same. But, the point is-I would not want to be told something like that.

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post #13 of 53
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diva,
I really hope she was just exaggerating. And when I wrote her that email, I thought about putting one of these... icon_wink.gif at the end but think that leaving it out may actually make her wonder if I was just joking around or not. We'll see!
Thanks, again!
post #14 of 53
Wow...looking forward to hearing the response! That was a very unfeeling thing to do to you, at the very least....

I am a SAHM too most of the week...with three little boys. I usually bake during the day but then stay up as late as it takes to finish my stuff. I would hate to find out I stayed up until 4am only to have someone destroy my work!

Today I have three cakes (plus some extra little smash cakes) to make, as well as errands to run tonight and a parent teacher conference to go to! Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhh! icon_biggrin.gif
post #15 of 53
I know how it feels to have someone not appreciate your gift. Some people don't realize what goes in to a cake. I remember one summer making a cake for a friend and she regifted it-how do I know? I was at the party where it was served (old named scraped off and applied new) I was hurt and so angry when I got home I even cried. I hope that you feel better today.
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